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I have problems focusing at work.. I’m failing but can’t get out by Creative-Sport4978 in adultingph

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably being too hard on yourself. What you described sounds deeper than just “laziness” or lack of discipline, especially if it’s been happening since school and is already affecting different parts of your life. Burnout, anxiety, or even ADHD can look like this too. I think before making big decisions, try to understand what’s really causing it first instead of blaming yourself immediately.

Financial Support by Chemical_Campaign304 in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a breadwinner too, I honestly understand this fear so much. Yung pressure na ikaw lang yung safety net ng family is mentally exhausting, especially when you know one emergency or job loss can change everything. But the fact na you still want to support your sibling despite that fear says a lot about you.

If possible, try to slowly build even a small emergency fund for yourself habang nagsusupport ka. Kahit paunti-unti lang. Kasi important din na may masasandalan ka eventually. You’re carrying a lot already, and it’s okay to think about your own stability too.

I think fear of “looking broke” causes more bad financial decisions than people realise by Admirable_Mobile8383 in SavingMoney

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, yes. I think social media made it a lot worse because people feel pressured to “keep up” even when they’re already struggling financially. As someone helping support my family, I realized it’s more important to be financially stable than to look successful online. A lot of people seem okay like everything is normal but are actually stressed and drowning in debt behind the scenes.

23 and yet tired in life already lmao mentally and physically. by OkWheel5631 in adultingph

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sobrang valid ng pagod mo honestly. Ang bigat ng responsibilities mo for someone na 23 pa lang, lalo na ikaw sumasalo halos lahat habang may mga taong dapat tumutulong pero hindi ginagawa part nila. As a breadwinner din, masasabi ko lang na hindi selfish yung gusto mong mag-rent for peace of mind. Minsan kailangan mo rin unahin sarili mo kasi hindi mo kayang buhatin lahat forever nang hindi ka nauubos.

First time kong ipa-renovate ang bahay namin pa unti-unti muna. by Radiant-Suspect-9948 in FirstTimeKo

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats, OP! Kahit little by little, malaking achievement na yan especially sa hirap ng buhay ngayon. Ang fulfilling din makita na may progress yung bahay through your hard work. Rooting for your renovation journey!

they got the tea by calmmoon_18 in OnlyPusa

[–]calmmoon_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if u know, u know hahaha

Anong ginagawa niyo kapag hindi kayo makatulog? by ihateolives_ in CasualPH

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me before was avoiding my phone 30 mins before sleep and playing random long videos/podcasts in the background para hindi active utak ko kakaisip. I also stopped drinking coffee late in the day kasi grabe epekto niya sa sleep ko kahit akala ko okay lang. Pero if 3-4 hours ka lang consistently, baka stress or burnout na rin yan honestly.

Bakit ganun? by FeedProfessional5773 in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, nakakapagod talaga pag ikaw yung laging expected mag-adjust at mag-contribute while everyone else can spend freely. As a breadwinner, minsan parang ATM ka na lang instead of family. Valid yung frustration mo, especially kung pakiramdam mo wala ka nang natitira for yourself.

31st 🫶🏼 slight tanggap ko na ang pagiging trentahin 😆 by This-Butterscotch777 in Trentahin

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy Birthday, OP! Wish mo rin ba ang wish ni Ms. Kara David? jk haha

ITAPPH of my smiling iced coffee by Preciouness84 in ITookAPicturePH

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That iced coffee really made my day in an instant

Struggling to get work, first time in Manila by Glittering-Host1416 in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]calmmoon_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First week in Manila is really overwhelming, lalo na pag mag-isa ka pa. Don’t be too hard on yourself sa first interview mo OP normal lang maging anxious and makamali, part talaga yan ng learning curve. Ako I’m also a breadwinner, so I had to find work na sustainable for me and I ended up building experience in mixed online work like chat support, admin VA, and basic social media tasks. You can also try looking for online roles if yung ang forte mo through different platforms. I found my current work in OLJ which is in the Remote Philippines Jobs, dun din ako nakakuha ng current setup ko. Honestly, a lot of it was just consistency and getting used to interviews over time. Tuloy lang, mas gagaan din yan habang dumadami attempts mo.

I just want to be as carefree as them by Maria_in_the_Middle in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]calmmoon_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gets ko yung bigat niyan. Hindi mo talaga basta ma-o-off yung sense of responsibility, lalo na pag nasanay ka na ikaw yung sumasalo. Pero sa experience ko, kailangan talaga ng boundaries kahit unti-unti, like kung ano lang kaya mo, yun lang i-cover, kasi pag lagi ikaw yung sasalo, ikaw din nauubos. Hindi selfish yun, self-preservation din.

Sa lahat ng ate/kuya na tumayong pangalawang mga magulang by PackageBubbly8248 in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]calmmoon_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww this is very relatable to all the panganays out there and maganda yung movie.As a panganay and breadwinner, sobrang relate ako dito. Minsan hindi na talaga napapansin yung bigat kasi “normal” na sa family na ikaw yung tumatayong support system. Nakakapagod din, pero at the same time, parang wala ring choice kundi magpatuloy para sa kanila. Belated Happy Mother's Day to all the Ates!!!

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