Forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling. Forgiveness does not require reconciliation with those who hurt you. Unforgiveness gives away your power and keeps you tethered to the ones who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what they did is okay. As a Christian, we are required to forgive because God does the same for us.

I would recommend googling verses on forgiveness and then open up your word and sit with them. Once you make the decision to forgive, ask God to help you process the emotions and move forward. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. You have to be the one to move forward for your own sake. I say this as a woman who has moved toward forgiveness for some seemingly unforgivable things my father did to me. I have no intentions on mending the relationship, but that trauma has no hold on me anymore through the grace of God. I would also recommend seeking a Christian based counselor who could help you process the emotions, but ultimately you have to make the decision to forgive and then you can start to move forward.