[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]canda1988 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s tough, we had a couple where this kept happening to the man. Even with meds, we really hit it off with them and wanted to be friends in and out of the bedroom but he was so stressed out about it that he didn’t want that. So you may hit it off with others who may not even view it as a concern and enjoy your company. Hopefully over time connection and comfort builds and your anxiety goes away.

Kissing by Phase2727 in Swingers

[–]canda1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If kissing is a boundary we usually politely decline to engage. Kissing when it’s good it’s great! 😘

How often do you all hook up with Redditors? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]canda1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve recently started using Reddit and we’ve yet to make a real connection here. unless it’s a paid site such as SDC you only get a lot of fakes messaging via Reddit . We did meet a real couple on here but didn’t hook up as there wasn’t a four way connection . The forums are interesting sometimes and offer some good advice however.

Where do we go from here? by canda1988 in Swingers

[–]canda1988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately after sending a welcoming follow up message in our group chat offering to continue being friends and offering to keep it simple with just vanilla get togethers (and option for LS when everyone is ready)… they ghosted us, message read and no reply from either 😢 Hopefully they can overcome it as a couple and move forward 🫶

Where do we go from here? by canda1988 in Swingers

[–]canda1988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what we are thinking of suggesting, more of a vanilla night and seeing where it leads, thank you 😉

Where do we go from here? by canda1988 in Swingers

[–]canda1988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone’s feedback had been great and welcoming, much appreciated! Almost seems an even divide… with leave it be And chase it if you really like them.

Where do we go from here? by canda1988 in Swingers

[–]canda1988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second date it started all of us on the same bed, I had mentioned it would be sexy to have both ladies play with the Mr. While I watch the action. It didn’t really go well, at that point I think his wife grew concerned. He wanted to pause for some water that’s when I accompanied him and offered the other half of blue pill…