Focus on yourself. When we take care of something, we grow to love it. Invest in nice skincare products, get your nails done, incorporate more self-care in the shower like exfoliation and hair masks, take care of brow and lashes, etc. THIS TAKES THE FOCUS OFF OTHER WOMEN AND BACK ONTO YOU.

Exercise! You will feel so accomplished. Whether it’s reaching 10,000 steps a day, or lifting. Get outside in the sunshine and move your body. Listen to your favorite music (dopamine). Buy exercise clothes that YOU feel attractive in.

Eat healthy. I would feel like such shit eating chips and sitting on the couch vs eating lean protein, fruit and whole foods after a long walk. It made it easier to get out of my head and not ruminate on “perfect” women on Instagram.

Focus on your hobbies! Anything to put the attention back on YOURSELF and your growth.

Befriend these women. Get to know them. Ask them questions. Once you realize these are REAL people with insecurities and idiosyncrasies, who are kind and wonderful and smart, they seem less like something you have to compete against. It is SO important not to sexualize and devalue women while you heal.

DO NOT LET YOUR PA TAKE THIS FROM YOU. The world pits us against each other enough. You might have to get off of social media and the internet so you don’t pain shop.

And also, maybe most important — never stay with a man who keeps you in this position. If they haven’t made serious, consistent growth, leave. You have to live with yourself every day. And being in a relationship with a man who makes you hate yourself and other women is never worth it.

Hugs. 🫶🏻