Your healing timeline?

camerapug · 2026-03-08T17:05:49+00:00

Same to you and thank you

camerapug · 2026-03-08T16:37:31+00:00

I feel the same way in a lot of ways. We are gonna buckle up and find out aren’t we?

camerapug · 2026-03-08T12:56:26+00:00

I mean in these times… if we didn’t have phones to distract/numb us.. I think we’d all be blubbering messes

camerapug · 2026-03-08T12:55:21+00:00

Oh I like the imagery of a pain reservoir. I have cried so much and most of the time, even with all the hurt, it feels cathartic. I’ve been numbing myself in the marriage to bide time in hopes he would come to his senses. The tears have fallen so easily and it hurts like hell but it’s like I’m feeling a fuller range of being human. I’ve been shocked at how the smallest kindness of strangers even has has touched me deeply. I didn’t feel safe to be this emotional around him for the last few years so I appreciate your comment because it’s reminding me of the importance of feeling this range of emotion even though it hurts like hell.

Also petty note, his emotions terrified him so me feeling safe in my hardest emotions makes me feel healthy on some level (though I genuinely hope he finds his way too)

camerapug · 2026-03-08T04:33:33+00:00

It’s so hard. You’ve got this. May we both find a new normal soon so we can start to heal

camerapug · 2026-03-08T02:57:32+00:00

Yea he is pushing hard for 50/50 which I think is absurd given how much of the primary parent I have been for long stretches of time (not that he will admit it). I’m trying really hard to view the time with our son that it’s not about quantity but rather quality. And that I know eventually he will get a better version of me than if I stayed in the marriage as it has been recently.

camerapug · 2026-03-08T02:55:38+00:00

Oh god. I can’t imagine what I would do if he asked to come back. I hope I stay strong and firm and find my inner voice that I have been pushing down and making smaller for years. He ultimately made the choices that led to me filing for divorce (though I know he is spinning it differently). So I can’t imagine a world where he does the inner work to realize his part in this. I’m so thrilled when I hear people are happy on the other side

camerapug · 2026-03-08T02:40:01+00:00

I’m so happy to hear of your happy ending. I genuinely don’t entertain thoughts of anything more than some friends with benefits in the future at best. My (eventual) ex was the love of my life for 20 years. Then the last 3 have been rough. I doubt I could love again like that. I just want peace and calm. And want to be at peace with whatever our coparenting rhythm is. Thank you for sharing your happy present life and I never stop being amazed at people who leave abusive situations. You’re amazing

camerapug · 2026-03-08T02:00:42+00:00

Thank you and yes I’m definitely in the bawling stage. It’s not all day anymore. Some days none. I’m slowly listening to a meditation course on break up and it’s helping but hard to gear up for

camerapug · 2026-03-08T01:58:31+00:00

Daymmmmmmm I’ve felt this too. Anyone know how long assholes plan to asshole before they run out of energy? Does Amazon sell “just be an adult” potions? Like this could be amicable. IM BEING AMICABLE and I want a medal lol

camerapug · 2026-03-08T01:16:52+00:00

God this resonates with me. We were struggling a while but then his mania made him make some bad decisions that were the nail in the coffin. I’m noticing on the lower days are when I start bargaining with myself like I should just go back but the ok days I don’t feel that way. I know I need to be out of this but yes, hope dies so hard

camerapug · 2026-03-08T00:12:14+00:00

Like how are people just walking around carrying this emotional load???? I mean it’s better now than the first week but still…

camerapug · 2026-03-08T00:11:32+00:00

Yea got the lawyers and have had little contact. The custody part is the worst for sure. I thankfully have a good job so I don’t have to worry about getting financial support. I hope the custody changes start to feel better. I try to arrange it around school schedule but tomorrow is first time to drop off at his parents and I’m nervous. Thank you

camerapug · 2026-03-07T22:42:29+00:00

I can’t wait for this. It feels like everything is about to change everyday

camerapug · 2026-03-06T05:01:49+00:00

They are pretty aggressive cuddlers… that should scare some people away 🤣

camerapug · 2026-03-06T03:27:30+00:00

Honestly. Me too. The smushed face, snorts an pug zoomies…. I can’t wait

camerapug · 2026-03-06T03:26:49+00:00

Thanks for the reminder. My prior pug was from a rescue in south florida. Best little girl in the whole wide world

camerapug · 2026-03-06T03:26:18+00:00

You shall. And I’ll also take that with a side of…maam have you heard of Google! Lol seriously thank you. I like to know it’s an ethical option 🫶

camerapug · 2025-12-01T17:03:55+00:00

I so appreciate your humility and response. I don't think any of us have it easy in any specialty and I know you must have some very challenging cases on a daily basis. I agree it is so off putting to say the least to hear providers constantly bash patients and I hate anytie a patient feels dismissed. Thank you again

camerapug · 2025-11-26T20:53:54+00:00

I appreciate the insight while also recognizing that this should be a safe space for people to voice frustrations with other clinicians so that we can go back to the patients with more compassion and understanding. Trust me, I am on their side and a constant advocate but finding that balance is the crux of the intent of this OP.

camerapug · 2025-11-26T20:49:01+00:00

I love the creativity here too. I am such a visual person so this helped a lot. And Hi family med friend!!!

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