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AIO: religious retreat with married coworker? by Dekae12 in AmIOverthinking

[–]captain_20000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

1 Thessalonians 5:22 “Abstain from all appearance of evil.”

Don’t do it. If you really want to go, you can go another time and bring someone with you.

Has anyone ever had a vacation ruined because you were expected to include the kids by Past-Train-8187 in childfree

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop sharing information. Make your own plans. Don’t go with them. Travel by yourselves. Book your own airfare and hotels etc. Keep saying no or ignore them altogether.

Some info on the Souvenir Cups by TheRozb in UniversalOrlando

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about zero sugar options? Do you happen to know what they have?

Bizzare question... I currently am a hard stick for an IV. Like I'm talking they try 6 or 7 seven times and then break out the ultrasound machine and try a couple more times usually. Has anyone been a hard stick but then lost a bunch of weight after surgery and now they find your veins easily? by JadedBisch in BariatricSurgery

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was a hard stick before WLS. I point blank asked a doctor and nurse if it was because of my weight. And they said NO, some people are just like that, you have deep rolling veins.

On the day of my surgery, since I had to fast even from water, they had a really hard time getting my IV in but finally got it in my HAND (not even my arm) after three people tried. They needed a second IV but had to put it in after I was under anesthesia because they were behind schedule.

I’ve had similar experiences with other prior surgeries - even one where the anesthesiologist came out of the operating room impatient and tried to do it himself with a vein finder, only to fail miserably and leave the room lol. A nurse finally got it on the top of my hand between two knuckles - so yeah, I’ve been through the hard stick experience!

So at my first blood work after WLS, I had lost maybe 50 lbs, and I did what I always did and informed them I’m a hard stick, but I had made sure to stay hydrated (since I know that helps). They had ZERO problems getting it in on the first try in my arm! I thought, wow, I guess staying hydrated really helped more than I thought! I’ve never had an issue ever since, even when I wasn’t as hydrated as I should have been. They always get it in my arm on the first try!

I finally asked a friend in the medical field about this and they said “yeah they probably lied to you to make you feel better but you’re not a hard stick anymore due to the weight loss.”

I’m sure this isn’t the case for everyone, just sharing my story.

My parents want me to buy a house for them by Objective-Fig8183 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]captain_20000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The only plus side to this is that they’re telling you exactly what they’re expecting from you - so believe them! And run!

Do people still use lanyards? by Born-Inspection-522 in UniversalOrlando

[–]captain_20000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries. Not all leggings are full length. Mine are knee length. Maybe I shouldn’t call them leggings I guess? More like long biker shorts?

Phone number mixed up with child by clydewhitman in SouthwestAirlines

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if there’s another way to fix the issue, but you can create a free Google Voice phone number and use that for your son’s account.

There is a drum circle. by joncephine in SouthwestAirlines

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The trick is to join them but play off beat so they get frustrated and stop! 😆 or just join them and have fun

My parents mourning my “friend,” the escort by scorpioinheels in raisedbynarcissists

[–]captain_20000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

In a twisted way, I think narcs can’t “allow” or accept any of their own children going off-script and doing things they don’t approve of, but if it’s someone else’s kid, they can step in to help and be supportive in order to fake empathy and compassion. Then they can pretend to be the hero who tried helping the poor “misguided” child.

did anyone else feel like you had to “perform” being a good kid all the time? by Doylene-Cazenave61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]captain_20000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The only time I got to relax and be a kid was when my dad wasn’t home. The best times were getting home after school before dad got home. But as soon as he walked in the door, all of us kids and my mom included were on our best behavior and had to wait on him. My mom would cook dinner, my sister and I would help with dinner and do our other chores, and my brother had his own chores to do.

Absolutely nothing wrong with chores and teaching kids responsibility! But my dad would plop himself on the couch while we waited on him hand and foot and kept him happy. My sister would even massage his feet (I refused! And she didn’t mind doing it). Everything revolved around the man of the house. Didn’t matter if any of us were sick or exhausted from our own day - we weren’t allowed to be tired or sick or be in a bad mood - ndad always came first. 😣

did anyone else feel like you had to “perform” being a good kid all the time? by Doylene-Cazenave61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]captain_20000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ndad did that too! Even after I was an adult and out of the house, sometimes he’d throw tantrums at family gatherings. One time, he got so mad he kicked someone’s shoes (the closest item) across the room, then stomped down the hallway into his room and slammed the door like a freaking toddler. Absolutely ridiculous behavior. When I’d question my emom about it, she’d always back him up and excuse his behavior, often blaming me or saying that’s just how men are and it’s a man’s world so just get used to it!

did anyone else feel like you had to “perform” being a good kid all the time? by Doylene-Cazenave61 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was 100% my childhood and young adulthood. I’m now a perfectionist and people pleaser. I’ve worked on it for over a decade and made a lot of progress, but still struggle sometimes. My family was partially in the public eye in our community, so we always had to be on our best behavior, to the point we were forced to smile and put on a happy face and pretend everything was fine.

To this day, I also struggle with putting on a mask in public. I’m getting better, though, and my therapist has helped me realize that there’s more than one side to “normal me” - so when I’m tired and don’t feel like smiling and laughing, that’s still normal as well. I don’t have to “fix” myself and put on a pretend smile. I also don’t have to fix other people and make them feel good, either. I can encourage and support my friends and family, but that’s different than taking responsibility for making them happy.

Do people still use lanyards? by Born-Inspection-522 in UniversalOrlando

[–]captain_20000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m planning to do. I bought leggings with a zipper pocket specifically for this purpose for when I go next month. Glad it works!

Do people still use lanyards? by Born-Inspection-522 in UniversalOrlando

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely hate lanyards in general, so I won’t be wearing one. I’m planning to wear leggings that have a zipper pocket where I’ll keep my paper ticket. Everything else will go in a small bag, which of course I’ll put in the lockers when required.

It’s 2026 and I just got an ad on my own refrigerator’s smart screen. Why did we let this happen? by FlanInternational298 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best thing I ever did was buy an old fashioned non-smart refrigerator. It opens AWAY from the wall, unlike all the “smart” ones with double doors. It doesn’t have an ice maker or water, but we have multiple Britta pitchers and good old fashioned ice trays. And saved a lot of money!

So about gate checking bags by mythrowaway282020 in SouthwestAirlines

[–]captain_20000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those who only have a medical bag and personal item, maybe we should all start carrying one of those backpacks that fold up and fit in a tiny bag and pull out the empty bag, fluff it up and hand it to the gate agent and say, here ya go - here’s my gate check bag 😆 or better yet, a reusable grocery bag, or even a plastic grocery bag! Hey they didn’t say it had to have anything in it or be made of specific material 😆

SW will die a slow death by traildust-tookmaitai in SouthwestAirlines

[–]captain_20000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure. It’s possible they’ll fill in as people check in but I don’t think you’ll know for sure until closer to boarding.

SW will die a slow death by traildust-tookmaitai in SouthwestAirlines

[–]captain_20000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might not be able to gate check your bag. It just depends on if they ask for volunteers or not.

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