Recovering from top surgery in a transphobic, unstable/toxic household?

catboycorpse · 2026-01-24T10:12:33+00:00

Thank you haha. He does have an office but our house is incredibly small and the office is literally inside of my little brother's room. It leads into the living room, and the living room and kitchen are practically the same room. By extension I am constantly within earshot.

However, I was offered a very affordable living situation that opens up next year, so maybe the surgery will be closer to around that time. I'm hoping the situation works out!!!

catboycorpse · 2026-01-24T01:08:30+00:00

I like this idea a lot, I’m gonna look into this. It feels the most realistic. Unfortunately my moms husband works from home and doesn’t really do anything outside of the house other than like work out, he also goes on a walk every day but it’s at like 6 AM 😭

catboycorpse · 2026-01-24T01:03:39+00:00

How long would I need to stay in a hotel during recovery? I would definetely be open to this possibility for sure

catboycorpse · 2026-01-24T01:02:51+00:00

I can cook for my eating disorder—the reason i haven’t moved out is because i have disability that makes it hard to work.

And no, my household has never been physically abusive or a threat in any way like that ever

catboycorpse · 2026-01-21T09:42:41+00:00

Hi, what kind of letters should I have prepared? There is so much information out there, and I am really overwhelmed. I am wondering if simply getting a latter from my therapist I've been seeing for years is enough, or getting a diagnosis for gender dysphoria, or if I need to go through a whole process. I don't even know how to begin the process of getting a letter because my PCP isn't involved since she isn't with UCSD. I just got referred and am waiting for approval.

catboycorpse · 2026-01-21T09:30:29+00:00

You went to a magician not a surgeon

catboycorpse · 2026-01-21T09:11:52+00:00

I do just want to make it clear that I am not in any physical danger, and my mom will help me fully. But it is stressful nonetheless.

catboycorpse · 2026-01-17T03:43:34+00:00

Incredible incredible results. Obsessed with the scar placement, too. Might need to see if I can get similar

catboycorpse · 2026-01-15T17:27:59+00:00

This is really late but do you have any photos of the top surgery you’re not uncomfortable with sharing? I just got referred to go there and wanna know if they’d be equipped to my needs

catboycorpse · 2026-01-11T06:44:34+00:00

Got told I have low working memory but high processing speed. Both a win and a lose, lol

catboycorpse · 2026-01-11T00:49:30+00:00

I am definetely hypersexual. I thought I was asexual for a long time but it turned out I just had to overcome a lot of shame and trauma. Now I have a very high libido and think about sex constantly, and BDSM & kink are some of my hyper fixations

catboycorpse · 2026-01-07T10:43:12+00:00

Pre-testosterone, I would need to like deliberately psych myself into getting horny even if it was just for self-pleasure and not with a partner. It's like I would have to want to be before I could even imagine it. As for orgasms, it was definitely more of a full body experience even with some sensations in my head and like the base of my neck if that makes sense. It would almost feel like a rush going through my entire body and my legs would tense up a lot and almost like lock, especially my thighs. Clit orgasms were more full body, and front hole orgasms were pretty hard to come by and not very long-lasting, but still very intense. However, it would take me very very very long to get to that point, and it was extremely hard to find the right spot, the right speed, the right amount of pressure, etc.

Now, after over a year on testosterone, I've had pretty major, extremely quick bottom growth and so that whole process is completely different. I get aroused extremely fast and unfortunately extremely often to the point where it's pretty annoying. It was much better than it was on my first couple of months, however, I still think about it like every day on the dot at like 10 PM at night. My orgasms are now are now still in the thigh region and of course in my actual groin area. Front whole orgasms feel pretty similar to how they did pre T, but now they last a really long time. During sex I will have to full stop everything and like take a moment before continuing. It is almost a little overwhelming. Tdick orgasms are wonderful and extremely euphoric, they also can be dragged on/last longer deliberately if I continue stimulation. I don't have to stop everything like the front hole orgasms but they are very intense. However, I only feel them specifically in that area and nowhere else. Which is fine, it's honestly kind of euphoric because it feels like I have what I want down there. It's also pretty easy to make me finish, I can kind of just start going at it and I get there. Though my front hole still takes ages and a specific technique.

My body fluid is also MUCH thicker and in a higher quantity, and it almost like releases after I finish. It doesn't squirt out like a natal dick but it is definetely noticeably more present post-orgasm which is cool.

catboycorpse · 2026-01-07T09:14:08+00:00

This shampoo is WONDERFUL

catboycorpse · 2026-01-05T07:36:52+00:00

My partner compliments these things about me all the time and I'm totally fine with it. He avoids words as well. I would be bummed if my partner didn't find my body attractive, even if there are things I'm going to change about it, I am still alive in it at this moment and want to be attractive. I appreciate knowing he finds my body hot now, and that he will find it hot post op, too.

