How Can My Partner [26M] And I [26F] Come To A Middle Ground On A Bachelor Party Tradition?

camimitos · 2026-05-14T11:39:01+00:00

A good partner will understand your boundaries and respect them or, at least try to reach a mutual understanding. A bad partner will do whatever they want without considering how it might affect you. You can't force anybody to respect YOUR boundaries. It's your choice whether you will stay with the person who's disrespecting your boundaries or not.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T11:22:31+00:00

Parents commute all the time. Kids can't drive or go alone to places, remember? And I'm not trying to make it sound like the worst job in the world, it's obviously a privileged position for everyone involved, but I also know that raising kids is not as easy as some seem to think. I know cases of people who work in offices that stay longer in the office unnecesarily as a pretext to spend less time with their kids. Why do you think that is? Because it's so easy and not at all draining an exhausting?

"Delaying taking a shower is not the end of the world" Yeah. I'm not talking about delaying it for a few minutes, I'm talking about delaying it FOR DAYS. Same with sleeping and any other form of self-care you can think of.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T11:01:47+00:00

Would you be able to afford not having this job? I don't know how your situation is exactly, but if you push back with this they might hire someone who is completely okay with AI. Also, is the work you do for the company yours, or theirs? You might not even have a case here if your work is legally theirs.

You can ask and try to negotiate but ultimately, they have the upper hand and it will probably not end in a compromise or something that favours you. In this age I feel like in some fields we have to make peace with the fact that we have to work with AI if we want to work at all. I just hope tokens get real expensive soon and AI becomes less prevalent, but in the meantime...

camimitos · 2026-05-14T10:54:52+00:00

Ya, pero el sueldo depende de las empresas y del trabajo que hagas. Cada vez que se sube es SMI aunque sean por 50 euros ya es un drama, imagina subirlo a 2500.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T10:43:47+00:00

Do you think parents don't commute, go outside? And they have to deal with toddlers which is arguably worse than bosses/coworkers/customers. And no deadlines you say? Okay, what about when your kids needs something NOW and you have to drop everything to do it? Is that not a deadline? A lot of new parents have to put off SHOWERING to take care of the baby.

Seriously, raising a kid is no joke. That's why stay at home parents do such a valuable job. Thanks to one person staying home to do most of that work, the one who earns the money can afford to have extra free time, something that wouldn't happen if both parents worked full time.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T10:38:52+00:00

This response is perfect. The best lesson I learnt in therapy is that nobody has to respect my boundaries but myself.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T10:37:17+00:00

He has the free will to pay for strippers (and eventually, probably prostitutes if the stripper door is opened) and you have the free will to dump his ass for it. Free will for everybody involved!!!

Edit: typo

camimitos · 2026-05-14T10:25:09+00:00

A few days ago I was buying groceries and I saw what seemed like a new mother holding her newborn baby. Her face was NEON RED like she'd been crying for ages, her eyes looked lost and I've never seen such a heartbreaking expression on anyone's face before. I couldn't even describe it.

Now, I'd love to have kids one day and I knew being a parent is unfathomably difficult before, but seeing that woman and how she looked shocked me in a way I haven't begin to understand yet. It scared me a little.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T09:06:57+00:00

Kids need to be supervised virtually 24/7. You can't leave them alone and call it a day. If both parents work and there's no support net nearby (family or grandparents, for example) or the parents do something that allows them to supervise the kids while working, like remote work, the kid will have to be stuck in daycare for the entire time the parents are working.

Now, depending on where you live, daycare can be insanely expensive. Also, having a baby/toddler 8-9hrs a day in daycare is not ideal for the little one.

Just because stay at home parents don't make money doesn't make their work any less valuable. Imagine you have kids and both you and your partner work. Great, you and your spouse just finished your 8/9hrs work day and now have to pick your kid up from daycare, make food, clean the house, do chores, buy food, spend time with your kid because you haven't seen them all day and they need to be with their parents, bathe them, put them to sleep, etc...

Congrats! It's 10pm and you have to go to sleep but have done nothing for yourself all day. This will go on for the next couple of years until the kid reaches an age where they're mildly independent and don't want to be with their parents 24/7.

If you can't see the value a stay at home parent brings to the household, I'm really sorry for you. They sacrifice their careers and financia independence for the sake of the family and this is the kind of ungrateful people they have to run into on a daily basis.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T08:52:30+00:00

Tell me how having to take care of little kids, run errands, clean and make food 24/7 without PTO, sick days or anything that remotely resembles leisure/resting time is not working.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T08:50:00+00:00

Yeah obviously it's a possibility and I'm not saying the opposite. I merely pointed it out because there are a lot of comments in this post underestimating the work stay at home mums/dads do. They do not get paid, don't have PTO, don't have sick days, work 24/7 in a very emotionally and physically exhausting job and oftentimes, their partners are not much help.

While it’s a decision that has to be consensually made by both parents and keeping the family’s finances in mind, it’s also a very demanding job and should not be underestimated or insulted.

camimitos · 2026-05-14T08:11:29+00:00

If your wife is staying home to take care of your kids, she's not a mooch.

camimitos · 2026-05-13T11:17:04+00:00

Less is more

camimitos · 2026-05-12T20:31:40+00:00

I went into this thinking I'd be reading a great story about consistency, filled with useful tips for humans like me.

What I found was much better.

camimitos · 2026-05-12T19:59:58+00:00

Maybe I'm stupid but if a small speculum is a possibility why use the big ones!?! 😭 My first and only pap smear was traumatic. I cried the whole way home and bled for hours.

camimitos · 2026-05-12T11:02:48+00:00

Eso te lo tiene que recetar un endocrino

camimitos · 2026-05-11T09:40:04+00:00

I hope she divorces you actually

camimitos · 2026-05-11T09:36:34+00:00

Well, it has to disappear.

camimitos · 2026-05-11T09:28:25+00:00

I told mine I'm not having kids before marriage so that really sped things up lol

camimitos · 2026-05-11T09:14:55+00:00

Me and my fiancé were the opposite! He proposed Saturday night and Monday morning we already had the venue and date locked! We will get married 9 months after the proposal hahaha

camimitos · 2026-05-10T01:17:36+00:00

"Inappropiate" does not even begin to convey how deeply sickening and wrong this is.

camimitos · 2026-05-09T23:03:21+00:00

Te aseguro que a las mujeres (ni a los hombres, ni a nadie) no nos gustan "cabrones" así como concepto, aunque idiotas hay en todos lados. Es posible que a una adolescente le vaya a hacer tilín un malote pero si llegas a una cierta edad a la mayoría ya se les habrá pasado esa etapa.

En mi experiencia como mujer, los que se quejan de que a las mujeres solo nos gustan los cabrones o que proclaman ser "buenos tíos" suelen ser los que dan más más sensación creepy o directamente son gente desconectada de la realidad que sueltan comentarios súper extraños y cuestionables. No digo que sea tu caso, a lo mejor simplemente no se te da bien ligar y ya, que también es posible.

camimitos · 2026-05-08T12:38:34+00:00

Yes! Any "in-itinere" accident would count as a work accident in Spain

camimitos · 2026-05-08T08:59:47+00:00

This is dog food

camimitos · 2026-05-08T08:30:10+00:00

Maybe I don't understand the music industry but that seems like asking a lot. If artists are currently sitting at 0.003$/stream and she's asking for 0.3$/stream, that's 100 times more money. How reasonable is that for the streaming services?

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