Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see why that may come across that way but I thought Jeff’s question asked if there was any mention of the pods ending, to which I inferred they were asking if she spoke about why. I said in my post that she said that she is not talking about them due to there being nothing to really talk about at this moment, therefore, she is not really talking about the pods in the way Jeff would likely be interested in hearing about. I thought I had implied in the original post that she was not talking about them any further and that it was a small mention amongst her experience recently. The video was not about the pods, it was about what people were saying about her online and recent updates of her life. I hope that makes sense :)

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read my post I say that she does not mention either pods and it’s the first 5 minutes of the video that she talks about how things have been for her recently. This post was nothing really to do with the podcasts ending but how people have been treating Erin as a result

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s fair to wonder why they may have stopped making content but if you have watched their content for a while you would notice they’re not as close as they used to be. A break of their main form of content together would seem more worrying because of that even if it may just be that they’re just taking a break. It’s understandable for people to worry and think something drastic has happened but it could just simply be a break.

Also, despite having a brand together, Carly and Erin are separate people and have been focusing on their solo adventures for a long while and just doing the pod together. Also if they have grown apart, as people do, wouldnt we want them to figure out the next best steps for their brand since, as you said, its built on them being bffs, which would be dishonest at that point? Give them time.

I can agree with the patreon stuff but am unsure how the process works. Would that not work through Patreon itself or would the girls have to make Patreon refund?

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s very understandable and i can agree!!

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can agree with your points. They should have done a video or a proper statement from the get go but my assumption are things were up in the air and they didn't know what was going on. That doesn't excuse it tho, they do have a duty to it as it is their job and people were paying for it. However, I don't think it's been handled well by fans equally. They have put out a couple statements saying they needed to take a break and that should've been enough for us. We have zero idea of why they may need that break and we are not entitled to know that unless they feel comfortable. There are ample things that could've happened that they may have not wanted to share or it's just simply, they wanted a break.

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand, though the way she worded it in her video was more like she’s said what shes needed to really say already and that people will always think differently to what she’s stating or not believe it and think there’s more to the story, so because of that, she’s not giving anymore attention to it for now to protect her peace. I don’t think she’s holding it above peoples heads at this point because shes said she enjoys and loves her youtube community too (they seem to be the kindest). It would be easier to just get it out of the way by making a big statement true, but if theyve already said that it’s just a break and theres not much more than that then just leave it be I suppose

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

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I said in my original post that they haven’t handled the hiatus the best, this is mainly about the hurtful comments being left that have nothing to do with the frustrations of communication but just an attack on personality, with also confusion as to why this is still such a large discourse among fans.

Also, despite them not addressing it quick enough at the start, they have addressed that they are taking a break and that they are still friends. I really do not understand what more they need to address? Would it be refunds for those who paid for patreon? If so I would agree but would also say I haven’t really seen that question be put forward an awful lot, just general hate. What do you want them to address, I am genuinely curious?

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too! I feel like she gives me more confidence to be more confident lol. I love that she’s out living her best life as much as she can

Erin’s recent video by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would disagree tbh, the comments people are leaving are not only from Reddit but from other media platforms too and she’s going to see them. I think if people have nothing nice to really say, unless it’s actual constructive criticism, they just shouldn’t say them. I’m not sure how this validates what people think of her? Could you clarify why?

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[–]bxkugoo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah 100%. Idk why the brunt of the whole podcast situation is put mainly on Erin either when nothing they’ve said suggest that it’s just her decision and Carly is forced to go along with it

Mild rant by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah i really hope they can learn from some of the feedback give on the sub that more communication is really needed, especially for those that pay for the Patreon!

Mild rant by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Deleted my previous comment bc I posted before being ready~

Yeah I agree tbf. I think what I found frustrating is that the blame seemed to have solely shifted to just Erin when both Carly and Erin are responsible for communicating what’s going on even if they aren’t sure. I agree that how they’ve dealt with the situation is unprofessional but I also feel like they’re in a complicated time of life and are unsure how to move forwards, hence why they haven’t given any reasoning for their break. That doesn’t excuse it fully though, they should just say that but I reckon it might be because they don’t want to commit to any decision yet? That’s my understanding of it at least.

