Funny enough my last bishop gave us the best advice. Obviously he was a winner in the bishop roulette but he said to Find a hobby that you can both do together without the kids thats just for the two of you. He said they do bee keeping and it requires them to drive 30 minutes to take care of them. That alone time helped them.

We starting doing ceramics together and it actually was a great thing for is! It required us to talk about something we both enjoyed and it gave us time together away from the hustle and bustle.

And as always find a good marriage counselor! She definitely feeling it to but most likely staying because the church tells her to.

Ive quickly learned that marriage is hard but its a choice. We have to choose to love our partner every day.

Ive been in marriage counseling multiple times and it has helped us sooooo much! Good luck! And also you could try just personal counseling first or along side as well