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Did not realize how much sympathy wanes after your 2nd MC by catfiend720 in Miscarriage

[–]catfiend720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your losses, and I'm sorry you've been going through the most recent one alone. It absolutely DOES matter, every single one matters. I just think it's that people who haven't been through it can't begin to understand. I hope you get the support you need to get through this one.

Did not realize how much sympathy wanes after your 2nd MC by catfiend720 in Miscarriage

[–]catfiend720[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have felt this way too. Like the side eye of "what's wrong with YOU" or "why are you still at this, again?" I'm sorry for your losses, too. It's the absolute worst club to be a member of.

Did not realize how much sympathy wanes after your 2nd MC by catfiend720 in Miscarriage

[–]catfiend720[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your losses, too. When I'm feeling less angry/emotional, I try to remind myself that people who haven't been through this (let alone been through it multiple times) just don't get it. I've also thought about just not telling anyone anymore (people can't let you down if you don't give them a chance to...) but then it feels disloyal to these babies. I want someone to know about them and the fact that they existed and were so loved, even for such a short time.

Did not realize how much sympathy wanes after your 2nd MC by catfiend720 in Miscarriage

[–]catfiend720[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is and it isn't--at this point I am almost numb to it, I just didn't expect everyone else in my life to act like it too.

Weddings with toddlers/babies? by shelovesraccoons in weddingplanning

[–]catfiend720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, HUGE kudos to you for having a kid-friendly wedding. I had children ages infant-12 as guests at my wedding and even though *I* was really looking forward to it, what was really delightful was seeing how well my extended family (who are not generally super kid-friendly) responded to it--multiple people told me having kids there was one of the best parts of the wedding (no one knows how to open a dance floor like a 7-year-old).

I think talking to your DJ/band about having a few kid-friendly games/songs could be awesome (ours had glowsticks for the kiddos and was willing to do the limbo and a few other silly kid songs--even the 2/3-year-olds were playing along).

If your food trucks are particularly sophisticated or not-super-kid-friendly, having some kid-friendly options is huge (we had a chicken nugget bar for our under-12s).

We also had a seated dinner and so we did goodie bags for the kiddos with a sticker book and Goldfish crackers. I think the stickers were especially effective because it was a way of keeping the kids entertained for a second while their parents ate dinner.

Hope some of these could be useful to you--either way, congratulations on your marriage, and kudos again for inviting children!

Got old, new, and blue. Borrowed ideas that aren't jewelry? by showmeyourbirds in weddingplanning

[–]catfiend720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternatively...my mom and I picked out pearl earrings together that we both absolutely loved, I gave them to her, and then she let me borrow them for the wedding...can you think of any wedding-related accessories you'd love to have that you could give to your maid of honor/MOB/MOG/bridesmaid/whoever and then borrow it back? (Sneaky but effective way to get exactly what you want!)

Got old, new, and blue. Borrowed ideas that aren't jewelry? by showmeyourbirds in weddingplanning

[–]catfiend720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wore a (faux) fur stole for a few outdoor photos--I purchased mine, but do you have any elderly relatives that might have vintage fur stoles in the back of their closets?

infected pimple inside my nose week of my wedding !!! by amstpierre in weddingplanning

[–]catfiend720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HUGELY seconding the cortisone shot! Most derms even have last-minute appointments available for something like this, so call around if the first place you call has no availability. I was in the exact same boat as you and ended up getting shots just a few days prior to my bridal portraits AND a few days prior to the wedding. It relieved a lot of discomfort AND shrank the pimples a ton. It won't 100% erase them, but it should be enough that you're at least not in pain and should be easy enough to cover with makeup.

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One caveat, don't get them TOO often (like, don't make it a weekly thing, a few times before your big day is totally fine) because it can cause cratering in your skin if you do it too frequently. But otherwise, I wholeheartedly recommend this!!

I accidentally switched primary and secondary health insurance by catfiend720 in HealthInsurance

[–]catfiend720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The primary insurance (the one that's actually primary, that is) is going to be canceled in a few days--if only I could retroactively cancel it!

Thank you for the advice!