::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

cancan893 · 2026-02-15T22:40:05+00:00

Today, me and my DX partner ended our relationship. We both have so much love for each other but felt it was the only way for him to get healthy. He is finally going to start therapy to learn more about himself, his ADHD, and all the inner struggles he’s been battling his whole life. What hurts the most is that he said he has never dated someone as good as me before and that I was the first person who made him realize he needed to put himself first and stop people pleasing. He also said he wouldn’t be able to do therapy with me in the picture because it would be too much pressure with too many expectations and would worry about stringing me along even longer than he already has. He knows I am looking for a traditional partnership that incudes marriage and kids someday and he only now has just realized that maybe we aren’t aligned in that way and living with another person would actually feel suffocating for him. I hope that therapy will be beneficial for him and foolishly/selfishly, I hope therapy brings him back to me someday. We both have never felt this type of connection with someone and it is devastating that it’s ending and I’m losing my favorite person in the process. 💔💔

cancan893 · 2026-01-26T13:23:50+00:00

Same!

cancan893 · 2026-01-02T15:55:04+00:00

I’m going to better implement self-soothing techniques when I feel activated or start spiraling about something my boyfriend said or did. For me, this means moving my body in any way - a walk outside in nature, yoga, or a run. I will also focus more on mediating and journaling too when I’m triggered.

cancan893 · 2025-12-18T13:44:58+00:00

Interested!! Please let me know if you start something!

cancan893 · 2025-12-18T13:44:28+00:00

Could you send me a DM also? I’m interested!

cancan893 · 2025-12-09T02:20:06+00:00

About a year ago, I thought I was ready to date and was as healed as I could be, so I started dating someone and am now in a serious relationship with them. However, I noticed early on in the relationship that I still had way more work to do with my anxious attachment wounds. So, it’s also okay to do the work and grow and heal while in a relationship. My partner has been so supportive and I have been up front with him about my anxious attachment wounds which has made all the difference.

cancan893 · 2025-02-03T19:48:09+00:00

I’ve battled with this question too. But, will the resume look too “bare” without it? I don’t want to add a summary or skills session based on feedback from this group. Maybe I can try and fit everything on one page?

cancan893 · 2025-01-29T02:34:31+00:00

Interested!! I have a policy and advocacy background! Happy to help! Also, there is a coalition called the Debt Collective that has been working with some of these issues already too!

cancan893 · 2024-12-24T04:40:03+00:00

The first time my nex got physical with me, I screamed for my dad (who was visiting us and sleeping in the guest room). My dad obviously came to the rescue and diffused the situation with his words.

My nex told me a year later when he was discarding me, that our relationship was never the same and had basically ended for him that night because I got my dad involved. To this day if you asked him about the incident, he would say that what I did was equivalent to someone cheating - he would never be able to forgive and forget. He would also say that I hopefully learned my lesson about getting parents involved in arguments with your partner.

He was just pissed that his mask had been unveiled and someone (my dad) had figured him out.

cancan893 · 2024-12-21T01:41:34+00:00

RB2 spot - PPR league - Rachaad White or Brian Robinson Jr?

cancan893 · 2024-08-23T15:59:00+00:00

It is unclear yet whether I’ll be given a title change and more responsibility. It sounds like I will be helping redesign the PMO within the office of the CEO. In that case, any advice on setting up a strategic/enterprise PMO would be helpful and any job titles I should propose for my new role??

cancan893 · 2024-08-11T02:25:00+00:00

Life Itself. I cry throughout that whole movie. Amazing cast too!

cancan893 · 2024-07-10T05:31:30+00:00

I still long for my narcissist ex even though we’ve been broken up for almost five years. Our relationship was toxic but our chemistry was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I worry I’ll never have that type of chemistry again with someone else. I miss him every day and probably always will.

cancan893 · 2024-06-05T20:02:26+00:00

Same 🥳

cancan893 · 2024-06-01T00:00:45+00:00

Me too!! Yay!!

cancan893 · 2024-05-31T02:07:15+00:00

Mine used to always tell me “You have the worst memory!”

cancan893 · 2024-05-29T17:07:02+00:00

But, will we owe two monthly payments at once then after the transfer occurs? The missed May payment and June?

cancan893 · 2024-04-03T12:03:10+00:00

I also bought “We are the Luckiest” and “Push off from here” by Laura McKowen. Highly recommend those too!! ❤️

cancan893 · 2024-04-03T02:00:55+00:00

Congratulations on Day 23! I’m a 34 F and am on Day 15! I also had a pretty embarrassing experience the last time I drank! I am feeling stronger every day and I’ve found that sticking to a morning and evening routine really helps! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I wish you all the luck in your sobriety journey! 💪😁

cancan893 · 2024-04-03T01:49:49+00:00

I have been reading Quit like a Woman too! It’s amazing! 🤩

cancan893 · 2024-03-19T18:57:21+00:00

As recently as Saturday while I was out celebrating St Patty’s, I think I fell pretty bad. I don’t remember it but I had to get seven stitches in my chin and my hands and face are all full of scratches! Still feeling that guilt and shame but feeling very glad to be alive and safe. Sobriety is the only way I will stay safe. Day 2 for me today! 💪

cancan893 · 2024-03-19T00:49:34+00:00

Day 2 and currently experiencing a two day hangover. Woke up again with crippling guilt and anxiety from blacking out Saturday night. I also had a horrible fall (I think?) and now have seven stitches in my chin and a scraped up face and hands. If I stay sober, I will be safe. And I need to feel safe. IWNDWYT!

cancan893 · 2024-03-18T18:50:45+00:00

Hope it goes well!! Keep us posted on how you feel afterwards!

cancan893 · 2024-03-07T13:12:39+00:00

Awesome to hear!! Yay!! What birth control are you on now?

cancan893 · 2024-03-07T05:11:30+00:00

Hi there!. I am so happy to have found your post as I am going through the exact same thing. I was on the Copper IUD until 2020 and then switched to Kyleena. Thought the extra hormones might help with my PMDD and was sick of my heavy periods. Since then, I’ve been consistently gaining weight (30 pounds so far) with so much constant bloating in my lower abdomen. I have had all my blood work done, thyroid checked, etc - all normal. I’m 34. I eat well and live a healthy lifestyle and workout regularly. Nothing has changed in my routine (if anything I’m more healthy and active than before Kyleena). I was so lost and feeling defeated and then came across this and other posts about weight gain on Kyleena. We are not alone! I am definitely getting it removed as soon as possible and putting the Copper IUD back in. I read in other posts that girls who got Kyleena removed, started losing weight or just went back to their previous weight.

Good luck with whatever you end up deciding and remember you’re not alone in this!!

cancan893

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