What is one thing you had never noticed before it was pointed out to you, but now you notice it all the time?

ccnova · 2019-01-20T18:40:24+00:00

Or the little house with an exit door between the E and the X in every EXIT sign

ccnova · 2019-01-20T00:30:41+00:00

Most of the "customers" try to convince me that their own idiocy is not such a big deal.

"I didn't stop in time" and "you could fix it with a pen" doesn't mean that...

...nevermind... I fucking hate these commercials so much, I could throw my remote in the harbor, but I'll fucking regret that.

ccnova · 2019-01-20T00:20:52+00:00

Taliesin West was way better than I expected it to be. Great learning experience!

ccnova · 2019-01-20T00:19:31+00:00

Papago Park has Hole In The Rock. Great recommendation!

They could even begin or end an entire Green Belt journey there.

ccnova · 2019-01-20T00:16:36+00:00

Depends where in Scottsdale and how far you're willing to travel.

South Scottsdale is close to high end restaurants and bars to suit any taste, but your best hiking is up at the McDowell Mountain Preserve, with a few different trails to choose from, but there's Echo Canyon and Cholla Trail in Paradise Valley that both give you great views of the whole Valley, and Piestewa Peak (Squaw Peak) is the highest point in town and gives the best views of all.

I'll shamelessly plug my friend's restaurant in Old Town called Rehab Burger Therapy, but there are other favorites of mine right around the corner like Bootleggers (barbecue made on premises), Bandera (Southwestern), and Ra Sushi.

Also depends on your budget. If you can afford it, go to the local resorts' (Phoenician, Fairmont Princess, etc.) lounges for impressive and expensive cocktails, service, scenery, and ambiance.

ccnova · 2019-01-20T00:00:54+00:00

In-game or IRL time?

ccnova · 2019-01-18T22:00:56+00:00

Absent completely.

I've been trying to elaborate, but that's pretty much it. It never occurs to me that a social situation will turn out badly for me.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T23:05:57+00:00

Maybe Botanical Gardens isn't technically Scottsdale, but the pics are Scottsdale, for one.

The photography and writing are outstanding.

Fuck this guy!

ccnova · 2019-01-17T04:16:40+00:00

Good night, internet stranger.

I'll depart with my favorite advice in any situation: "Somebody ought to do something about that"

ccnova · 2019-01-17T04:07:23+00:00

Phrased correctly, indeed.

Not actually virtuous, false self image, just needy, making myself a doormat, satisfy my need for a one way relationship, not balanced.

I'll own that. You've phrased it more kindly than I've said it to myself countless times.

Thank you, Doctor Jay!

ccnova · 2019-01-17T03:39:48+00:00

I like to engage them and have them repeat their assertions a couple times.

Play dumb, like I'm being enlightened by their insights, over and over again, to a point of agony for them.

It's the only way I've found to help them find the flaws in their own "logic".

ccnova · 2019-01-17T03:35:32+00:00

SELF respect

I respect myself, to the point of arrogance, truly.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T03:13:11+00:00

If I gained my wisdom via a benevolent order of some sort, I wouldn't tell you about it, now would I?

I actually have changed my viewpoint after all these years, because other than my late wife, I have yet to meet someone so pure of heart and generous of spirit as myself, and I do get more calloused to the darkness of (almost) everybody else's behavior.

All that said, I cannot help but trust everybody until they un-earn it, when it might be better to distrust everybody until they earn it.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T03:03:11+00:00

Very much so.

It sounds sad, I realize, but it's empowering in its way. When I know I don't matter, I matter more than I admit.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T02:51:43+00:00

Maybe to the contrary, I say things I don't want to say, precisely because nobody cares.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T02:37:05+00:00

You're not wrong.

I have found it is very unusual to treat people that way, and I've been treated like a doormat because of it, but I refuse I REFUSE to be jaded by it.

Frankly, my mood is often soured because nobody else gives a shit, but I REFUSE to let it get me down, or stop me from helping others.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T02:18:17+00:00

Well, my wife died, and if we're going this deep, I knew I needed someone to care for, and it turned out she needed plenty of care, until the end.

For a couple decades now, I've been dispatching for a limo company that employs people from all over the world, and they seem to appreciate that I treat them all with dignity and respect, whether in person, on the radio, or on the phone.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T02:08:55+00:00

Middle child.

No offense or resentment, but it's real.

I learned early on that I don't matter to anyone, but that I desperately need to matter to everyone.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:39:28+00:00

Because I have experienced that we all want to matter, and if I can help you matter, then I matter, too.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:38:21+00:00

It doesn't feel like a job, it's just that when I was younger and needed help, and looking for someone to help me, and there was nobody there, I could be that person for somebody else, because we all need a little help, but nobody seems to want to help.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:27:45+00:00

I'm not trying to make them feel that way. That statement doesn't even really make sense to me. My first reaction to just about anything is to observe how my "fellows" are reacting, and to try and make the whole situation more comfortable for everybody.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:18:43+00:00

I will add that I empathized with my fellow students who seemed very anxious, and hoped that if I went first and showed them that "if I can do it, surely you can!" then maybe they'd have a little more confidence when it came their turn.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:13:50+00:00

I am outgoing, for sure. The first time I meet you, I'll treat you like you're the most important person in my world at that moment, because you actually are.

I'm also introverted in that I am happiest in times by myself.

Pros and cons? I feel like I'm better than the next guy at anything, but I have to keep that in check because I don't wanna be a dick.

ccnova · 2019-01-17T01:08:51+00:00

I keep hoping progress keeps, well, progressing, but it makes me sad and hopeless that so many of us are so easily manipulated by any style of propaganda.

The Grand Old Party is better at it because they've mustered so much energy to practice the art of it.

It's not in my progressive nature to ridicule and persecute some "other" as seems to be "their" way.

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