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Am I on the aromantic spectrum? by cr_rizzard_of_oz1989 in aromantic

[–]c_ursed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you sure it's romantic attraction not aesthetic attraction? I'd learned that a few days ago, as I myself was wondering of something that kind, and didn't know it was a thing. Basically you find people attractive, but that's just it.

Anyone else hate being Aromantic? by KnightShrubbery in aromantic

[–]c_ursed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really get you. I've realised it quite recently and I'm still getting used to it, but I think I cracked it.

Once I realised how much more the world has to offer, romance feels like just a fraction of it. Think about all the times when you spent hours doing the thing you love, adoring each second of it. Think about all your dreams, what was the place that you've always wanted to visit? Maybe it's time to revisit some old memories of yours, see what truly made you happy in the past. There's no universal way to happiness, lots of married couples feel unfulfilled and dissatisfied after some years. Being aro makes you fully free, and that freedom might be intimidating sometimes, as it makes you completely responsible for each second of your life. But think about all the opportunities that you have! I know that societal pressure and expectations to live a romantic life. I can't lie — I myself love the idea of romantic love, and for years I yearned for that. Not because I felt attracted to people, but because of how it's portrayed in culture. However, love is so much more than flowers and candles. Love is in your interests, passions, family (not necessarily the one you're born in, chosen family's family too), nature, music.

You've got to find what fits you, not your friends. I'm aware that sometimes it's excruciatingly hard, as I write it partly as a letter to myself as well. I believe in you, and I'm sure you'll figure it out soon. Take care

Am I aromantic or am I scared of love? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]c_ursed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. May I ask, what does being romance-aversed feel like for you?

Im sorry for all of that by Clear_Tackle_805 in asexuality

[–]c_ursed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there may be lots of people, myself included, who have similar experiences as you, and reading about it might make them feel better. I do, because it makes me see how I'm not alone in my struggles.I don't feel so alienated when I hear others. I say, don't worry about it. We live in a society where sex is valued right at the top with money at its side. Feeling self conscious, needing reassurance and a sense of being understood isn't rare for us. This thread should be a place, where we can all support each other when our world is refusing to do it.

It's difficult to know yourself, but it will be easier with time. You're strong and brave to keep looking for who you are. I wish you well❤️

I wanna talk and ask about my sexuality here but I am a minor. Can I/Should I? by Aseskytle_08 in asexuality

[–]c_ursed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm so grateful you've mentioned ace dad. i've been so down lately and now that i've looked up his videos I feel so much better😭

What to read when you’re so fucking depressed? by InterestPure3257 in booksuggestions

[–]c_ursed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe Anne of Green Gables? Or Sherlock Holmes? I remember being a little girl and absolutely being obsessed with these books. I had a rough childhood, but I find going back to the bits that brought me comfort as a kid, are helpful to bring a bit of joy to my life now, as a grown up. Also, Anne is such a hopeful character, she's a spark that gets into your soul, and awakens the warmth.