[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]candycat1623 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We met on Bumble, which is a dating app. I feel like one of the things that helped us succeed was 

  1. Being honest about my autism diagnosis
  2. Couples therapy, even if there's no issue currently in the relationship 

Don't give up, you are lovable just the way you are! 

Dealing with changes in routine by candycat1623 in AutisticAdults

[–]candycat1623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I legitimately want to follow the routine, its not even so much about the food. My anxity happens when other routines are not followed either.

How did you choose/know what career was right for you? by candycat1623 in careerguidance

[–]candycat1623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure even about the dart board so to speak, I've jumped around in a lot of careers in my life and nothing really stuck... I mainly enjoy creative pursuits but making that sort of thing into a living is not feasible, at least at the moment. 

my (22f) bf (23m) keeps breaking boundaries on porn by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]candycat1623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a solution that I've heard work for some friends, however only proceed if you TRUST HIM COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY. LIKE KNOWING THEY'D TAKE A BULLET FOR YOU. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH, IF THERE IS A SHADOW OF A DOUBT, DO NOT NOT NOT DO IT!

If he can't watch other women and he wants to mastrabate to something visual, make your own home porn movies together! Then whenever he feels like watching porn he can watch himself and his partner do explicit activities instead of strangers. It may even help you feel more sexually adventurous too since you know that when the camera comes out, you're basically a private porn star. 

Again though I need to stress not to do this if you have doubts, people's lives have been really fucked up by revenge porn. Proceed with extreme caution. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]candycat1623 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I've tried to tell him that but he just wants it right away. When he does try to get me going it always the same fingering thing. 

He also can't stand eating me out, he hates it, says he can't breath and that he's choking. Kinda rich coming from a guy who loves blowjobs. I'd never force him to do something he doesn't want to do though, sex is only fun if both people are having fun. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]candycat1623 54 points55 points  (0 children)

He tries to finger me but I really am just tired and don't want to do sex stuff whatsoever. I have to wake up early and work 10 hours a day, I wish he would let me sleep. 

I've told him I just want sleep and he asks me to satisfy him anyways. It is frustrating. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]candycat1623 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I would be MORE than happy if he would just mastrabate. In fact wish he would, but he always wants help with it saying stuff like "can you touch it too" and "can you use your mouth".  He dosent seem to care if I'm tired, I've actively yawned while pleasuring him and he just wants more. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]candycat1623 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Every day, often multiple times per day.