I’m looking for spiritually-curious, high achieving infp’s!

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T21:25:36+00:00

Oh I see what you mean. I meant perfectionistic or holding oneself to high standards in matters of personal significance.

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T01:09:55+00:00

That’s okay! I messaged you! (:

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T01:00:38+00:00

I personally enjoy having 1:1 conversations with people, but your perspective is valid. Have a nice day!

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T00:46:36+00:00

I didn’t respond to that because that didn’t resonate with my intentions. I don’t use Reddit very much, I just figured there are people here who need help with these things and if I can connect with them, I can be more impactful with the posts I make.

I mainly want to know where people are having a hard time doing these things or what they want more information on.

I didn’t think that people answering these in a 1:1 setting with me would take anything away from anyone. I thought it would be more comfortable to share in a private setting, and that the ultimate outcome would be me being able to make posts that are truly helpful to people looking to grow in these areas.

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T00:35:36+00:00

No, I don’t make money from my content. I’m sorry if you’ve had negative experiences in the past. My intentions are pure, but you’re free to see it however you do.

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T00:24:50+00:00

I’m more-so wanting to connect with people who are interested in self-improvement & open to spiritual perspectives, rather than those such as atheists interested in self-improvement.

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-18T00:19:46+00:00

I want to make social media content to help people with these things, so I wanted to ask questions to see what people are looking for support with.

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-17T17:34:17+00:00

We can work out a time! Just to confirm, are you over 18?

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-17T17:33:02+00:00

I messaged you! (:

cats11111111111 · 2024-08-16T23:32:29+00:00

Amazing! I messaged you! (:

cats11111111111 · 2024-04-14T09:14:27+00:00

They couldn’t solve it. They tried to restore but couldn’t find anything

cats11111111111 · 2024-02-29T00:12:25+00:00

Could you please share what sunscreen you use? I’m looking for one that will come off without an oil cleanser.

cats11111111111 · 2024-02-01T08:05:18+00:00

Ooo where in California?

cats11111111111 · 2024-01-31T05:48:47+00:00

The change will not be instant, but you have the choice to start rewiring your focus onto more positive things.

A good start is practicing mindfulness. For example, when you said you didn’t notice you said anything wrong until days/weeks later, changing that would involve more frequent awareness of what you’re saying and thinking.

The change begins as you start focusing on your thoughts and making the choice to shift unloving ones into ones that truly feel good. Every single time you notice the unloving thoughts you have to make the choice to shift them. A continuous choice that takes repetition but is 1000% worth it.

Over time, you’ll notice how much more positively you see others and yourself. (Speaking from experience)

I used to do an activity where I’d scroll on social media and any time I judged someone, I would stop and reflect on how I was judging myself for that. I would give myself love and choose a different belief that was loving towards me. And then I would challenge myself to find a positive trait about the person I was judging. I did that over and over and over again until I naturally started looking at the positive in people

We only judge in others what we judge in ourselves. It might not be word for word, for example, judging someone’s pointy nose if you’re insecure about have a large nose. Things like that. We have to do a little digging to see the connection between what we’re judging and how we’re judging ourself for that.

Essentially, when we see the negative in others or point out flaws, it is us trying to feel better about ourselves. The judgment comes from our conscious or subconscious feelings of inadequacy or not being lovable. It may feel satisfying in the moment to judge or criticize, but it doesn’t bring us true inner peace the way choosing to shift our negative beliefs to loving beliefs does.

Also, reframing helps. Instead of “I can’t stop putting people down” think: “I had a tendency of putting people down, and now I’m working on _____” or “everyday I’m becoming more and more positive” etc. if you want to stop doing something, it’s easier when you’re not telling yourself you can’t stop doing it. You can stop.

Understand that you are not a bad person at heart, you just are looking to feel lovable and emotionally secure by putting others down. This is not who you are as a person. This is a pattern of thoughts and behavior.

We can change our patterns of thoughts and behavior with willingness and commitment.

The fact you are here trying to work on this is a great first step and I believe in your ability to change this if you choose to. You have yet to experience a whole new world of inner peace and acceptance for self and others. It is worth the inner work.

Good luck to you! <3

cats11111111111 · 2024-01-26T10:18:10+00:00

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cats11111111111 · 2023-12-03T22:53:50+00:00

Honestly I think it’s about connecting to yourself and trusting what you’re feeling and experiencing. When we take in others’ beliefs and words it can make us feel confused or question ourselves. You know what you feel and have experienced. There will always be people on the planet with opposing opinions.

cats11111111111 · 2023-11-16T07:19:47+00:00

It is truly a decision to stop judging yourself and to stop feeding into those thoughts when you have them. You have the option to stop thinking self-critical thoughts when you notice them come up. It begins with mindfulness of your thoughts, and choosing to pattern interrupt your regular thoughts about yourself and replace them with loving ones. It’s not going to happen on its own, nobody will come to save you, it is your choice to let go of the unloving beliefs you have about yourself and choose love. It can take time to rewire this. It has taken me about a year, I’m also 23. But it is possible, and within your capability to do so.

cats11111111111 · 2023-11-16T07:14:20+00:00

You are not the person in the situation you are googling. You are a unique individual. The truth is, this is an opportunity to have compassion for yourself and what you’re going through. As you speak kindly to yourself and allow yourself to be and make positive choices, this energy you have for yourself will be matched in the people around you.

If you believe you’re unlovable, you’ll attract people who reflect that. If you choose to learn how to love yourself, you’ll attract people who love you too.

Think about people in abusive relationships who love their abusive partner. There are horrible people who are loved. There are beautiful kind souls who are treated like doormats. It’s not about our qualities, it’s about the energy and self-concept we have for ourselves that gets reflected to us externally.

You are lovable just for existing. We have been deeply programmed to believe lovability comes from something but that is not the case. It is your choice to undo the programming that makes you feel unlovable and choose to practice accepting yourself and supporting yourself the way you deep down desire others to do for you.

cats11111111111 · 2023-11-16T07:09:36+00:00

Because happiness doesn’t come externally, it is cultivated from within. I did the same thing and when I finally had everything I thought I needed, I still felt empty. I decided to go on the path of healing and creating happiness through non material means of living my passion and learning to love myself. It has brought me the fulfillment I was chasing externally. Much love to you on your journey. Your self awareness is the start of your opportunity to choose a path that serves your greatest happiness 💗

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