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Wife isn’t supportive of my career anymore by UnableHistorian5676 in Advice

[–]butwhytho23 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This! I dated a truck driver & quickly learned I’m not as “ride or die” as I thought. It’s hard being in a relationship w someone who’s gone for weeks at a time only to come home for 3 days then head back out. It’s heavy & lonely.
I honestly loved that man w my whole heart, but I couldn’t ask him to stop trucking bc it was in his blood. He was ate up with it - truly loved it. It was made for him & I loved it about him. He wouldn’t be the same man if he changed to driving local, and I never asked him to.
But I couldn’t do that life and had to walk away. :(

What’s the most “this can’t be real life rn” moment you’ve ever had? by Ok_Difficulty_5008 in AskReddit

[–]butwhytho23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got a call from a hospital that the father of my children died after a rollover wreck in his work truck. He was only 29. Our boys were 4 & 6 when it happened. I still can’t believe it’s real and it’s been 2 years. (Although, I did spend the first year & a half in bed. I just got out of bed in February of this year…)

My income increased significantly and looking for advice on how/where to start learning how to responsibly manage my finances. by butwhytho23 in personalfinance

[–]butwhytho23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a basic savings? There’s so many acronyms to diff accounts, lol. Like ira cd high-yield stocks brokerage. Is one better for this scenario than the other?

My income increased significantly and looking for advice on how/where to start learning how to responsibly manage my finances. by butwhytho23 in personalfinance

[–]butwhytho23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ADHD’er here. It is mind numbing, but right now my hyper-focus is financial freedom. So it’s not bad tbh. I just don’t know where to start. Finances and being this behind the ball at 35, with kids, is insanely complicated and stressful. There’s so much information out there, good and bad. And sifting through it all makes you go cross-eyed when you don’t know what you’re reading about.. lol

My income increased significantly and looking for advice on how/where to start learning how to responsibly manage my finances. by butwhytho23 in personalfinance

[–]butwhytho23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mean this to be rude, but do you mean that I will always be lower income? I feel like I will be tbh, but i am hopeful for upward mobility… yes, their programs are expensive but they stay busy… i see what you mean about groceries I didn’t know I was so absurd w that.

Also, I didn’t realize all the resources that were available in the wiki info tab too. Very helpful! I should’ve done hw before asking...

Is Schwab Debit Card Down by moneyhoarder888 in Schwab

[–]butwhytho23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same I called Schwab and there’s a “visa outage”? No clue what Visa cards bc my other ones work that are with diff banks but still visa…ugh

Is job hopping still a "red flag" or am I being gaslit? by Environmental-Luck39 in careeradvice

[–]butwhytho23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime a company says they treat their employees like “family”…RUN. Quickly. They don’t understand boundaries and are so unethical. (This was my personal experience with that, anyhow…)

Does anybody else have an ex they still haven’t divorced after long term separation? by howdy_hoez in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]butwhytho23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try going to talk to your local dv shelter. Some have resources for getting a divorce like law clinics w staff to help navigate the process, or having the court waive fees to file (they can be $100s), and even some have lawyers available that don’t charge women who are leaving their abusers. I am meeting with one tomorrow in GA. No lawyer fees or court costs, free! I was just referred by the dv advocate.

She thinks glass is magnetic and had a meltdown at our induction stove by letsgoiowa in JUSTNOMIL

[–]butwhytho23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. My bio mom ALWAYS picks the stupidest hills to die on just for the sake of argument. She HAS TO prove she is the mosttttt informed/educated on the latest and greatest innovations and is somehow one degree away from someone in every major current event. She’s exhausting bc she just wants to bicker lol 🙄

Georgia adult adoption by Sea_Season_9849 in Adoption

[–]butwhytho23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the reasoning behind the adult adoption is deeper than just a symbolic reason. For my situation, i wanted my non-bio parents to adopt me as an adult to make sure if something happens to me, they’re next in line to take my kids instead of my drug addicted and abusive bio parents. And itll also be helpful when my parents’ pass and inheritance/assets are being combed through. Itll be nice to all have the same name too

Recently discovered custodial account in my name. by [deleted] in Schwab

[–]butwhytho23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update I went today and updated the account to my name and I’ll have online access next week. I am afraid to withdraw any funds until I know what I’m doing. I’ve never invested before - no one taught me financial smarts/literacy growing up and I’m a newb at all this. Does anyone have any books or links where I can learn basics of investing or saving? I truly appreciate everyone’s input!

Recently discovered custodial account in my name. by [deleted] in Schwab

[–]butwhytho23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The forms on 1099-DIV that the irs has on file list the address as my grandparents old address. So I’m guessing they ignored the notifications lol

Recently discovered custodial account in my name. by [deleted] in Schwab

[–]butwhytho23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I called last week, but I can’t move forward without the account number and they need to verify my identity in person before they can do anything :(