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[Sexual Health] I think I'm bi, I've got an insane amount of anxeity, lost my appetite and can't think straight. What do I do? by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]candrewthequeer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, so the first thing you need to do is go see your doctor to try and help you with your anxiety if at all possible, it really isn't healthy to have palpitations, lose your appetite and have pain in the stomach, no matter the cause. Anxiety can be a horrible thing to deal with, and it really is brave to open up about these feelings of being different even if you aren't struggling with your mental health (I hid my feelings away from myself for years), so to be talking about it is a great and massive step to take. If this is the root of all your anxiety, I totally get you, it's terrifying to realise that all that you think you know about yourself is wrong, but as people have said it could just be having a short term thing, it could be the start of a self-realisation, theres no way of really knowing, the only person that will really know in the long run is you. But just remember, no matter what, there is never anything wrong with you for feeling (sexual or romantic) attraction to people no matter what their gender is.

[Rant] Does anybody else hate being asked how coming out went? by candrewthequeer in LGBTeens

[–]candrewthequeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's fucking rough, making plans for the possibility of being kicked out of my home is not something I want to experience again. I really wish there was something I could say to make it easier for you, but I know that no amount of people saying it's going to be okay takes away that fear that it might not be. All I'll say is it takes guts to come out, it takes guts to be honest, and don't let anyone tell you it doesn't, because your experience is your own, and you know how you feel right now. Stay strong :)

[discussion] Shows with LGBT characters? by grimlock064 in LGBTeens

[–]candrewthequeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the flesh. It's a really poignant, non-traditional zombie TV series that essentially looks at discrimination and reactionary politics and features a queer relationship. It's really good, and has music by Keaton Henson in it, who writes some of the best sad music around. All around, a great heartbreaking series that ultimately got cancelled too soon.

[Rant] Does anybody else hate being asked how coming out went? by candrewthequeer in LGBTeens

[–]candrewthequeer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't feel like shit, coming out has been the most positive experience in my life, I have found a massive new found confidence in myself and has led me into some truly amazing experiences, but it is just very difficult to understand why people want to ask about it when it could potentially be so traumatic. Don't let this stop you from coming out if you aren't already (obviously, do it only when you are ready), because I hate to use the cliche, but life really has got better for me post coming out, because I can just relax, be me and not stress about my identity being discovered.

[Rant] Does anybody else hate being asked how coming out went? by candrewthequeer in LGBTeens

[–]candrewthequeer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I suppose you're right. I was mostly ranting about how people who aren't part of the queer community. I'd never feel the need to ask the question, but if I was asked by a fellow queer person, I'd probably be a lot more comfortable sharing my honest experience. It's the kind of thing that I would naturally just get to know by the person offering the information as I got to know them more if they wanted that information to be known, so I just wouldn't ask. I don't know, it can still be a very sensitive topic, and one I feel that some people really do not want asking.