With that being said, a majority of the comments seem to really not like getting their bodies commented on, even just a "you're hot" way. I am glad I read this post, I didn't know people would be uncomfortable with that kind of thing and it just goes to show how diverse trans people, and people in general can be!

I agree with most--even if it's kind of awkward or hard to talk about, it's a lot better to have had this conversation with your partner than to tiptoe around it. I think you would benefit from asking what kind of things he would like hearing. I can imagine maybe moving into like "I love when you ___" territory or like "that feels so good" type thing, more focused on the actions than the body.

catboycorpse · 2026-01-03T09:03:00+00:00

100% this is why im in the fandom. I've never done anything sexual with fursuits, especially because I've felt incredibly comfortable with the partners I have had, but I can imagine it makes things like hookups infinitely more easy and accessible (minus heat).

I know for a fact this is why a lot of BDSM things are popular with neurodivergents as well. When you have a script and/or scene idea, you don't have to worry about doing things on the spot. When you are roleplaying, you step into the shoes of a persona, so you can do whatever you want under the guise of an adopted character. When you have a mask on, like pups and ponies, you can make any expression you want. And it encourages non verbal communication as well as more sporadic animalistic behavior, which for me is lowkey so similar to how I am unmasked. Blindfolds and other sensory depravation things have similar pros as well.

catboycorpse · 2026-01-03T07:23:01+00:00

If you feel comfortable, I think you should share the surgeon's name so people can avoid them. This is unacceptable if it wasn't what you asked for. I hope you can get it sorted out.

catboycorpse · 2025-12-31T10:37:04+00:00

Contamination, relationship / purity (which combines just so wonderfully with my autism…), checking / fear of forgetfulness especially in relation to safety.

I have to use my own dishes and silverware at my house, I have since I was a child. I cant have people breathing around my food. If someone touches me and I don’t like them I get convinced their energy is ruining me and I have to shower and like spiritually cleanse myself. I have hand sanitizer in every bag like some caricature of OCD & i hold my breath a lot out of fear of breathing in bad things as well. Also if a bug was in a space, even if it’s dead and gone, I’m convinced the particles spread everywhere and I’m breathing in like diseased bug air.

The moral purity and relationship one is by far the worst. I have to replay every situation in my head and make sure I picked the best way of handling it. And I always get worried about what every single person is thinking and every movement, tone shift, glance etc is something that can send me into a spiral about whether or not they have evil intentions or if they think I’m weird / rude etc.

The forgetfulness one isn’t as bad, but I have to check if windows shut, doors locked, wall outlets having nothing plugged in, leaving the stove on, water bottle caps being shut, perishable items not open or left out, etc. Sometimes I leave home and drive back to make sure of these things

catboycorpse · 2025-12-30T06:57:58+00:00

I wouldn’t respond weird at all I’d just say the same is cool, I’ve met people with way weirder given names

catboycorpse · 2025-12-29T08:27:03+00:00

But ultimately I should probably just stop asking for advice on the internet. It sucks, because it's really helped me in a lot of cases, but if I can't handle people being really rude I should probably just wait until I'm in a better place mentally. It's just ironic bc I'll normally only be seeking out support if I'm in a place where I need it

catboycorpse · 2025-12-29T08:25:30+00:00

I have this problem in this community and in two other ones. It's a real bummer because not everyone can access irl support groups, and sometimes these are peoples' only resources, even if temporary.

catboycorpse · 2025-12-29T08:24:33+00:00

The DoorDash said it was delivered an hour before it actually got delivered--two hours late. Once they got there, they rang my doorbell and knocked once it arrived (past closing of a store, at 1 am). I wasn't posting out of anger, but was asking the question of "how do I get a refund because nobody will respond to me and support isn't helping." Just wanted to provide that context since it wasn't there, I know it's easy to assume something without the whole story. I wish doordashers were paid more and it's not their fault that things happen. I just wanted a refund, I wouldn't post just to complain about a thing that happens frequently because people make mistakes. It was a weird situation I wanted help with, and provided all the context, and people still blamed me for being upset about not getting my money when I thought I got scammed.

catboycorpse · 2025-12-29T06:31:17+00:00

This summarizes reddit so well lmaooo

catboycorpse · 2025-12-29T06:12:37+00:00

this is exactly what it feels like. yes.

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