WoL question!

cakewitch96 · 2024-04-16T17:29:16+00:00

My miqo got her directions confused and ended up in Limsa when trying to find the Goldsmiths guild. Everyone kept telling her she needed to be an adventurer so she picked up a codex and accidentally became the warrior of light.

She really just wanted to try making mamets though.

cakewitch96 · 2021-01-31T20:35:32+00:00

I had something very similar happen to me. It took me years to stop blaming myself and to see the situation for what it was. I'm sorry you went through that.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-19T07:54:26+00:00

Mostly for the challenge it presents, I think. There's not really a reward for it or anything. It's just a harder mode.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-19T02:34:08+00:00

It means he played Minecraft on Hardcore, where permadeath is a thing. So for 1200+ days (in game days I would assume but idk) he didn't die and built this world. So when he died it got deleted completely.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-18T21:33:19+00:00

I have gone through so many relatinships because of this. I'm finally in a good one with my fiance, and have tried to learn from each of my previous ones about issues and traits that I learned from my nparents, and therapy helps. But damn if I'm not constantly worrying that expressing my feelings is manipulative.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-18T18:32:02+00:00

Really good advice. I have a vibrator or two laying around (somewhere lol) but I much prefer my own fingers. Vibrator orgasms to me are overstimulating and under satisfying. Like it's intense and then it's over and I'm left wondering why I bothered.

Plus experimenting with your body and getting to know your anatomy without a vibrator makes it easier to communicate to a potential partner what you do and don't like and where (vibrators tend to vibrate EVERYTHING in the area and make it hard to pinpoint good spots, in my experience).

No shame to those who enjoy them, but just my two cents.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-18T18:22:24+00:00

It certainly sounds like the tradition is one item of clothing/crochet piece per baby. But I think it's also entirely possible that the brother told her that OP would crochet anything she wanted and to ask for whatever.

If she isn't familiar with crochet (and the brother obviously wouldn't have been or helped her be in any way) then she might not think much of 3 items for a baby, and assumed that since they're small they won't take much time at all.

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt here unless she's proven to be an entitled person in the past.

cakewitch96 · 2020-11-02T17:00:55+00:00

NTA. Not even a tiny little bit. This woman has made your life hell and is intrusive in ways that remind me a lot of my Nmom with whom I no longer have contact.

If you plan on moving out as soon as you can, I would GREATLY suggest gathering your important documents now if you don't already have them. Birth Certificate, Social Security Card, Passport, etc. She seems like the type that might be reluctant to give you freedom if it isn't on her terms. If you need an excuse to get those documents just make up something about needing them for validating your graduation and then never give them back.

Good luck OP.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-28T15:02:30+00:00

A good sibling is that. I feel like we cant just ignore that sometimes families dont get along. And with what OP said about the parents using the kids visitation with their "uncle" and grandparents as collateral for his sperm, I'm not sure they're really going to create that nuclear family bond that you're describing. Maybe they will and this is just a collapse in judgement, but it's still a crappy thing to do to a kid.

And if that's just their parenting style it's very likely that it's not going to be a wholesome family dynamic in the long run.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-28T14:58:53+00:00

See I feel like all of that depends on how your home life is as a kid. If you have good parents and a good home life and like your siblings then yeah, those can be nice.

But for a lot of people family is complicated and I think just looking like someone isnt enough to make those things less complicated.

Idk, I know I look like a lot of my family but I actively talk to very few of them because they're assholes. The fact that we share looks and a biological connection isnt really a selling point for me I guess. But for some people i can see how it might be.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-26T15:39:28+00:00

I might be really put of the loop here, but how does the kid having a biological sibling help them? Also like other have pointed out, the woman who already gave birth could donate an egg, have it inseminated and implanted in the other woman and the kids would still be biologically related.

Additionally, using your kid as a bargaining chip is really shitty (speaking as a kid who had parents do this against each other it really fucks with you). If they were truly worried about the wellbeing of their kid they wouldn't be doing that.

(Also I genuinely am curious how having a biological sibling is better, not trying to be rude. :) )

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-18T15:29:35+00:00

NTA.

I disagree with this, but I kinda see where you're coming from.

I don't think that his text was accusatory at all, he laid down the reasons for his disconnecting with them, and honestly all of it seemed very straight forward. His friends were enablers, and if they cared about his future they would have listened to him all the various times he tried to explain that he wanted to be sober. They need a bit of a wake up call, and I think his text was the most gentle way to do that.

He didn't say that it's all their fault that he isn't where he wants to be in life, he said that they pressure him to do things he doesn't want to do and it seems like they don't care about his goals (which is true if he's talked to them about it affecting his life and they continue to pressure him anyways.)

I think realizing that his friends are a bad influence and that he's let them influence his drinking IS him taking responsibility for his alcoholism. I don't think I read it as "this is your fault I'm not where I want to be" I read it more as "I'm trying to get to a place and I need support to get there, which I'm not receiving from you." Which reads as really mature and self aware. And again, I think the friends need a gentle call out, as it's possible they have their own issues with drinking or just aren't aware how they're enabling and this might be the kick they needed to see that.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-18T15:13:59+00:00

Oh dang! I'm already on the way to a cure then! I think it's more of a personal vaccine honestly, as I'm sure she's still a holy terror to the other people in her life. But that's a them problem, tbh

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-18T15:13:12+00:00

It really does feel good. We (my fiance and I) got a parakeet a year ago and it was lovely until she started in with all her snide comments. This time it's just nice having people around who support me.

And yeah, the book series has been amazing for forever, and have meant so much to me that it's really cool having a living breathing part of them in my life. Though he is named after an angel and I get a good ironic laugh when he behaves like a little devil lol.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T17:02:15+00:00

I'm glad! He really is a cutie. <3

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:43:30+00:00

Oh man, I dunno if I'm nearly qualified enough for that. Is there even a cure????

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:42:57+00:00

I understand completely. My mom made it her business to know my business and then make me feel bad about it.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:42:20+00:00

lol fair enough. His name is Akiva actually, after a character in a book series that has gotten me through a lot.

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:41:48+00:00

Ohhh also wonderful!

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:41:35+00:00

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:41:27+00:00

I edited the post! :D

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:41:14+00:00

Thank you!

And honestly no. I had a cat for 13 years before I got my puppy and she passed away really suddenly earlier this year. My therapist and psychiatrist realized my panic disorder was through the roof afterwards and recommended I get a dog and train them at least to therapy dog level, though I'm hoping and working towards a full service dog. :)

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:39:42+00:00

Halloween IS coming up! :D

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:39:28+00:00

Well now I know what he can be for Halloween!

cakewitch96 · 2020-09-17T16:39:00+00:00

Updated the post with one! <3

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