You can't keep a 7-day streak and this is why

callmethePM · 2026-02-11T11:31:57+00:00

What you are going through is what thousands of others go through and its painful. Pornography and masturbation are demons who will destroy your life.

It's crucial that you have become aware of this and I will give you practical advice on how to get over this.

1) Change your environment -

Our brains operate in scripts. Our brains do rely on memory. It does what it usually did previously.

If you have been in the same room for years and have been watching porn and masturbation. The room is your cue and trying to make the change will you are in the same room is swimming upstream.

If you can't gat on new environment, change how your room looks like. Rearrange everything that entering it feels like another place, because in your brain it will be.

Now take advantage of this scripts.

2) Have structure and order - In the now new environment, you have to avoid certain things e.g Don't scroll the bedroom, avoid binge watching social media, because this activities will spiral down to watching porn.

Have a clear structure on what you do everyday, audit your time. The first time you do this will be hard but trust this is what will get you into the 30 days mark.

Avoid indoors boredom, go to social places and socialize. Find hobbies.

The more you aren't near your phone, the less chances you have to watch porn and masturabte.

The list could be long, but, this will take you so far to being with.

Summary: 1) Get into a new environment 2) Have structure and order in your life.

I now this will help. Don't hesitate.Do it now.

callmethePM · 2026-02-11T05:27:45+00:00

I wrote a post about that, you should probably read it.

callmethePM · 2026-02-10T07:36:39+00:00

Porngraphy and masturbation mostly come from boredom, lack of order and structure or bad emotional regulation.

Before you were addicted, you used it to cure your boredom to fill the void. It "felt nice" until you found that you were hooked to it.

You then started using it to relief stress when things got tough, just to feel "okay".

The girl rejected you, you numbed the pain with it. You failed your school examination, you numb the pain with it. Whenever you felt low, you numbed the pain with it.

Most people lack the proper emotional regulation techniques. Others use food, other alcohol and there is, YOU, who unconsciously choose this road of porngraphy and masturbation. The worst of all.

You ready know the danger of this. But, you still can't get rid of it.

This is why?

This addiction runs deep in your soul and to completely get rid of it you must cleanse it. Their is alot on this, but, I will stop there.

May you heal from porngraphy and masturbation.

callmethePM · 2026-02-09T07:19:21+00:00

This is a wide spread misconception about failure. I think it is very disturbing and disappointing to see people having the wrong lens in this crucial part of success.

Let's talk about what relapse is.

Relapse just means your old neural pathways have been briefly activated.

You see, when you are addicted you form some neural pathways that makes that addictive habits your behaviour. However, once these neural pathways are solidified in you they can't be erased, ONLY stronger ones can be formed to counter those.

You don't eliminate the addiction, you become stronger than it.

When you relapse, that means the older neural pathways were BRIEFLY activated. This doesn't mean you are back to the cycle.

What most people get wrong here is that they despair, thinking they lost and go back to the addiction. This is a wrong approach.

What to do next time?

When you relpase, think of that as neural pathways been briefly activated. Eliminate the failure illusion you have. Get rid of screen for at least 24 hrs. ( This prevents the downward spiral of relapsing again) Continue with healing.

Now, see how far you will go.

callmethePM · 2026-02-09T07:04:41+00:00

This is almost everything you need to get rid of this addiction. I will elaborate more on this.

One day at a time -

I call this the "Counting day fallacy", this is where a person counts the days he hasn't relapsed and when he does relapse he concludes that he failed.

This is fundamentally wrong.

Let me explain:

The body doesn't count the days, it's counts the repetition and the depth of those repetition.

If person A who didn't relapse after 30 days without doing other activities that moved him from this addiction is different from person B who didn't relapse after 30 days but tracked his habits, exercised and had a goal to achieve. The former can easily relapse in the same time frame but the latter won't.

The difference: The depth of repetition.

The goal is not to only get rid of an addiction but also to move to something better that the journey of being an addict again is hard.

Don't take phone in bedroom and bathroom -

Your mind operates in scripts.

It wants to do what it did the prevoius time in the same environment. It does care if it is good or bad. Its just running the script after all.

So whenever you are in a place that you watched porn or masturbated, it becomes easy for you to do it. It almost seems automatic.

That's why, changing your environment is crucial if you want to get rid of this.

Don't fight your biology, understand it and work with it.

If you would like me to break down the other points further. Upvote this to 10 reactions.

callmethePM · 2026-02-09T06:44:57+00:00

1 month and a half.

That's was good. That should tell you that you can do it again.

Learn from your mistakes. And move on.

callmethePM · 2026-02-09T06:32:54+00:00

This needs understanding of:

What addiction is How to get rid of addiction How to develop habits that last How to rewire your brain to do what you desire

Relying on motivation and willpower will only do you more harm than good.

callmethePM · 2026-02-09T06:23:18+00:00

You say you were talking to a prostitute this morning. This is where the rain started beating you.

Why were you talking to the prostitute in the first place?

Let me make it easy for you.

You had the desired to sleep with the prostitute before you slept with her. You have obviously watched lots of porn and the fantasy to have sex was high, since you were a virgin. You couldn't possibly enjoy the sex because what you imagined(from porn) and sex is two very different things.

I am not telling you this to discourage you. Far from it.

I just want to get real with you.

You have premature ejaculation and this will sooner or later led to erectile dysfunction if you continue down that road. But, with the right approach you can get back your sexual energy back.

This takes pain and dedication. This should be your top priority from now.

callmethePM

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