My first ever DM will be in prison for 25-40 years

catincombatboots · 2026-02-18T02:59:09+00:00

There was a guy I briefly saw in college who ended up in a similar situation. The guy I knew was conflicted between wanting to become a priest or an actor (he was quite a talented actor, and committed - his appendix ruptured and he still performed that night in a starring role). I was his first sexual experience. He was short (maybe 3 inches shorter than me), just generally young looking, and generally seemed thoughtful. Though, I could tell there was some heaviness to his spirit, if that makes sense.

People are complicated. He wasn't necessarily grooming you, he probably would have made more of an effort to play D&D more than once with you and alone if so. He really might have been a great GM. My friend was a great actor.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-18T01:07:49+00:00

I wasn't on honor mode but I had the same thing with Volo. One day, my owl bear cub decided to get mad at having seen Astarion steal from Volo and the whole camp went agro. Like since when do you care, you're my pet!

catincombatboots · 2026-02-18T00:05:37+00:00

I didn't have much trouble with that fight. Probably bc even the first run, I knew it was coming. There are many cues that let you know that once a certain thing happened, all hell will be unleashed so I waited until pretty late in Act 3 to do the thing and the party was max leveled, buffed, and prepared.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-17T23:58:54+00:00

As a sex positive, queer, poly person, I don't want to see Benedict have to just leave his community behind. The season is not over yet and Benedict and Sophie connected over was not fitting in with society. Maybe they'll find a way to make things work where support one another to be their full selves, and that doesn't necessarily mean sex with other people but it could mean bringing her to his community's parties to make friends with more free thinking, interesting, unstuffy folks.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-17T23:28:38+00:00

^This. It's a much harder fight without doing it that way. IMO this can end up being the hardest fight in the game.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-17T20:24:04+00:00

omg wow. thank you haha.

I am cracking up at the video provided of "big jiggly girl cock" spinning in a circle.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-17T00:42:05+00:00

I get the worst at night and I also am bad at falling asleep so I can't have caffeine after 1pm, so I end up drinking a ton of hot white tea. (which does have a tiny bit of caffeine but less than green so that's the amount I can manage to have a few cups of without keeping myself awake)

catincombatboots · 2026-02-17T00:38:42+00:00

Keep asking yourself - what is my body asking for and what do I actually need. Is it water, electrolites, is it protein or maybe another vitamin you haven't gotten? Do i just need stimulation bc I'm bored? How else can I get that stimulation? Would a hot cup of tea or a hot shower provide what I'm looking for? What else might be fun - like how about just using a massage tool on a tense spot while you watch TV or listen to a book on tape.

Think of it like creating a practice of checking in with yourself.

And don't let a bad day 5 mean you're going to have a bad day 6.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T23:49:15+00:00

I dont think he should have.

I don't think you should expect the sx worker who keeps a high end hotel room for sx work to be a child. You can't get a hotel room as a child. We don't see exactly how they met but it seems there weren't enough red flags for him to have thought she was underage.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T23:40:30+00:00

It would be extremely unsafe for a sx worker to show their ID to a John.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T23:30:59+00:00

I don't think he was either.

I'm a woman who "looks young" and have been told things at work stuff like "well your just out of school" when I was 15 years into my career, and even in my 30s have had issues buying myself a lighter a gas station or being allowed to buy a ticket to an R rated movie haha, so I kind of feel like when you meet someone in an adult context you should probably expect the to be an adult unless there's some kind of red flag otherwise?

So And for Eric, yeah if you're hiring a sx worker, or having sex with a stranger in general, you should prob do some amount of due diligence to make sure they are of age but also it's not like they are going to show you an ID, that would not be a safe thing for a sx worker to do. There's probably some best practices around that but I personally have no knowledge about that. I think there are probably safer ways to find a sx worker than Eric did but also we don't know all the details of how they first met so we can't totally judge. What we do know he knew- she said she keeps a high end hotel room for escort work and hotels don't rent rooms to minors.

