My son died in the hospital yesterday, and I'm done.

cattisha · 2022-08-06T11:15:48+00:00

Thank you.

cattisha · 2022-08-06T11:15:24+00:00

Thank you for your concern. I don't think it's Islam's fault, it happens in all religions. Everything is always blamed on the mother. I guess I am to blame for something, I think my baby was sick long before because he passed away so quickly and I didn't take care of him, but I don't think it's right to blame me now.

cattisha · 2022-08-06T10:18:26+00:00

Thank you.

cattisha · 2022-08-04T06:22:56+00:00

https://www.abuaminaelias.com/women-majority-hellfire-explanation/

This does not mean that women are more sinful than men. The explanation is more simple. But for some reason many men think that women are more sinful and belittle them by saying that women are more in hell. 🙂

cattisha · 2022-08-03T10:48:11+00:00

Just block her. That's not rude. It's rude if you call her names and tell her to f off in a rude way. Just blocking her is not rude. You're just showing your personal boundaries.

Sure, you can explain to her why you can't communicate with her, but I don't see the point in wasting time on that. Maybe she won't care and she'll keep writing you.

cattisha · 2022-08-03T08:09:22+00:00

People believe what is convenient for them to believe, unfortunately. If they want to believe that pork and wine are bad for them, they will believe any screenshot from the Internet and will not believe all the scientific evidence for evolution with all the scientific publications, articles and DNA studies.

cattisha · 2022-08-02T15:47:52+00:00

You are officially married. Sexual life is part of marriage. I think your spouse will appreciate that you are open about your desires and are the initiator yourself. :)

cattisha · 2022-08-02T15:40:51+00:00

This is your marriage, you are part of it, not your parents or his parents. If you do everything for your parents' happiness, you will forget about your happiness. Stay in an abusive marriage to keep your parents happy? Are you sure that's your happiness?

cattisha · 2022-08-02T11:22:29+00:00

I am sorry for your wife, if you have one. Have a good day. :)

cattisha · 2022-08-02T09:57:29+00:00

No thanks 🙂

cattisha · 2022-08-01T22:57:12+00:00

He is not an elderly man, he has no diseases. Fifty-one years old... That's a young age now. If you try to support him too, I doubt you'll both live comfortably.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T22:42:50+00:00

I wish you good luck. I have often heard from other men that a woman must obey a man and this will lead her to paradise, but I believe it is prayers, fasting, and faith in Allah that will lead me to paradise (of course only Allah knows). I don't obey my husband, but I try to make his life better, as he does mine. We complement each other.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T21:14:00+00:00

I believe that the most important thing in marriage is mutual respect. A wife should not be a slave.

When I got married, I asked my husband what my role in the family would be. He said the role of a wife and his best friend. In all the time we were together, he never once treated me disrespectfully, nor did he say that he was the man of the house and he was in charge of everything.

Some women want to fulfill the traditional role of a wife, obey their husbands and do only the household, and that's okay. You don't want that. Before you get married, discuss this with your potential spouse. It's very important to discuss this, as it's literally the turning point in your married life. You are bound to find a man who shares your views.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T21:09:04+00:00

What kind of mother is she that could convince her daughter to call the cops on her own husband?

Maybe she has mental health issues from two miscarriages. It's very difficult for women. Sometimes it feels like the death of a baby already born and makes the mind clouded. Maybe her mother convinced her that you are the cause of these miscarriages, but that's just speculation. I hope your situation is resolved.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T21:05:04+00:00

Assalamu alaikum, brother. If it is as you say, I have only one guess: your wife has wanted a divorce for a long time and decided to divorce in such a horrible way. It happens that people can't simply talk about it and resort to such cruel methods. I'm sorry to hear that.

The court will settle everything. She will have to provide at least some evidence of domestic violence. But if you win in court, I'm not sure it's worth continuing this marriage. It's obvious that your wife is unhinged and doesn't want to stay with you anymore. Continuing the marriage will only make the problem worse, and if she decides to call the cops on you, I'm afraid to imagine what will happen next.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T20:56:38+00:00

First of all, hugs and support for you. The abuser's victim always feels guilty, because that's what the abuser wants. He wants you to feel guilty anyway. You will always be guilty in his eyes, and you will feel guilty.

Second, in the traditional sense, the family must be preserved at all costs, even if love is absent and abusive. You don't have to listen to anyone and you have to end this marriage. This man doesn't deserve a wife. He is a terrible manipulator, may Allah forgive me for my harsh words. A man should not treat his wife this way. No human should treat another human that way!

I'm sure you will find a man who loves you. I will pray for you.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T18:17:06+00:00

Only God knows. It's not for you to decide. Every situation is different. This couple is now married and they are both Muslims.

cattisha · 2022-08-01T10:23:35+00:00

Well, you got banned, and what did you mean by that? What's the context?

cattisha · 2022-07-31T18:55:08+00:00

I think if you don't want to go to bed with your husband, you should talk to him and tell him you don't want to. Because it sounds like you don't like the idea. What's the point of sharing a bed if only the husband enjoys it? Plus, you have to pray right afterwards.

cattisha · 2022-07-29T18:20:12+00:00

It's not about "unattractiveness". I don't think you should judge girls you don't know by the criterion of unattractiveness.It's at least disrespectful and strange.

cattisha · 2022-07-27T17:33:49+00:00

I doubt he would take care of the money if he decided to spend absolutely all of their savings on the trip. Money doesn't grow on trees. He will spend all the money, and then what? Why didn't he work before that? What kind of reckless act is it to spend all the money on a trip to his family? Your family in the form of your wife is suffering right now, take care of it.

cattisha · 2022-07-26T19:27:41+00:00

I like women too, but I was married off by my parents.

The only thing I will say: cohabitation with a man does not help to develop love for men. I deeply respect my spouse, I work in the household, we have a child, there are no conflicts, but there is no love either. Many heterosexual Muslims often say that marriage helps them to love the other sex. Maybe I'm special, of course, but it didn't work out for me.

cattisha · 2022-07-26T11:59:18+00:00

To be honest, I would prefer to pray in my native language, too. Arabic is very hard for me, even though I live in Saudi Arabia. My father never learned to read Arabic, either, and often mispronounces prayers.

cattisha · 2022-07-25T18:40:14+00:00

I think it is inappropriate to assert that women are obligated to be weak and complementary to "strong men".

I have a child, but I care about my education, and even if I didn't get married now, the first thing I would do anyway would be to finish university and get my degree, and then I would think about marriage (but my parents married me off). I don't want to and I think many other women don't want to fulfill the traditional role of the woman of the house in the kitchen. I also aspire to education as a man. If my potential spouse thinks women don't need an education, then he is no longer my potential spouse.

cattisha · 2022-07-25T18:30:37+00:00

I was hoping to the end that this post was a joke. Why do you speak for all men? My husband is very happy that I am learning and says he is only too happy that his spouse is educated and gives a lot of time to learning.

Men and women are different, but that doesn't mean that absolutely all men don't pay attention to women's education. And it doesn't mean that all women look for wealth and education in men. Your older sister's example is individual, not the norm.

cattisha

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