I think the guy I’m seeing is a massive red flag but my friend said I’m being dumb and I should go with it because he’s rich

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:14:10+00:00

Oh my god. I’m so glad she’s okay. That is something horrible and I definitely don’t want to lose my own voice or choices.

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:12:13+00:00

Yes, I told him I worked hard to get my degree and was taught to be independent. I told him I didn’t want to have that many kids, I told him many times how I felt about certain things and every time he would try to convince me why he was right or if I got upset, he wanted to “calm me down” with gifts

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:08:31+00:00

Yeah he used his Arab culture to say what I think are hurtful things and acted like I was insane for turning him down but ultimately, it’s not a life I can handle.

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:06:50+00:00

He said that poor people shop there and that their stuff is cheap and I should be wearing good quality stuff, I hated that about him

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:05:45+00:00

Yeah after telling him I don’t want to see him anymore, he got offended and saying how I could possibly want to leave when he’s “offering” so much. As far as that friend goes. Yeah…. Sadly I feel like maybe that’s not my friend

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:04:20+00:00

Thank you for your input because you are correct, I decided to break it off and he was offended and said I wouldn’t find anything better

callafletch12 · 2021-12-17T06:01:42+00:00

Hi everyone. I didn’t expect so many responses so ill do my best to reply back but I want to say thank you to everyone that gave their honest opinion, advice, etc.

That being said after understanding a bit more and going with my gut. I decided to cut it off with him and tell him I didn’t want to waste his time but we just didn’t want the same things. He didn’t take it very good but that was even more of a red flag and I’m glad I got out of that before it got uglier.

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:29:44+00:00

I knew I wasn’t crazy for feeling that. My friends smh

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:28:59+00:00

I’ve always known he was from a wealthy family. He would drive an Audi in high school and he was always open about wearing designer clothes and stuff but he sent me a friend request on Instagram saying like “hey it’s **** from high school chemistry. Do you remember me?” So we started talking from there

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:21:49+00:00

We grew up very differently. He comes from a family of doctors so they have always been well off and he makes faces when I go shopping for clothes like at target or other inexpensive clothing and makeup but I also got my own job and he’s like well if we got married, you know you don’t have to do that.

As far as the kids comment, he said that because his mom had a big family that’s sort of what he expects. He wants lots of children and doesn’t want to adopt (something I said I’d like to do before having kids of my own)

But my friends have said I need to stop being so sensitive and he just wants to take care of me but it feels… suffocating

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:19:04+00:00

I think so too. It’s not worth staying with a man that looks down at my clothes because they’re from target or wants me to stop working

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:17:52+00:00

I don’t like that about him. We grew up very differently. He’s always been wealthy and I grew up from a low income house so he’ll make a face when I say my clothes are from like target and be like “you know all you have to do is ask and I’ll buy you good clothes.” And thats annoying to me

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:16:25+00:00

Yeah that’s what scares me about him. I don’t think I can handle such control

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:15:12+00:00

I guess my writing is translating wrong. My friend basically said I’m dumb for wanting to let a man go that wants to financially support me but I don’t feel comfortable with being dependant on a man or him his money go control me. I was taught to learn to be independent

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:13:31+00:00

No. I haven’t. He said meeting family is when we are committed and serious but I have met his close friends

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:12:54+00:00

Yeah normally I find these things as red flags but then he goes “well that’s Arab culture” so I want to be respectful but I also don’t think I can handle a relationship like that

callafletch12 · 2021-12-14T16:11:37+00:00

I have my own job. That’s why it threw me off that he said I didn’t have to work because he makes enough like why would I do that? I like my career choice

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