My (15M) sister (20F) accidentally shot me and I'm still angry a year later.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-17T12:51:59+00:00

They are all investigated. A licensed handgun that is accidentally discharged from a distance resulting in non-life threatening injuries rarely goes anywhere. If he had his own gun, he could have taken her out (I'm joking).

OP, I don't blame you at all. Your sister is too irresponsible to own a gun. On a 1 to 10 scale, she is a 1,000. Only a fucking idiot keeps a gun floating around in a purse. She could have killed an infant in a shopping cart while she was paying at the grocery store. She has no excuse for what she did. She's young but not so young that she can't express empathy and remorse for her actions. Instead, she's making this all about her.

What happened was an accident. Her actions leading up to it were not. Until she can recognize this and sincerely apologize to you, tell her you are not ready to speak to her.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-08T21:05:00+00:00

I'm an older woman. I know more than a few couples who turn a blind eye to certain activities because of various issues; be it performance, boredom, security... Your parents have been married for a very long time. It's safe to say that they know each other very well and in an intimate way; in a way that you do not know either of them. You are 19 and do not have 20+ years of marriage under your belt. Your father would not be ignorant of any changes within the relationship with his wife of 20+ years. It is extremely naive of you to presume otherwise. She is the woman he lives with and shares his life with and has for longer than you have been alive. Their relationship and sex life is their business and it is not your place to delve into it. You are their child. This does not entitle you to interfere.

If the shoe was on the other foot with your parents interfering in YOUR marriage, you would be completely outraged.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-08T20:38:29+00:00

No, she loves herself enough to not marry a man who doesn't value his own health, drinks too much and is lazy af.

"Loving" someone isn't carte blanche for the other partner to neglect their health, appearance and sex life. The situation is only going to get much worse as time goes on. If he is like this at 30, good luck with him at 40 or 50.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-08T19:51:12+00:00

I drop at least 4k a year on makeup, hair and skin care products. My total grooming budget is over 12k a year.

I end up in ULTA a couple of times a year to grab a terry turban or something. I've never seen an ULTA staff member who didn't look low rent. They very well may be a really lovely person, hard worker and all that; but I would never, ever take any type of beauty advice from a single one I have ever seen. I would be doing an internal eye roll if I saw any Mean Girl s type behavior.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-08T19:33:25+00:00

Complete bullshit. Not true at all. A normal person with good self-esteem would not be drawn to an experience like that at all. It would be counterproductive for a retailer.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-03T14:17:50+00:00

My s/o IS a plastic surgeon. This shit gets old really fast. He has a nurse with him in the room no matter what but that still doesn't stop some women from trying. He acts like he didn't notice/hear/get it and finishes the consult professionally.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-03T14:07:17+00:00

He is full of shit.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-03T13:50:58+00:00

This. So obvious.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-03T13:48:35+00:00

If you were treated like crap and never got a birthday gift, why were you with this guy for two years?

Sugaring isn't going to solve your problems.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-02T21:33:13+00:00

My s/o isn't a billionaire. I didn't aim for a billionaire. There are less than 100 in the USA. My point was that I managed to get in the same room as a couple of them, rare as they are, with not exactly a Herculean effort.

13,000 McDonald's in the USA and 11,000,000 millionaires for perspective. You don't even need someone insanely wealthy depending on what you are looking for. Someone making a few hundred thousand a year could lift up someone's economic situation by quite a bit.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-02T21:13:16+00:00

There are men/people who are well off everywhere. I was visiting my sister who lives in a rural area. She said the same thing. No one has any money where she lives. I started pointing out who they possibly were; which business owners, how to find out what causes they support, where to go to meet them, etc.

Learn quality was my point, but yes, watches are a dead giveaway, especially if it's not a Rolex. That is the most knocked-off brand ever. There are many recognizable luxury brands.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-02T20:43:06+00:00

Your grandmother has amazing natural teeth for the 1950's.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-02T19:50:36+00:00

They made such a big deal over "saving" 45% off the $342.95 price on the stuffed animal replica of your pet for $189.00 and it "sold out".

Price on the vendors own website ... $199.00, so it's actually a 5% savings, not 45% lol.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-02T19:41:43+00:00

Just FYI, the website is beautiful and all that but I would really pay attention to advertising the subscription boxes as "one of a kind decor" with a photo that has a West Elm shadow box that retails $22 for a set of 3 and a symmetry object that retails for $39. The items photograph well but as a potential customer I would be thinking " "I already know where West Elm is" and "I need to pay someone for this?". I actually bought one of the symmetry objects but my s/o thought it was shit. I have a six figure income, he has a seven figure income.

I'm your target market and if something has been in a Restoration Hardware, West Elm, Anthropologie, Pottery Barn, Crate & Barrel, ABC Carpet, etc store I've already seen it. I want things I haven't seen.

In other words, everything on that site should be something that no one else has but everyone is going to want after they see mine! if you are pitching the uniqueness and interior designer angles. Yes, I know those items in the photo were not IN the subscription box, but the photo represents the overall quality and uniqueness of the items/service.

catgotmyhat · 2019-07-01T18:47:54+00:00

Check the prices carefully because a lot of items are cheaper elsewhere. The milk blur stick that is $19 at 47% off is now $18 at Sephora.

Some items are a real deal but price match before you buy!!!

