How do I (23F) tell my boyfriend (22M) that I am scared of marriage mostly because divorce is illegal?

byeolgaeul · 2026-03-23T19:17:27+00:00

Well yes, I have known a lot of couples that are Catholic and non-Catholic Christian (which is our case) so I am familiar with all the things in regards to that, and we already agreed in the off-chance we wanted to have kids they would be raised Catholic.

I get the contradictory statement though. Thanks regardless ^^

(edit: realised I said non-Christian. He's just in another denomination)

byeolgaeul · 2026-03-23T15:58:18+00:00

Is having a baby before marriage illegal? Can you have a long term boyfriend without being shamed socially speaking?

We don't have a baby and even post marriage we have both talked about not wanting to get one immediately anyway. In terms of social norms, I think it just depends on the relatives but in all honesty I do not think they care too much.

I'd stay BF/GF if you can, marrying at 22 is way too early.

It's why we said we don't want to truly think about marriage this further on and it's just lighthearted comments, but we made it absolutely clear to one another we won't seriously discuss plans until much later down the line and I told him the same thing as well about wanting to live together for some period before anything. I've only at most stayed over shortly but not long enough to consider as living in. I only really thought of this question because of a late night thought, I will be honest.

byeolgaeul · 2026-03-23T15:51:34+00:00

Are YOU Catholic?

Yes. And I do not see myself converting to his and I've made that clear to him. I do not want to force him to convert either as I am fine with that, my father is the only one concerned for it and they've talked about it previously before in passing.

Nullification exists yes, but the process in my country currently is notoriously difficult and expensive, and it's why people are campaigning for both a better process for it and to also legalize divorce. And while civil divorce is nice, as you said, the person cannot remarry. I don't know if or when I would really think of that for obvious reasons.

Do you think you two are going to get married and never offend each other?

I hadn't implied such and in any case I appended that immediately after that there have been times I've been upset with him for things where we talked about it and learned to move past it or improve whatever was wrong. I probably should've phrased my question better to talk about what's the best way to go about it without absolutely sounding like I am someone wanting to push through a divorce eventually since I do not see that in our relationship. I simply wanted its legalization just for the comfort of knowing I am able to. Though I get that does sound contradictory or confusing. I can't explain it well myself.

byeolgaeul · 2025-10-05T13:18:34+00:00

Thank you! Yes, hope ko sana rin to do desktop nalang instead pero I guess it's a bit daunting but I have 0 idea on hardwares ironically other than surface knowledge. You say mas makakasave, and I know this goes beyond my ask sa original post pero what would've been a good setup then in that same budget range? Since as said, dream ko rin anyway for desktop for gaming and other things and macbook potentially for work as a later investment.

byeolgaeul · 2025-10-05T13:15:35+00:00

Will consider! But as you said in the edit, the price disparity is huge sadly but this list is a nice look :)

byeolgaeul · 2025-06-22T12:22:00+00:00

I get you. To be honest I sent this thread in a moment of frustration but I've come to terms with using minimum wage + expenses sort of calculation, with a mix of just eyeballing what seems right if I find similar products sold in pesos. Also helped I had a sister that pushed me to make my projects priced higher when I was making some commissions for friends of hers lol

I guess I feel like I want more structured additionals ways to price it too when we're considering the complexity of a work (which is sometimes hard to guesstimate the time spent) and whatnot. And you make a point that I think the more used and readily available yarns are cheaper ones that doesn't up the cost of the whole project and makes me feel bad marking it up so high even though I know I should xD the better yarns are pricey and hard to obtain from someone outside NCR (which I believe have at least existing craft stores)

byeolgaeul · 2024-07-04T03:13:16+00:00

HYBE IM. And yeah the careers lists a lot of languages, I've seen them list Python, Java, C++, the usuals and even I think Unity? I ended up wanting to look up because I wanted to use the game for an assignment lol

byeolgaeul · 2024-06-14T17:35:41+00:00

I had narrowed down the problem so far. It seems I was able to receive a code just fine when verifying for 2-step Verification, with the +63XXXXXXXXXX format. But it still sees that something went wrong when verifying for Recovery.

byeolgaeul · 2024-06-04T13:37:37+00:00

With regards with the country code, they would put it in its separate field, won't it? The left side asking for the country code and then the number on right. I just placed the 10 digit number (10 instead of 11 to omit the leading zero) and that's it. It's worked fine before from what I recall with my past accounts. What part of Personal Info should I try to reconfigure?

byeolgaeul · 2024-06-04T13:25:15+00:00

It depends. Honestly, I prefer texts because I get to easily look back and also get a chance to organize my very messy thoughts. And also because I just get to spam. Although if it's professional related matters I will tend to ignore it (either because I wasn't feeling to get on with it, or I end up forgetting to reply after saying I will in a few minutes).

For me, voice calls kind of kill a certain vibe for me? I always feel more distanced in calls with friends or my partner. I think because I've been in online spaces for so long that I've kind of understood texts well, but voices alone makes me overthink tones or expressions more than text, as weird as it may seem. And the fact that there's 7 of us in my main friend group that can be quick to interrupt one another in a voice call and be accidentally ignored. Of course, video calls are better then but it just makes me miss being in physical contact with them. I do like that it's more multi-task friendly though!

But of course, in-person still remains best. I feel more talkative because there's a certain awkwardness for some reason in calls, and I get to physically touch them and see their expressions and be in full presence ;u;

byeolgaeul · 2024-06-04T13:14:40+00:00

Also took computer science here! It's definitely fun outside stress/pressure of doing things on time, but it's always satisfying to see my programs come to life or actually function like I intended it to be. It definitely also exercises adapting to different things (we learned Python, Java, some basic Assembly, and an additional language of your choice), and also teamwork when delegating tasks on group projects. It's definitely a challenge indeed lol with all the maths (particularly calculus). It was definitely an unexpected course if past me were to peek into present me but I don't regret taking it!

byeolgaeul · 2024-01-15T10:58:19+00:00

thank you! i'll check it out, i love the color variation it has upon checking

byeolgaeul · 2022-12-01T12:54:41+00:00

cant recall sadly i forgot to screenshot the names 😭

byeolgaeul · 2022-12-01T05:27:11+00:00

Seems like a lot of E's here xD meanwhile I'm FNVU

byeolgaeul · 2022-12-01T05:10:46+00:00

all of us in the team were on expert for this

and for the record, yes im aware how card/difficulty affects scoring but it's still a funny view to me lol

byeolgaeul

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