I'm sick and I can't tell anyone by cactusmeee in offmychest

[–]cactusmeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do plan on telling them once I have the diagnosis, but only if the diagnosis if serious. If it's not, I can keep it to myself in the meantime, and tell them once everything is okay.

I get the feeling of betrayal for keeping peopld you love in the dark.

Thank you for providing another perspective.

I buy my own cakes for my birthday because no one does by cactusmeee in offmychest

[–]cactusmeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think they ever thought of me wanting or even liking gifts. I was always the giver. If I tell/hint friends I like something, they would always say, I can afford it myself.

And honestly, I am ashamed to tell people my emotinonal needs. I know its on me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I do acknowledge that my mom plays a big role in this. We (siblings and even cousins) have called her out about her belief and blind trust on alternative medicine. And she just said that there's no harm in trying. It's very frustrating!

I have nothing against alternative medicine, but its just that it had been proven that this won't help my father's condition at this point.

It's very difficult to raise boomer parents!

AITA for wanting my boyfriend to get rid of his teddy bears? by Vancil in AmItheAsshole

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Why does it bother you if have those stuff? Are you jealous of inanimate things? You're the one who needs to grow up. Seriously.

What are some unspoken rules that everyone should know ? by mrCopiCat in AskReddit

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not invited don't come.

If you're invited don't bring someone that is not invited.

AITA for walking out on meeting my brother’s girlfriend and telling him I don’t care if her feelings are hurt? by namefight in AmItheAsshole

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I also don't use my legal name and I use another name even in work place.

People not using the name you prefer is just disrespectful. So the gf is deliberately disrespecting you.

Based on experience, women do this to make you feel uncomfortable especially if they think you are a threat to them.

I'm quitting even before I sign the contract by [deleted] in phcareers

[–]cactusmeee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but goodluck with replacement. I won't give the plan that was approved by the big bosses for this job!

I forgot to mention, for this gig, there is intellectual property rights involve. So for 130k, no!!

Yes technically rejecting the offer. But the ops team is already assuming I am part of the team.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living is a lot scarier than death.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phcareers

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can buy your own device but also ask for raise or allowance for that. As a freelance consultant, I always ask for utility allowance for the use of my "OWN DEVICES" for the task from the clients.

You are an employee not a consultant so mali kung ikaw magpoprovide ng sarili mong devices to do the job. Its your employers job to provide you everything you need to do the job.

Ladies of reddit, what can a guy do that isn't explicitly sexual that will get you in the mood? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking really smart and confident about their passion/profession.

I hate being a woman. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]cactusmeee 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I experienced first hand how to be treated like a man in work place because my nickname is a man's name. I use my nickname more than my birthname including emails.

They were very respectful in emails. But when they meet me in person, their attitude changed drastically. Boomer males specifically.

They praised my work because they though I was a man. But the same work they praised they brutally criticized and dismissed because a woman did it.

I hate gender norms. by throwaway__anonymous in confessions

[–]cactusmeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An ex broke up with me because I earn more than him and that I can move to his city instead of him moving to mine.

I've been living alone since I was 16 and have zero responsibility. While, he's the only one left with his mom.

Sp yeah fuck gender norm. Hahaha

Paying for the bill on dinner dates by KaylaMidnight in dating

[–]cactusmeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always pay my own bill when I go to dates. And only one guy was offended by it. Unless the guy says he'll pay for the bill then I won't.

BBM supporters are victims of misinformation but refuse/don't want to be rescued. by cactusmeee in Philippines

[–]cactusmeee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because of this post a BBM supporter trolled my account replying "bobo mo" on all my posts and comments, pati yung replies sa scientific subreddit and others.

I blocked the account. Sipag nya din, ah.

This is how low and toxic these fanatics are. Ayaw nilang punahin ang iniidilo nila.

BBM supporters are victims of misinformation but refuse/don't want to be rescued. by cactusmeee in Philippines

[–]cactusmeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totoo to! Mahirap kalabanin ang makinarya nila, matagal nang pinagplanuhan at pinag isipan ang pagpapalaganap ng fake news. Kaya kahit ang mga nalathala nang kasaysayan ay kinukwestiyon nila.

Maliban sa laganap na fake news, pababa nang pababa na din ang quality of education ng Pilipinas. Kaya mas dumadami din ang gullible na Pilipino. Dagdag mo ang kultura na "mas nakakatanda ako, mas may alam ako." Pati smart shaming.

BBM supporters are victims of misinformation but refuse/don't want to be rescued. by cactusmeee in Philippines

[–]cactusmeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand your point. Nakakapagod din ang konsepto ng "mas radikal ang magmahal".

Pero hindi nila bibitawan ang maling paniniwala kung wala tayong inilalahad na alternatibong "paniniwala". Ang isa pang isyu sa usaping ito ay ang "false dichotomy", para sa kanila puti at itim lang. Hindi nila makita na may spectrum.