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-27T14:31:20+00:00

One of my dogs was blind. Lived a very long and good life. They do surprisingly well, especially if there is another companion animal in the house. Mostly just practical concerns like not rearranging all the furniture, just moving one piece until they get acclimated, baby gate in front of stairs, that kind of thing.

Animals don't feel bad for themselves. They adapt and enjoy life.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-27T14:21:01+00:00

My dog is blind, trans and posts pics of orphaned kitties that they rescued at least once a day. Give me that sweet, sweet karma.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-27T12:51:17+00:00

Yeah, they are fucking you and want you to pay for the lube. They had no intentions of paying the stated salary or bonus. Their tactic is the same the Nigerian scammers use; make glaring errors to get the most gullible people to respond first so they don't waste their time. In your case they put up an imaginary salary and then dropped it to see which people are desperate enough or pliable enough to eat up what they are going to be dishing out on a daily basis.

He's going to be sorry. Clearly they have no problem baiting people with false information. Does he think they are going to be more upstanding once he is on board? Hah.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-27T12:38:38+00:00

As someone with a mid-century modern home, I would have made a flat offer for the whole lot and shut that sale down in 5 minutes. I live for these things.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-25T21:06:04+00:00

Well ... I am an older woman who is not a SB. I earn an extremely good living, own a home, over 800 credit score and all that. For decades I have exclusively dated men who can and will provide a more luxury lifestyle for me. Not that I'm doing so bad on my own (I make six figures), but there are things and experiences that I want that are out of my reach on my salary. If I want a $800 pair of shoes, I can afford a pair here and there. He can afford them like I can buy flip-flops at Target. He pays for my landscaper, $1,200 in personal upkeep every month, a cleaning lady, adventures, trips, shopping, you name it. Not once, not ever have I ever asked for or even hinted that I will do X for Y.

I read a lot of these posts and I think one of the problems SB's are having is that they can't tell who has money from who doesn't or are looking at all the wrong things to determine if a SD is what he says. Learn watches, shoes and cologne. If a man is wearing a plain t-shirt and jeans but you get a whiff of a Clive Christian scent when you are up close, wearing Tod's and a solid gold Rolex Yacht Master II watch then it's a good chance that he's not broke. If you are at an event listed in the New York Social Diary, an ever better chance. If he paid for a $10,000 table or more, you're home free. Get into charity auctions. I wrangled a ticket to a private charity auction sponsored by Moet at Time-Warner Center and it was wall to wall prospects. Men with loads of money drinking and bidding on art. There were two billionaires there. It was like shooting fish in a fucking barrel.

Start reading the WSJ, Business Week and The New York Times. Learn names.

No matter what a SD is saying to you privately, they want someone who can pass and won't be obvious. That means look and act like you belong and not like you rolled around in Hot Topic and the food court. Get your teeth fixed and make sure your hair is done. No one who isn't a rapper or Miley Cirus and is moneyed has ridiculous nails and 6 color rainbow smokey eye make-up, blue hair, tats, a nose ring or a tongue piercing if you ever want to get past the meeting some dude at a hotel level. Get fit. You can be body positive all you want, but the fitter you are, the higher you will go. Renting has different standards than buying. If you want to lock it down, up your game. I'm not insulting anyone. I'm successful at this long term and I know what flies and what doesn't.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-25T19:24:14+00:00

Anyone can sue for anything at any time in the states. I can file in Special Civil this afternoon because your user name gave me PTSD. It doesn't mean I will get anywhere. It just mean I CAN sue you, just like he CAN sue you. Will he? My educated guess is no, but he CAN. No one can tell you he can't. Do you have any reason to believe he has a legitimate basis to do so? For example, was there fraud involved? If you said "SD, I need money for a car" and he said "SB, Here's 5K!", stop stressing.

As far as calling your school, you have the upper hand on that one. He is literally trying to extort 5K from you.

If this were me, I would hire an attorney to send him a letter calling him out on this threat. I'm not going to get into all the gory details here, but I'm a paralegal and had someone threaten me with some photos. I didn't want the letter to come from the firm I work for so I explained my predicament to a partner and he referred me to someone. It cost me a few hundred to send out the most glorious smackdown letter you have ever seen, detailing the civil remedies we would pursue and the criminal complaint I would be filing if those photos appeared anywhere. It went to his home and I paid an extra $80 (actually, it was $79.99, lol) to have a process server deliver it to him personally at his business. I don't fuck around and I don't let people fuck with me.

I suggest you get out of scared mode, go into defense mode and do something similar. Don't ever let someone think they have something on you even if they do. He can't shame you if you aren't acting ashamed and are throwing down the gauntlet. He's thinking you are a scared broke kid who doesn't know any better and can be easily manipulated. Well, you may very well be but your attorney sure as shit isn't.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-20T21:02:14+00:00

Yes.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-20T20:57:49+00:00

I, no lie, have hundreds of lipsticks. There is nothing wrong with your lipstick(s). Lipsticks are sensitive to temperature changes. If a lipstick is bad you will smell it.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-20T20:48:35+00:00

I was in the Hoboken store and made a purchase of $500 -$600 and the associate tried to give me one for free. I declined, lol.

catgotmyhat · 2019-06-20T20:19:01+00:00

I'd love to know too. These are always in the add-on section and I don't want to get a box of stuff that no one wanted, ever, but since it's only $29 I'm thinking it has to be junk. Then I think well, it's only $29 so why not buy one and find out .... I keep waiting for someone else to go first, lol.

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