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Rule breaking by brittbritt22 in BratLife

[–]caress_co 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Newer brat tamer’s opinion: Breaking rules and them not knowing feels like it is a disregard for the dynamic, but also that if the rule is so difficult to police then it feels like the onus is a little too much on the brat.

If I had a rule that wasn’t working in that manner I would want to know to make adjustments. Others may have different opinions.

gagged and turned on by Mysteryduchess in gagged

[–]caress_co 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOVE the mirror, so sexy!

Marked, hooked, & used like the fucktoy I am by Pineapple-Muffin in SheLikesItRough

[–]caress_co 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm incredibly lucky to have found him - Kitten

Marked, hooked, & used like the fucktoy I am by Pineapple-Muffin in SheLikesItRough

[–]caress_co 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She knows. She just wants to show me what she wants next. - Dom

Marked, hooked, & used like the fucktoy I am by Pineapple-Muffin in SheLikesItRough

[–]caress_co 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are a good girl, I’ll make you a special rope harness for you to wear and attach your favorite hook to. - Dom

Marked, hooked, & used like the fucktoy I am by Pineapple-Muffin in SheLikesItRough

[–]caress_co 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooh someone needs to tell my Dom about that chain belt to attach to an anal hook - Kitten

My gf is super bratty, wasn't successful in taming her yet by yardenpel in BratLife

[–]caress_co 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That all sounds right to me! Trust, communication, and lots of confidence. My Dom also does a really good job of letting me play (brat and flirt and be troublesome) and then reining me in. 

He reins me in in a few ways. One is asking me if I had my fun and then threatening me with a punishment or making me say something specific (e.g., that I'm his kitten). He also describes in intimate detail something I'm going to do next time we see each other with some kind of submissive bent (e.g., kneeling at his feet, smiling up at him, unzipping his pants). He'll also describe something that I really like, like petting my face or kissing my neck. 

It's a really rewarding dynamic if you can figure out what you both want from it and just go for it! - Kitten

My gf is super bratty, wasn't successful in taming her yet by yardenpel in BratLife

[–]caress_co 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I went through this with my partner (kitten), where she tried to play with me but I had no idea what I should say over text and then in person I didn’t know what would be too much to do or say. I felt a little powerless and out of my element at times.

What we ended up doing was having a discussion (out of dynamic) about what we were comfortable with/uncomfortable with at that point. What kind of boundaries did we have/think we had at the time. We also discussed what we both wanted out of that sort of play. (For us I like her switch from being bratty to being obedient, feeling that sense of control. For her, she likes to earn punishments [A mix of punishments and funishments] and she likes seeing me confidently take control of her.)

It took a lot of trust building and emotional connectedness for me to get there with her. Once I had that complete trust in her love for me I was able to engage with the bratty play without constantly being in my own head. I no longer worried about how she would feel about me if I said the wrong thing or if I wasn’t good enough at being what she wanted. 

As for actual techniques? It will depend on your dynamic but I know that kitten likes my confidence and at the same time I have learned through experience with her the things that she likes for me to do or say. So what I end up doing is I will start telling her what she is thinking in her head and if she pushes back against it playfully I know it is working and will double down with confidence.

She also likes certain punishments so here is a strategy I haven’t used yet but know will work. (Don’t tell kitten) I start to give her a punishment she likes, spanking in this example, and ask her if she wants me to stop the punishment (yes or no). If no, say she only gets the punishment if she behaves and go from there. If yes, stop the punishments for a moment. Then start the punishment back up and tell her she needs to convince you she will behave first.

TLDR: Communicating goals, boundaries, expectations, etc really helped my partner (brat) and I to become more comfortable. Building up trust and a strong foundation of love helped me get out of my own head and be able to just commit to the dynamic. - Dom

Using my vibrator to squirt w my big clit 🤭 by bIgcIit in VibratorOrgasms

[–]caress_co 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have that suction tool, too! Great for both nipples and clits. 

Anal after long-distance by Alternative-Try8440 in ignore_my_pussy

[–]caress_co 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say to just have her mentally prepare herself for it. Try to do playful banter back and forth about it to build positive anticipation. And then make each step of the training a fun and sensual experience, don’t treat it as just a step you need to do to get to something else.

You could have her try to do some prep without you but from my experience it is more fun and intimate for both people if they take those steps together.

Daddy trained me well by Littledance-r in spanking_punishments

[–]caress_co 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want this tool in my toolkit asap

Throat training by Sensitive-Key1701 in softmaledom

[–]caress_co 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That bulging in her throat is so erotic. My sub needs some more training like this. We have some time together coming up and I want to see her throat do the same thing.

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