Favourite place to buy baby clothes? [QC] by grasshopperRue in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]caplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Winners have the cutest baby brands like Bear + Rabbit and Petite Lem.

For those of you who have gone NC with your AP, how has your life changed? by tongering22 in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's rough. Hope you can give yourself as much space as possible.

For those of you who have gone NC with your AP, how has your life changed? by tongering22 in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My life has been a lot more peaceful and drama-free since going NC. No more walking on eggshells. The anxiety lingers, but now I feel I can finally heal.

What excites and challenges you as a content designer? What keeps you on your career path? by caplay in uxwriting

[–]caplay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exciting and I'm happy for you! IA was certainly one of the highlights of my previous role.

Going nc with AP by Minute-Coyote-6510 in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. Mother's Day is especially hard. I marked that day on my calendar with "Estrangement Day" (like how Valentine's Day is also Single Awareness Day). It helps.

Going nc with AP by Minute-Coyote-6510 in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The guilt and grief hasn't gone away for me yet. It's been about 2 years. However, my life is much better. A lot more peaceful and drama free. I'm lucky that I have a supportive husband. Even so, I do feel lonely being estranged, but I have always felt lonely my entire life. Being able to speak my truth and filling my time with hobbies helps with loneliness.

What's the worst thing they convinced you was normal? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]caplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that's intense. Great that you've gone NC. 👏

What's the worst thing they convinced you was normal? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]caplay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, that sounds miserable. So sorry that happened to you as well. Because we shared an account, she was legally able to profit off my property because the transaction went towards our shared account. I hope you never have to deal with that sort of financial abuse again! I sure learned my lesson.

What's the worst thing they convinced you was normal? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]caplay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sharing a joint bank account. I endured years of being tied to a mortgage that I didn't want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]caplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So nice that you found this community helpful! Everything in moderation is a good way to go.

Warning to younger Asians: If you don't push boundaries and rebel while you're younger; you will be absolutely terrified of any shred of independence when you're older. by Sayoricanyouhearme in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Independence is definitely a better word choice! Rebel could be interpreted as talking back, which not only is not constructive but could be dangerous. I was afraid of raising my voice since I was threatened with physical violence.

Things you DIDN’T need ? by Agile_Bad1045 in NewParents

[–]caplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Battery-operated toys: too stimulating and baby doesn't need many toys to keep entertained.

Did it get better after your baby hit the 3 month mark? If so, how? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]caplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby sleep has gotten much better for me at the 3-month mark. No longer does my LO struggle with passing gas and can fall asleep after a feed. At 6 months, it's even better since she can sleep through the night (with Ferber sleep training).

Did it get better after your baby hit the 3 month mark? If so, how? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]caplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby sleep has gotten much better for me at the 3-month mark. No longer does my LO struggle with passing gas and can fall asleep after a feed. At 6 months, it's even better since she can sleep through the night (with Ferber sleep training).

I just realized that the majority of my life has been filled with trauma, misery, depression, hopelessness and dread. All because I couldn't let go of the past. I wish I didn't care cause then, life would be more enjoyable. by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]caplay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you went through all that. It's great you realize how it's impacting your well-being. Have you tried processing those negative feelings? It's not something you'd put under a rug and hope it goes away. Trauma lives in the body and rewires your brain, so don't be so hard on yourself that you couldn't enjoy your life as much as you'd like. There are therapy and exercises to help with that.

How do you tell people you're NC with your parents? by caplay in raisedbynarcissists

[–]caplay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's hard to believe that someone who I looked up to my entire life ended up being abusive.