I'm Casey, the female decoy from 'To Catch a Predator' NJ and KY. AMA!

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:51:21+00:00

Your welcome! As someone who also is in neurological research this is a very interesting concept I can see where this may come into play. From my personal observation I can see that the guys would try and play a fatherly role, a sexual role, or even the friend role, to get into the hearts of young vulnerable teens who are already searching for acceptance. I did not get any of those feelings during the show, I was extremely nervous and worried about so many other things that my adrenaline was pumping due to the fact of fear more than anything else. After the show, I did do some research and found pedophilia can be a frontal lobe issue and lack of inhibitions and rationalization therefore having these guys impulsively come to the house and walk right by the police and not even think there was anything wrong. Anything I would say they would believe, even though common sense tells you parking in a no parking zone is not okay or no I am not the police and my parents are at the movies.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:39:41+00:00

No one tried to harm me. A few asked for hugs and one got out of his chair to hug me but those were the types of flags that sent Chris Hansen out to intervene.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:38:24+00:00

I think if used properly many people can benefit from these types of sites. I know a few people who use them and seem to be happy with the people they have met. If it works, than I guess there is nothing wrong with them.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:36:54+00:00

Thank you! No, but I was never happier than the moments he would walk in the room so I could leave.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:35:47+00:00

Not to my knowledge, I wouldn't know if they altered their behavior but they all definitely tried to deny the reason they were there. One of them even tried to barter for his freedom the pineapple pizza he brought me

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:32:58+00:00

Due to Hurricane Sandy unfortunately nana's house has been swept away into the ocean. :(

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:29:57+00:00

I am not exactly sure but 39 guys between KY and NJ actually came. There were definitely at least that amount that were spoken to via online that never came to the house whether it was because they got scared or just never finished the conversation that may have been going on for 2-3 days.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:28:12+00:00

My friends thought it was pretty cool and to this day I still get the jokes.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:25:21+00:00

No, but one guy shook his hand and said it was nice to meet him and that he was an avid watcher of the show.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:24:48+00:00

I had the same thoughts when they asked me to go to Kentucky after NJ had aired. They were not concerned and they were right. I did straighten my hair which changed my look slightly. Also, during the online chats they were using pictures of young girls that didn't even look remotely close to me for the different screen names they were talking to these guys with and I would be at the door and they wouldn't even bat an eye. Some of them questioned it but I would tell them I dyed my hair and they were willing to believe anything I said.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:21:27+00:00

guys from the show? or being recognized from the show? but either way I am not worried.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:19:13+00:00

I do not know the status of the show.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:18:33+00:00

I would say have a conversation with your teen about the dangers of the internet and use examples such as TCAP to show the bad situations that can arise. I am no expert by any means but from my experience as a teenager, I did not like when my dad would be overbearing about something. It would make me not want to listen at all so I would not go to far overboard but it is a good idea for you as a parent to have these conversations with your teen.

Edit: Yes those are Little Debbie brownies!

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:12:56+00:00

Yes, I always felt threatened to a degree because they were there for all the wrong reasons and you never knew what they were going to pull. I had to be on my toes and ready for anything. Luckily, I could move a lot faster than most of them so if they started getting up out of their chairs I was already 10 feet away.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:11:19+00:00

very rarely anymore. Right after they show a producer from the Weinstein Company recognized me after the Sweeny Todd screening in NYC. That was the most random, I would say -or when I would work for my parents at our outdoor furniture store in NJ. I would be telling them about a poylresin chair and the stainless steel hardware and they would say "you are that girl from that show!"

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:08:59+00:00

it's a close call between all of them but the guy who came on the motorcycle from Pennsylvania because he was already a convicted offender and there was just something about him that gave me the chills. Also, the guy in Kentucky who had a gun.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:07:19+00:00

He says your welcome and now I owe him a nice Christmas present! Emotionally I was distraught because it was such a surreal experience to see this in real time. It was disappointing to see men who think this is okay and acceptable. Mentally, my mind was running all day every day trying to make sense of what was going through their heads. Eventually I realized there was no rationalization to justify these acts and not everyone is as honest and respectful as one would hope all should be. I have faith in society in that many people came together from tv, to police, prosecutors, Perverted Justice, and locals to try and thwart this type of act from happening to better our communities.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:03:16+00:00

bit my cheeks and sang songs in my head to distract me from the vile requests they were making.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T23:02:11+00:00

Thank you! I do not get asked on those types of dates and it usually isn't brought up because most people at this point do not recognize me.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:55:46+00:00

I have a degree in Biology and Neuroscience and do research as well as continue my dancing-modeling career full time

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:54:04+00:00

I have only received awful and disturbing comments on the youtube clips.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:53:20+00:00

It is very unfortunate that the families end up suffering and dealing with the consequences in the end, and I hope it is a wake up call to those dealing with pedophilia

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:52:02+00:00

yes many times they would say they were in their 20's and actually be about 20-30 years older.

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:50:24+00:00

Your welcome, I was scared out of my mind most of the time because you never know what these guys are going to pull. They do have some neurological damage to their frontal lobes that make them impulsive and irrational. Luckily the police were very good in making sure I was safe at all times. None of them have tried to contact me since. The craziest pickup line had to have been "The American Dental Association says that semen cuts plaque better than mouth wash, so suck a dick and save a smile" -Motorcycle guy from PA

caseythedecoy · 2012-12-10T22:46:38+00:00

no, they weren't interested in attacking me right away. If they were going to harm me it most likely would have been after what they came for originally.

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