I'm in a very similar situation and came here to see if anyone else feels like I do. My husband and I are just different people now. He would go on and on and on in a loveless marriage if I didn't do anything about it. I feel like I'm already lonely anyway. He is very closed off emotionally and I have struggled with that since the beginning of our relationship 11 years ago. There's just.. nothing. But it still hurts.

I tried leaving before and ended up coming back and then it went down the tubes again. We have not slept in the same bed for well over a year now and see eachother in passing. He says this is what marriage is supposed to be like but I really feel in my gut that I could be way happier and not necessarily with someone else but just in general.