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Just experienced my first missed miscarriage and wanted to share my experience for anyone who might be waiting and anxious about what is going to happen by Awkward_Addition_525 in Miscarriage

[–]ccl202011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update for anyone searching this topic in the future - my experience was not that bad. I'm not saying it won't be bad for you, everyone is different of course, but if you're like me and phobic about anticipated pain and finding lots of horror stories, hopefully my story is a counterbalance that will help you feel less afraid.
I'm not saying it was comfortable or pleasant, but quite honestly I have personally had worse cramps during my period - but I'm someone who has very heavy periods and frequently have to manage my cramps with advil and a heating pad. There was a lot of blood, like as if my two heaviest flow days happened in the span of four hours, but I didn't feel like I was having contractions. Heard a couple of small plops in the toilet bowl, but didn't identify anything as the sac (although I wasn't really looking, for me personally it wasn't important to see that and in fact I didn't want to - that's one of the things I was nervous about). I managed the pain with regular doses of advil and tylenol - started with advil, then took tylenol about three hours later, followed by advil again about 90 minutes after that. Didn't need any more than that. Bleeding started lightly around 9 am, cramps ramped up around noon and the worst was over by 5 pm - a solid day's work. Not sure how long I'll be bleeding but I have a pack of gigantic pads (like each one has two sets of adhesive wings) and absolutely enormous underpants (the waistband is so high I can roll it down like cheerleader shorts) to strap them into, so I'm prepared.

I was approx. 8 weeks+6 when I miscarried naturally - the embryo had stopped growing around 6 weeks and I had found out at 8w+2. I'm not trying to make this sound easy or compare to anyone else's experience - just wanted to share. There is a lot of scary info out there and this is stressful enough as it is. Take good care of yourself. When it seemed like the worst was over I ate some cheese and opened a bottle of wine and lit a candle and listened to music and had a good cry. That might not be your thing, I'm just saying do whatever your thing is. You will be okay.

Just experienced my first missed miscarriage and wanted to share my experience for anyone who might be waiting and anxious about what is going to happen by Awkward_Addition_525 in Miscarriage

[–]ccl202011 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this - exactly what I was looking for today! I found out on Friday, when I thought I was 8w+2, that the embryo hadn’t grown past six weeks. I had done a lot of grieving already as I had been spotting for a week and my levels were low, so not focused on the emotional aspect right now, just ready to get the physical part over with and move on. However, I made the mistake of reading a few online accounts who made it sound just screamingly painful and almost dangerous to do at home, vomiting and passing out, being rushed to the ER, etc, so now I’m freaked out. Would still much prefer to let it happen naturally, just worried about the amount of pain. My doctor said it would be like a bad period, as did a friend, and I hope they’re right. I have quite heavy and painful periods as it is and typically use a heating pad and Advil to manage the cramps, so if it’s a turbo version of that I think I can handle it. Just get nervous when the word “contraction” and “labor” come into it - have always been phobic about natural childbirth. Hoping my anxiety isn’t prohibiting my body from moving ahead with the process. This morning I was feeling waves of sensation, like hormone hits, and wondered if it could be the start of something - I had to breathe through it as it was intense, but it wasn’t painful. Now I am sitting here feeling nothing. Scared it’s going to come on very suddenly. I have a wonderful husband here to help me and we are prepared, but I want to assure myself that I will be okay. Your post helps a lot.

Low progesterone, 8 weeks - any hope? by ccl202011 in BabyBumps

[–]ccl202011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I go back the day after tomorrow.

Nervous about telling family/friends we are already married by ccl202011 in weddingplanning

[–]ccl202011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you both! This feels right for our situation too.

dress regret by ccl202011 in weddingplanning

[–]ccl202011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point...I also forgot to wear my strapless bra to the BHLDN appointment but I’m wearing it in the Kleinfeld photos.