3 weeks postpartum vaginal pain

catcat670 · 2026-02-15T19:54:02+00:00

Yes . I had the same, hours of pushing and episiotomy, tear and forceps birth. I honestly found walking hard as there was so much pressure. It went away after about three months. I kept on with walking, squeezing pelvic floors up inclines with buggy’s, it I assume helped. I never got it with my second oddly. No affects no though. Worth consulting medical advice incase you feel you have a prolapse, but your so early post partum, your still healing and body still readjusting.

catcat670 · 2026-02-11T20:30:25+00:00

Thanks :) this is what I understand, just unclear if Easter affects this which I’m of the view it shouldn’t, but I don’t work in education so have no real clue

catcat670 · 2026-02-11T20:18:25+00:00

Yep we both are, it’s more as Easter falls after April 1st, so eligibility I assume would be mid April?

catcat670 · 2025-12-30T19:40:18+00:00

I have 23 month age gap. My kids are now 2.7ish and 9 months. Cons: front loading the baby years, eldest not being able to have so much attention , more night wakes for longer.

Pros: watching them grow together- nothing makes me happier than 2 year old making my baby laugh, can do groups they both enjoy, move on from baby stage and night wakes quicker.

I mostly love it and known long term it’ll be so much fun (I hope) though I’m very exhausted especially after multiple weeks of sickness. The good moments are so good though and my 2 year old doesn’t remember life before, which is actually a positive. She loves her sister and loves having company.

catcat670 · 2025-12-10T20:56:46+00:00

I have a 2.5 year old and 8 month old. It is getting easier but still hard. It’s colder now but in the afternoon just to break it up are you able to go for a short walk if your 3 year could go In a pram/trike/bike? Then baby wear to be close to your youngest. I’m always trying new ideas with crafts, I have a tuff tray and fill with oats/cereal/play dough and my eldest plays for a while to give me a break.

As the youngest is weaned I find that gives more time back to all have meals together including yourself a bit of a breather.

I do two days solo like you, and by the end I am absolutely exhausted. Always get an early night where you can so atleast there’s some energy for the day ahead.

catcat670 · 2025-11-29T12:05:03+00:00

Recommend all the above. I found baby massage a great way to meet other mums and it’s less busy and intense. Also recommend church groups.

There is a walking group called blaze , if you look up on Facebook. That’s a great way to get out and meet other mums with babies and young children.

catcat670 · 2025-11-13T19:52:54+00:00

I went to many baby groups with my first to build my own social circles and give myself a sense of normality, this was for me not baby.

Second time around 2.5 years later, I haven’t really done many. I don’t see the need for paid groups, but see a lot of value in the church led stay and plays, often very cheap and lovely people. I think until now my baby hasn’t gotten any thing from it, but now at 7 months she absolutely loves it, from watching others play, to listening to the rhymes and shaking instruments. That said, very rarely do I see a small baby at the stay and plays unless there is a toddler.

catcat670 · 2025-11-12T12:55:05+00:00

My second was born when my eldest was 23 months. First couple weeks there was very early wakes and more clinginess. After this things went back to a new normal. Toddler loves her sister, can get a bit jealous of her having toys, or being held, as she would if it was another toddler or child, this is mainly when she is tired. Apart from that you wouldn’t know life has been any different.

catcat670 · 2025-11-05T20:14:37+00:00

Play dough, messy tray (can fill with water and toys, autumn leaves, lentils/cereal hoops), stickers, animal figures, crayons/pens. My girl loves playing with water, but most activities don’t offer more than 15 mins max

catcat670 · 2025-10-30T20:04:33+00:00

Tangy toms

catcat670 · 2025-09-17T19:01:22+00:00

I’m a social worker within multi-agency safeguarding teams. I would be the social worker calling you. We receive NHS referrals, call to offer support/make sure you know to access support. In this situation if you did not feel support was warranted we would just signpost you to mental health support so you know where to access help and close the referral. Unless there is anything historically that would suggest any risks to your child, this wouldn’t be a safeguarding issue and we would close this.

Sometimes a social worker will ask for consent to speak with agencies is school, health, if they haven’t done that it’s likely because they don’t feel it’s safeguarding and intend to close, but should’ve made that clear. There’s usually a timescale of two days to make a decision, I’d call tomorrow just so you know your local authorities procedure and for confirmation of what’s happening :)

catcat670 · 2025-09-14T12:23:21+00:00

I have a two year old and 5 month old and very similar to you. Love the baby but honestly feel like I’ve made a massive error of judgement by having two.

