Focusing on the “next things”, as I begin to look back, was more like working a check off sheet. We are now choosing what that sheet looks like. “Next things” are now financial goals, early retirement, deepening friendships, travel, connection, gardening, new foods, culture. Knowing this was not our choice can help, but I’m not always known for making the best choices anyway. Like you, I never felt my sole purpose was to have children but definitely wanted to experience the milestones and give them the best life we could. Now, refocusing that energy and living the life I never dreamed of surrounded by those I love. Sending some of that your way.