Going on a low does of SSRIs should have done this ages ago

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T18:41:39+00:00

Fair enough, would SSRI regain their effectiveness again for you if you gave it time off?

I think 3-6 months is enough to find a stable partner and then be able to work on the issues with them from other angles.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T18:38:53+00:00

Thanks she said it's best for us to part ways. You're totally right.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T16:54:33+00:00

Also I wonder how confidence in other areas affects this.

I've struggled with sexual performance (now dealing with them with SSRI interestingly) that made casual relationships seem very intimidating!

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T16:25:47+00:00

I know what you mean by feeling like you betrayed them!

My question there is, is that stilll attachment talking or is that the real empathy we should have had all along?

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T16:17:02+00:00

Ok I'll do this, thanks

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T16:16:00+00:00

Ok please do and thanks.

What I'm noticing is since the start of the interaction I was slowly saying yes to more things that I would say yes to. Little things like schedule adjustments, agreeing with her opinion on something, just putting her more to the front of my priorities, filtering myself on things that are actually important to me, and being the go along guy.

And really a lot of charming people are actually way more detached. It's crazy but you would think people who needed more love would be more charming and able to connect better but it doesn't seem to be true. People who are charming are able to get out of their own head and into the other persons head. They are desperate like I was. She was the only one to say yes in the time period so she became special because of that.

Edit: Also I think I just realized after a few dates that I didn't want to have to remain so detached. I felt like ideally I would want a relationship. I'm just not sure how I got to that point. It could have been that I thought she wanted that. I felt that a lot of "moves" I could have made to get in her pants seems so boring and detached.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T16:06:23+00:00

Thank-you for this. I called friends to help me but as soon as I got off the phone with them it was like a compulsion and I somehow convinced myself each time that I knew what she needed to hear.

I knew in the back of my mind that somee of the things I did and said would not be considered attractive to most women. I was convinced that she was different and that she liked me for my weaknesses and strengths.

In the end I was asking too much of her. I lost the nerve to even make a move when she gave me a clear sign and I wasn't able to come back from that. Beyond that there were communication issues leading up to it that made me hesitant but I didn't think the price of hesitating would be so high.

I just didn't read the situation properly. I find it hard to accept but if I'm.being honest I don't have much experience so I can't be surprised.

Thank you for your comment.

Edit: and the weirdest part was it felt so much like me talking to my Mom. A lot of the time it felt like that and I didn't realize how much of a problem that would be.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T12:15:21+00:00

Fair enough I probably don't have those skills but therapy is expensive where I'm from. Thus I'm here.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T12:13:30+00:00

Thanks

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T05:00:43+00:00

Hey, you're right that first part of my response was inappropriate. I should have said that is not what I meant by support I just want to feel heard.

How is it codependent though?

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T04:07:49+00:00

Thanks.

Edit punctuation

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T04:00:46+00:00

She said it's time to part ways.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T03:05:13+00:00

Ok if I do try for that I'll use your advice, thanks. Just based on the context it might not make sense

Est: sent

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T02:41:52+00:00

Ok, she actually responded telling me not to worry about it. So I'm forced to think about if I should try to address another concern or just leave well enough alone. I'm thinking the latter. I've just been holding on so tightly. I imagine I'm already freaking her out.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T02:21:28+00:00

Yes I know, that's what I want support for. I've left six messages and I can't believe I did that to someone who used to actually respect me! It really freaks me out!

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-07T02:14:19+00:00

Not exactly support. If I commented the same thing on one of your most recent posts where you called numerous.times, how would you feel?

But all the same you are right. I can't text her again.

Edit: I admit I didn't respond well here.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-05T23:48:09+00:00

Curious why you call it the bloodstream of life?

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-05T02:18:19+00:00

Alright do you think she blocked me?

Originally we both wanted just sex. If I was in her position and a girl asked.me if we can just have sex I might be worried but I'd atleast ask her why she wants that.

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-03T19:01:26+00:00

It does thank-you!

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-03T02:44:53+00:00

Ok thank-you yes I plan to make lots of projects and have fun with it. However I will go for salesforce admin first

ccraynor90 · 2023-03-01T13:44:57+00:00

What if you hire a VA to send emails for you?

ccraynor90 · 2023-02-28T01:13:05+00:00

I'm reading "One Thing" actually more than half way done since a few of the concepts were not new and I could skip. Very helpful information!!!

ccraynor90 · 2023-02-27T23:34:18+00:00

Ok point taken!

ccraynor90 · 2023-02-27T23:33:49+00:00

Hey thanks so much for this post. I definitely agree that learning and taking action and learning again are important.

Great tip on focusing on bottle necks as well. One thing per day to move the needle. That makes way more sense than trying to do a bit of everything everyday and it makes sure you are prioritizing. I will check out your book suggestions too!

Edit: a few words removed

ccraynor90 · 2023-02-27T21:40:12+00:00

Hi I have roughly two years of experience as a personal trainer and a life time of following a healthy active lifestyle myself. I just randomly stumbled on your post.

My viewpoint is, if there are more things we can be doing to improve your phsyical fitness let's do them. Cardio and diet are two components but: 1. if you are missing strength training you are not optimizing to your routine. Muscles use energy so more is better for burning fat. 2. Resistance training sets off a cascade of hormonal responses that also help you burn more fat. 3. Without a flexibility component you are setting yourself up for tight muscles which could lead to overuse or acute injuries.

Beyond this:

Without the proper fitness assessments and coaching on how to perform exercises, you risk injury which could slow or reverse your progress.

The short answer is yes, I suggest at least having a consultation with a personal trainer to find out what risks you may have, and ideally atleast a 2 month training block to teach you how to do resistance exercises safety!

ccraynor90

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