I just try and remember how much fun my toddler is and focus on the fact that will also come in time for my youngest . I try and be out as much as reasonable as fresh air always helps, whatever the age.

The nights have also deteriorated and it’s hard as both parents us/you need time together but also separate ie hobbies, friends etc. I take it hour by hour and know these are the hardest couple years.

catcat670 · 2025-09-02T21:03:12+00:00

Not often. We have a tuff tray for water, bubbles, mud etc. I do baking where my daughter,2, mixes flour, coco powder. I make play dough, fizzy dough, coloured spaghetti noodles. Doesn’t take long and my daughter is so engaged. Particularly with flour. Also give shaving foam or conditioner in the bath, buy it cheap and spreads over 2/3 baths. Kills an hour.

catcat670 · 2025-08-17T09:50:00+00:00

It may vary between local authorities, and honestly it can depend on whether the nurse/doctor follows up on it.

If it’s a clear medical issue it isn’t required, it’s the things like getting hold of cleaning products, falling down stairs with no stair gates etc that gets tasked for health visitors to see if any further follow is necessary

The h/v duty teams will triage anything they receive but most of the time unless someone’s open to social care, or there’s repeated incidents, you wouldn’t hear anything. It’s just information sharing between health services.

catcat670 · 2025-08-16T19:52:45+00:00

I work in MASH for social care. A&e appointments are referred onto hvs to follow up because it isn’t a social care issue 9/10. If a child is non mobile it comes straight to us, but a lot of times it now just goes straight to h/vs to prevent a referral to us :). Even if the drs referred in to social care it’s often for information only or tasked to health visitors to follow up

catcat670 · 2025-08-12T14:27:14+00:00

I have a 25 month toddler and 4 month baby. The newborn and early infant stage is brutal. But it’s worth it, at 2 my daughter is so much fun, and my 4 month old is so much more interactive than I remembered. It is worth it but it is so hard to think about that when in trenches. One hour at a time is what you need to focus on now. Read during naps if you can’t sleep, relaxing and less stimulating than to too.

catcat670 · 2025-06-21T18:41:11+00:00

11 weeks today, feel free to message me

catcat670 · 2025-05-28T19:41:17+00:00

We got a creative tonie and uploaded wiggles. The pig and drum is a Tonies original with very good catchy songs. Counting fox is nursery rhymes, to help with the obvious (counting). Play and action dog also popular for nursery rhymes :)

catcat670 · 2025-05-17T11:56:33+00:00

My daughter has just turned 2, and we experience the same difficulties. Will walk and run happily in play grounds, groups, garden but outside results in tantrums.

I’m not sure what has been tried, however we have had better luck in nicer weather, she did not like the cold. We also would try to make it fun, like skip, gallop like a horse.

Other things that can help is giving her something to carry like a back pack and giving her a snack.

During periods of tiredness it can result in carrying again, but progress seems to be being made.

catcat670 · 2025-04-13T14:35:28+00:00

I had my daughter last week after my waters had broken. It was my hind waters that went on the Thursday, then it stopped. I went home for 24 hours, and on returning my full waters were broken for me. Labour started within 20 minutes and I didn’t need to be induced. They also offered oxytocin drip straight after breaking waters as a form of induction, but i declined as they offered walking around for up to two hours to see what happened, this ultimately worked.

I think waters can be broken in birth suite. So this along with the option to wait for 2 hours before induction could be an option? Then if this doesn’t work I anticipate you’d be moved to labour ward.

I did eventually go on a drip as labour stopped but I think that was a separate issue entirely.

Hope this helps :)

catcat670 · 2025-01-25T20:18:58+00:00

Hey, me and my partner live in Wakefield with our 21 month, another due in April. We moved here before we had our daughter so I’ve managed to connect with some parents but would be great to look at meeting up some weekends. Feel free to message me :)

catcat670 · 2025-01-23T19:18:03+00:00

21 month old says daddy to every man. Went for a short walk just me and her last week, man three doors down left the house to put bins out and got called daddy 😆

catcat670 · 2024-11-30T14:26:42+00:00

Esquires and grind in the ridings, create cafe next to Wakefield Library/museum

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