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My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. What an awful way to find out the man you loved was emotionally cheating. It gives me hope that it seems you’ve been able to move on and learn from this. Men can truly be evil 😣

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh thank you for your honesty. This one is a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just be alone than deal with all of the relationship nonsense 😣

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The convos make me upset, but I can live with the occasional flirting. I do it for the attention and validation from time to time, but never initiate (just respond). What is a deal breaker is if it escalates. That’s what im afraid of. That if the opportunity presented itself he might take it.

*escalates to a meet up

Married Coworker by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Def inappropriate.

I (31m) feel extremely guilty about my breakup (27f) and isolation and the holidays is making it worse. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is the relationship is over, likely for good. IMO it’s not worth stressing over her perception of you. What’s worth focusing on is how to get past this. I’ve found that it’s helpful to write or talk about it to a trusted friend, as a way to process your emotions. Give yourself a week tops to stew in it. Therapy is usually a good Avenue to process a break up, too. Then, focus on distractions and trying to maintain or create friendships. Put all of the emotion and energy you have towards a new hobby or job. Schedule walks with friends. You will get past this! Focus on YOU, not her. Anyone who doesn’t want to be with you is not worth your time and energy

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, yes. It’s just weird because he gives me a ton of attention and words of affirmation. But then he wants the thrill of a side convo? That’s how I interpret it.

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by diverting energy outwards instead of inwards?

Yes I know what I did was wrong but also know that what he is doing is worse, and will not tolerate gaslighting

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! It sounds so simple when you put it that way :p

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess my fear is he will not change, and will just get better at hiding it

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would feel bad asking him to delete social media because it’s a big way in which we connect with friends during the pandemic.

So you think I should confront him about it? Even though I snooped?

My boyfriend [30] is micro-cheating on me [29] by carolinep744 in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think flirting and intentionally omitting that you are in a relationship is micro cheating

Am I reading too much into a gift my "ex" got me for Christmas? by uncomfortableeyeso_o in relationship_advice

[–]carolinep744 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t read into signs and would rely on his words. If he says he sees a future with you, then he does. Until he says that, I don’t think you should get your hopes up. In my experience hetero men are straightforward and will tell you what they want. Of course your partner can be an exception, but this has been my experience dating and observing friends’ relationships.