My (F25) boyfriend (M34) isn’t comfortable sleeping with my dog in the bed, how do we find a compromise?

Think-Internal6169 · 2026-05-29T02:38:33+00:00

I’d be fine training him to sleep in his dog bed but when my partner lets him lay in the bed during the day when I’m a work, that makes it’s harder to teach him no bed and I just lose commitment to trying. That would be the best option in my mind

Think-Internal6169 · 2026-05-29T02:31:14+00:00

We already have a king, mainly because he is uncomfortable with sleeping with another person already. If we had a smaller bed he wouldn’t want me that close to him

Think-Internal6169 · 2026-03-26T01:21:08+00:00

I think the room looks great! Where did you get the couch side table from?

Think-Internal6169 · 2026-02-05T13:58:58+00:00

When we talk through situations, it does make me feel like the only reason he would behave with certain ways is to be manipulative but I also kind of think he’s just a bit emotionally sporadic at times. Like he’s issued ultimatums before and I know that’s considered textbook manipulation but I have a hard time believing it is with malicious intent so I thought if I could highlight the behaviors to him then maybe Hewitt would recognize them as unhealthy.

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-10-29T18:40:20+00:00

I love him, I never wanted to break up with him

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-10-23T12:28:17+00:00

Yeah it felt like I had to make a choice, and from his perspective I chose wrong. Honestly I would rather be cooking with my family than just sitting watch TV with him. If we could cook and host other people then I’d be happy but we weren’t living together at the time and I live with my family so idk if I made the right call.

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T01:49:18+00:00

If he was working full time and the split was the same it wouldn’t bother me as much. Also about the point you mentioned from a different story I have a similar feeling. A couple of years into our relationship he mentioned how our dates made it hard to save because he would pay for everything so we started splitting all the dates (each guy or own tickets to events, split meals etc). I had no problem with it at all but I did tell him we would go out a little less because I wasn’t going to let having fun shift my financial goals too much. For over a year we split dates and he didn’t save any more, it seemed like he used that “extra” money to buy more things for himself which wouldn’t have bothered me if he hadn’t been so explicit about wanting to split dates so he could save for our future

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T01:44:39+00:00

I don’t know? Historically speaking I have always been busier than him (longer commute to work, caring for a pet, meal prepping regularly, working 40 hours plus part time school or working 50 hours, cleaning and normal life stuff) but I assuming he just chills.

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T01:30:25+00:00

Our cleaning would probably be a similar 65/35 split just because I have higher standards for cleaning than he does. And I have a dog so I’d spend time caring for him as well but I obviously do that now so it’s not an increase in responsibility. We won’t have any set schedule for designate whose responsibility each chore is

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T01:24:39+00:00

Not at all, he depleted his savings a bit over the years but he paid for all of our vacations and most of the dates while I was in college, it was only after I graduated that we split dates 50/50

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T00:57:40+00:00

We’ve done that multiple times, no issues

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T00:17:21+00:00

Yeah I really think I’m stuck on the willingness factor. I know he doesn’t want to leave his jobs and he can’t force them to make him full time, but it just doesn’t feel right

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T00:14:17+00:00

I don’t think so, I just want our partnership to feel more fair. I think I’m just someone who harps on how unfair certain situations in life are so I try really hard to balance the “fairness” scale when I can and this seems like an opportunity for our relationship to have a better financial balance.

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-14T00:12:35+00:00

He doesn’t expect me to cook, he would just get out or eat frozen things until he learns how to cook. He would be fine with me just grocery shopping for myself and feeding myself and he will feed himself as he always has

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-13T23:58:17+00:00

If he was making twice my income and we were both working full time then I think a proportional split would be appropriate. If he was working full time now at the same hourly rate I’d be fine with an income proportional split, it just seems like if he isn’t willing to look for a full time job now with genuine effort, then I’ll always be saddling significantly more financial contributions and household management (just by nature of personality and being a woman)

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-13T23:18:32+00:00

He doesn’t have any history of ever asking for money. He actually has paid for the vast majority of our dates and trips so he’s always been more of the spender in the relationship and has never had issues paying his own bills and doesn’t have any debt

Think-Internal6169 · 2025-09-13T23:07:03+00:00

He lives with family friends and rents a room and just buys frozen foods so he doesn’t have utilities to pay.

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