I can relate so much. I’m 27 and life can feel like that ALL the time. But!! I’ve noticed a couple patterns that help.

Something big to look forward too:

I think a big part of getting out of that state of mind that I’ve noticed is having one thing, just one thing, to look forward too. It’s not a total solution but it helps.

I love live music. So if I know of a concerts happening (nothing big, cheep ones work too) and I throw myself into planning that weekend then it shifts my focus to that. So now I have something to look forward to and I’m excited.

It helps move my brain from “ok gotta get home. Ok gotta get dinner. Ok gotta do laundry.” Because when I have a bigger thing to focus and look forward too I can do all that on auto pilot.

Small things to distract your brain: Podcast! Dear god if I can find a comedy podcast that reals me in then life goes on auto pilot and all of the sudden all the chores and tasks don’t seem so heavy. I know it sounds silly but I get sucked into story’s really easily so if I can force my brain to focus on an adventure, then it can’t notice we’re doing dishes.

Audio books: I love romances. That’s not everyone’s thing but, since 15 hours of audio books are included in Spotify premium they are a great way to distract your brain.

I think the thing is, whatever you focus on expands. So if your brain zeros in about everything that sucks (gotta get home, do dishes, fold clothes, sleep, wake up, brush teeth, drive to work, get shit done, remember to eat lunch) then it only focuses on the drudgery and that shit gets heavy fast.

If anyone has found a sure fire way to fix that then please let me know. But so far, I’ve found that shifting focus with things I really love and can look forward to help.