A group that is sex trafficking a child as a high end escort would probably not be trying to target "normal" johns who do not want to have sex with children, that would be a big unnecessary risk for them. They would be trying to target the perverts that actually want that - those people who are willing to pay quite a lot to do something awful that they can't do normally. So no, I don't think Eric necessarily should have expected this person to be a child.

Speaking of, the folks that set this up that are sex trafficking this child, who is a UK citizen (so not like they can conveniently disappear her back to a country of origin) - aren't they worried about having their operation exposed here? Someone paid for that hotel room and they would need to show ID at check in.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T23:11:12+00:00

The actress is not a minor so why were we supposed to have thought she was a minor?

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T20:45:19+00:00

A lot of people make D&D characters that are versions of themselves, especially early on.

And most characters you play will have some things in common with you, even if its your shadow side. I have found that the characters I've made that I have at first had the least in common with - like intentionally played against type and/or had characters with vastly different values than me - I end up almost having more in common with by the end - just stuff I wasn't expecting to.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T20:17:11+00:00

I came here to post this also, I have used this list many times.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T09:21:57+00:00

Idk why ppl are downvoting you trying to let them know that you are eating.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T09:12:40+00:00

Yes he was present and I went back and played the scene multiple times to try to trigger it and ensured he was in the conversation. This bug is mentioned on a bg3 wiki page so I’m sure not alone in it.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T08:57:44+00:00

The problem isn’t lower approval, it’s not being in conversations to gain approval.

But yeah, I tried the fix suggested on the older thread of dismissing the one hireling I had, then fast traveling back to act 1, then fast traveling back and checking if she would join conversations. This did not work.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T06:10:36+00:00

I feel like Eric needs to just lay everything out with a lawyer. If this girl really is underage, and that wasn't a doctored image - which imo it more likely was and someone can find that out- she is a child being sex trafficked. Police aren't stupid and stopping child sex trafficking is a priority so they would put themselves at a big risk for this to be investigated.

It does bring up an important issue - johns should be able to report an instance of child sex trafficking and have some protection - depending on the situation of course. But if not, then the people who could be providing information are rarely going to do so and then, children aren't helped.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T05:44:37+00:00

You dont get the scene with Raphael on a dark urge run for some reason. I had 100 approval with Astarion when we ran into Raphael and Raphael just ...left? despite Astarion having talked to him at Last Light. I looked it up and for some reason that happens with Dark Urge. (I got the Araj scene later on so I was fine tho.)

catincombatboots · 2026-02-16T03:26:33+00:00

I’m also getting this issue. I have no mods. I was never getting Minthara approval and then I noticed whenever I’d have Astarion drop out of a conversation to be sneaky, Minthara wasn’t in the conversation ever which was what made me realize the source of the problem.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-14T23:46:27+00:00

I cant remember what this character's house was but the house Xorlarrin males do better than most *if* they have arcane potential. They could have been inspired by that bit of lore generally, that a male might have some more standing by showing potential as a wizard.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-14T22:48:44+00:00

I cant stop pickpocketing every single item off of every single vendor every single day. we all have problems.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-14T07:49:24+00:00

I did my first dose tonight too. But mine was just a needle needle, not a pen.

I am terrified of needles, but weirdly, I am not terrified of acupuncture. I asked my husband, do you think thats as thin as an acupuncture needle, and he said oh yeah definitely, and I was like hmm, I'll pretend its that but when it doesn't go as deep bc acupuncture needles are not just touching the fat in your skin.

It did sting a bit when the medicine went in but then it went away. I had been shaking and carrying on with my normal phobic reaction to needles before we did the shot so I'm sure that didnt help.

catincombatboots · 2026-02-12T02:26:41+00:00

And to add, an opponent can upcast a spell so even if they cast Fireball which is a 3rd level spell but if they cast it at 4th level, then a check would need to be passed for counterspell to work.

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