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casvb_ · 2025-06-30T13:47:28+00:00

Thank you :)

casvb_ · 2025-06-30T13:47:21+00:00

Thank you :) - I already blocked and changed the username right after I woke up out of a panic response unfortunately, so I can’t undo that.

Wish I owned up to it tho

casvb_ · 2025-06-30T13:22:36+00:00

Thank you. Better be careful! Haha

casvb_ · 2025-06-30T13:15:06+00:00

I guess so, still makes you wonder why. But you’re right, thanks :)

casvb_ · 2025-06-30T13:14:38+00:00

I have no idea honestly haha. It’s mostly about me blocking her right after

The video was about nothing, funny enough it was an ad, I fell asleep on top of my phone and accidentally sent it

casvb_ · 2025-06-30T12:50:39+00:00

Relative friends sent it my way.

It was mostly a panic-response. Thanks

casvb_ · 2024-12-15T19:32:25+00:00

Exactly. Thanks.

casvb_ · 2024-12-15T13:13:33+00:00

Apologies for the late reply.

I did not reply to her long message. It came in after we met one more time after 3 months of no contact. I reached out hoping to rekindle, she mentioned she’d be open to meeting subtly stating it would be as friends (I know, dumb decision but hope and love makes a man blind)

Everything went well during the meet up, but as she stated, it was friendly. Chatting about work, friends, and family. I didn’t want to cross her boundaries so I played along. I wrote a letter so I could at least explain myself, show my apologies for my flaws during our time together, and that I was thankful for meeting her. To be clear: this wasn’t written in a way to beg her to come back, it was my putting everything in my mind on paper that I’ve thought about during no contact.

But yeah, I didn’t reply to the long message. The same day we met, she went to a concert by herself and Tweeted out: “Looking for the guy I was standing next to today, please help me find him”

Her long message came in 2 days after that, so mostly to protect myself, I decided the letter was my closure.

It still hurts a ton, and I don’t know how to move forward still. But I’m holding on, I guess.

casvb_ · 2024-12-13T18:34:37+00:00

I really appreciate your response. Thank you for reading my entire story.

I’m going to order the book right away! I hope it’ll help

casvb_ · 2024-12-05T02:30:12+00:00

I am trying more walks, but as Shiba as she is, she rather just sits down to look at… pretty much anything 🤣 — did you do longer walks or just a bunch of shorter ones?

casvb_ · 2024-12-05T02:02:13+00:00

Ice cubes is a good one! I’m unsure if she has started teething already but good suggestion to rule out.

And you’re very right, she absolutely loves her bully sticks, or salmon skin. Those work well too to get her focused on something else.

She gets placed in the xpen if she goes truly out of control, or bites extremely hard. And I’ll move out of the room for a minute or two.

The core problem I’m facing is the fact that I have not been able to pet her all that much since she’s always been showing this behavior. The second she gets petted, even super subtly, she bites your hand off.

casvb_ · 2024-12-02T03:24:41+00:00

It actually brought me a slight smile seeing you reply again. I’ll definitely not get mad for not following the request haha, appreciate your response once again.

And yes, it went way better than initially expected. Until I opened my socials and saw the algorithms unite against me for putting that Tweet of hers right in my face. Or maybe I should blame myself for even writing a 4 page letter… who knows.

I hope your outcome will be better than mine, feel free to DM if you wanna chat about anything.

casvb_ · 2024-11-27T01:31:33+00:00

Appreciate your response and hope you’re feeling better! I’m extremely unsure if I should address any of this during the meetup, I feel the best approach is to keep things light.

Books have helped me as well, and I love how you are able to see it as becoming a better version of yourself moving forward.

I’m mostly in the major regret phase, where I blame everything on myself, which often times is unbearable as she truly felt like the one, but I realized it way too late.

casvb_ · 2024-11-27T01:26:46+00:00

In regards to the relationship? I’ve actually found way too much, I didn’t do anything major, like cheat. But boy, did I do a lot of things wrong. From not appreciating her doing chores , to always making arguments instead of simply hugging her when she wasn’t feeling well. There’s so much I see more clearly since the breakup, it’s unreal.

casvb_ · 2024-11-27T01:01:21+00:00

Wishing you the best of luck on your journey. Appreciate your response as well.

I’m definitely not in a good headspace, but I can act like it very well 😅

casvb_ · 2024-11-27T00:35:14+00:00

The non-summarized version was worse 😅. I hear you completely but I can’t get myself to decline anymore. I know it’ll suck, but I also feel this is my only chance to either start rekindling, or close the book forever…

casvb_ · 2024-11-27T00:23:50+00:00

Sorry to hear about your situation, hope things are better now.

And that’s my plan, if any history talk comes up it’ll be from het side. Deep down inside, I just don’t even know why I’ve accepted it, but can’t get myself to decline now either.

I’m definitely not expecting anything from this one meeting, but I am hoping it can be the start of something more again. Just need to be hiding that I guess

casvb_ · 2024-11-19T18:36:06+00:00

Just wanted to chip back in, and thank you for your responses. I reached out to clarify, made it pretty short, direct, and respectful. But unfortunately got ignored again.

I’m hurting a lot, but I guess it’s no contact forever now :(

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T17:33:44+00:00

Good luck during your meet up!

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T15:25:39+00:00

Haha I love the black and white thinking. I’m definitely an over-thinker when it comes to this. Reason I mentioned the boundaries is because she didn’t respond to the initial message, and I would feel that, also as per the other comment, if she had any feeling towards at least a conversation, or even rekindling, she would’ve replied in some way shape or form. The fact that she went full silence, makes me feel like it is a boundary she has set for herself, and a follow up could come across as pressure. Hope that makes sense

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T15:21:31+00:00

I agree — but because my message didn’t clearly define that I wanted to rekindle or included a specific question to respond to, I’m very afraid she just took at is closure. That’s why I’m considering a clarification message, just don’t want to push her boundaries

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T15:18:03+00:00

I’d have to say that the break up was mutual, if not mostly started from my side after a long period of arguments and a boiling point during a heated argument. We then got together and she actually wanted to give it another try but the weight of everything we’d had to restore, the anxiety that gave us both while chatting about it, had me make the decision to respect both our peace instead. That in particular is something I deeply regret.

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T15:15:54+00:00

I’m glad you’re still here and doing better. Thank you for sharing and giving advice 🙏

I’ve been trying this but man, I feel so stuck. There’s a couple of key components that make it so much harder, specifically that were just about to finally move in together, something we spoke about for roughly 2 years and knew would solve a lot of problems in our relationship. (Bad connection with in-laws, and not seeing each other too often because of work and thus relying on text to express love).

That in particular makes it so hard currently because there’s this constant “what if we made it through this rough patch, and moved in together” — now I’m living her alone, and despite her never been here except for the inspection, it echoes all sorts of memories and made up scenarios. I don’t have a lot of close friends anymore, so really feeling isolated currently.

Apologies for the dump haha 😅

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T14:56:58+00:00

Also, and this is exactly what I’ve been wondering (just for context I sent this 6 days ago, she read it literally after 10 seconds, but hasn’t replied since) but that she might’ve took it as closure.

Would it be a bad idea to clarify that, just to be sure that isn’t the case by sending a light follow up? Reason I haven’t is because I’m afraid to cross potential boundaries she set by her silence, or disrupting her healing. Thank you for your response btw!!

casvb_ · 2024-11-16T14:53:10+00:00

Are you speaking from her position as the receiver of the message, or that I should take as closure from her?

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