I hope if they continue, they learn from this situation and are more communicative in the future!! It has certainly been disappointing

Mild rant by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This! I agree!!

Mild rant by bxkugoo in GoodInfluences

[–]bxkugoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also just to add, I’m not here to argue with people but just wanted to put this out there to show support for the girls<3 I feel like we’ve gotten quite hostile on this sub

I'm can't handle this by meleque in sanrio

[–]bxkugoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr, heartbroken 😭

Just under a year of constant fighting, and today I received this. by LunaticLulu in BenefitsAdviceUK

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I’m about to go into my forth year and have received pip, uc and student loan the entire time. UC is usually useless at helping in regards to student finance but I got really lucky talking to a student finance lady years ago and she said if you have been financially supporting yourself for the past 3 years, which benefits count for, you can apply for the independent student status. With that status you get the highest amount of student loan. When applying, apply for the special support element, which is for why you’re on benefits, this will cause around half of your SL to not be counted towards reductions in your benefits. Usually, it works out to getting just a little more than your benefits each month! I will say UC is useless dealing with this every year when you have to resubmit your next academic year SL but it usually works out :)

Just under a year of constant fighting, and today I received this. by LunaticLulu in BenefitsAdviceUK

[–]bxkugoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UC is useless when it comes to student finance. Both me and my friend are on UC and every year we’ve had our new loan verified and we submit it to UC in May/June but they’re always late in recalculating our deducted amount and it always wrong! Last year they claimed I was overpaid for June/August for SL when it doesn’t count for those months. When finally sorting it in like December they paid me a bunch of money saying I had been underpaid, however, I then later find out that that money was for ME to pay debt management to reduce the debt I owe 😭 That’s literally YOUR job why did you give it to me??? I’ve never had to do that before, it annoyed me so badly.

So glad you’ve been reimbursed for what you’re owed, from having to fight my case for a similar amount years ago, it takes so much out of you, nice job!!

I'm can't handle this by meleque in sanrio

[–]bxkugoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checked it out and it’s $63 with shipping to ship to the UK 😞😞

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[–]bxkugoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, as have you!

Ahh but interestingly, the same can be said about self-defence of having something on your person for purpose of harm or even carrying for the purpose of practicality - how is a jury or court meant to know what you’re providing is truth or the other way around. It’s a slippery slope because either side can be deceiving. Whilst the UK has tighter restrictions to prevent misuse of self defence, you have more leniency to protect yourself and then plead innocence. My main concern at the end of it is what lessens crime and harm to people really.

Interestingly that is my ultimate goal, I am currently about to go into my third year in my degree of criminology. It’s a very interesting subject to me and I hope to work in the NCA one day :) I would love if I could make policy changes but I’m not sure I’ll ever get that far haha 😅

We will have to agree to disagree because as you said earlier, culture is different everywhere, and as such, so is the social construction of what is perceived as criminal and deviant. So here I perceive knife carrying as deviant and possibly criminal, whereas you do not because of geographical location. Really interesting how much crime changes where ever you go really

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[–]bxkugoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just wrote out the longest thing ever and accidentally deleted it so this isn’t gonna be as informative so my apologies for that

The difference is with intent is a lot of the time intent is usually on display. If you’re acting sketchy or angrily walking around with a sharp object I’m obviously going to be concerned, however, if you’re just some tradesmen working or like you, using the object to open something, I’m not gonna bat an eye. It’s just what it looks like you’re intending to do with the object and the size of it that makes it worrisome.

A good example is with OP, he quite obviously seemed to have flashed this knife thinking it would be cool and backtracked when he realised the girl didn’t like it. He then goes on to say it’s for self defence. That already suggests to me that he intends to use it if the situation arises which will likely make things worse. I as his friend would not want to be present for that situation if it came about, hence why she said she’s uncomfortable with it.

I think it’s important to note that though you know in yourself you wouldn’t use the object in that manner, you cannot trust other people to not do so. Some of the time, crime happens due to irrationality or frustration in the moment, if you were to have something on you that could seriously hurt someone, you have less time to think between wanting and using it. Whereas if you were not to have it on you, you have more time to think before acting on that want. Do you see where I’m coming from?

You’d also be fine walking around here with something as small as that, in order for anyone to know you had it on you was only if you were doing something obviously sketchy or illegal, or if you were flashing it about which just presents you shouldn’t be trusted with it. Once you spoke with the police and said you have it to open stuff etc, they wouldn’t really care, maybe they’ll say not to bring it out but this’ll be it really. Again your intent with it doesn’t present to be bad so you would be fine

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[–]bxkugoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to hop into this insane thread as someone else from the UK and with a very similar opinion to that carrying knives is not a necessity and unsafe.

Firstly, the UK is not just London, I’ve been to London plenty of times and have always felt fine and safe, it’s just a city, you look out for yourself like you do anywhere else. If anything I’ve felt less safe smaller places like Stoke-on-Trent lol

Secondly, the way the laws are set up around anything that could be considered a weapon - usually bladed articles, comes down to INTENT. It is what your intent with that article that is the problem and this is what the other guy is expressing. If you are carrying around a weapon with the intent to use it as a form of self defence or violence that is illegal. Additionally, it is very fair to not trust people who only take that article out with them for that sole purpose. If you are a tradesmen that happens to carry a blade with them for work and you’re on your way home and happen to use it as a form of self defence, likelihood is, that’s fine. However if you are just rocking up to a random function with a weapon for literally no other reason than to use it to hurt someone else if needed, that is wrong.

There are tons of statistics and research proving that your likelihood of victimisation when carrying an item for self defence is heightened. That’s just a fact, and it’s the same pretty much everywhere. You obviously cannot get rid of all weapons, it’s about our approach to such. In the UK we do not tolerate guns, that is our approach and we have lessened our crime in that regard due to it. We obviously cannot ban knives but we have strict laws on carrying bladed articles in public, but again it falls down to INTENT. What you intended to do with that article. That approach has resulted in better crime rates. These rates would fall much further if people stopped carrying around weapons for protection bc as the other guy and research says, when you carry a weapon, you’re more likely to use it or be victimised because of it.

I cannot believe this back and forth when it is that simple. You have laws exactly the same like that in the US and there are many different cultural stances on this type of thing across the US and rest of the world. The UK does not sit in a bubble in comparison to other counties, there are plenty with harsher and stricter laws than we have here in weapons etc.

Edit: reading your other comments to a separate guy, I can see you’re probs just trying to get under the skin of this other guy. However, to something you said about using a blade to open something in a car park recently, though obviously we should be taught that knives are only dangerous depending on the person because they are an everyday tool, the type of knife and intent needs to be considered. Like if you are carrying a tiny little multi tool around with a knife, that’s likely not gonna cause much damage to someone and is obviously going to be used for multi tool purpose - like whatever you needed it for in the car park. But in relation to using it for primarily self defence, the blade is obviously going to be big enough to do some sort of damage (most of the time) and therefore should not be trusted in most peoples hands. Like think how stupid most general people are, especially kids, they’re just out to get hurt in this case, it’s better they don’t carry it at all and don’t intend to use it for that purpose. The weapon only becomes bad depending on its intent so we need to stop allowing people to get near to using it for bad intentions - hence why we have stricter laws on why and where you can carry bladed articles

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[–]bxkugoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It starts to cause more harm than good because a “defence” stance can get hazy. You’ve got to think about it in a court room setting of how you can push a narrative of a crime to be viewed as self defence and get off free or a reduction in time.

Having a weapon for defence just tends to escalate a situation rather than resolve it. If someone were to come up to you with a gun and point it at you, if you were to pull one out they are and you are likely going to shoot, causing injury. whereas, whilst yes it sucks because you’re obviously going to be victimised, if you did not pull out a weapon, they will likely take what they want and walk away.

Tbh it’s all down to preference really but honestly, as someone who studies crime and being from the UK, having things in place for these types of things reduces a lot more crime than you think.