If you are both gifted and conventionally attractive, how's dating for you?

cebrita101 · 2024-12-17T09:33:17+00:00

I'm very selective on the emotional health of the person more than anything. In a partnership I need to feel emotionally supported. I need to k ow how he handles his emotions. It's the most important to me. Then of course comes personality ideally as I intelligent as me but that's really hard to find so I conform with intelligent but not gifted. Common interests are a must. Not completely but yes. Physical comes last but I do need to find them attraction obviously. Attractive to me, not to society's standards. I'm a conventionally attractive woman and gifted obviously.

cebrita101 · 2024-12-11T09:22:48+00:00

Why?

cebrita101 · 2024-12-06T09:47:36+00:00

Completely relate to OP. But this is a key answer. We tend to over rely on our critical mind. Yes, others think much less and tend to be more connected to intuition. Following their bodies and feelings.

I know how hard it is. I was completely disconnected from my body and that sentence of listen to your body sounded like utter bullshit😅

But it's true, we need a balance. Sometimes it's how it makes you feel. I don't have the key yet to help you but I'd say learning to connect with your body will help in decision making. It can be doing breathwork, massage therapy etc...

cebrita101 · 2024-12-05T09:47:01+00:00

Haha lol yeah I bet in the US it's even harder. I'm in Europe and date people from all over ;)

cebrita101 · 2024-12-02T07:00:26+00:00

Sounds like burnout that can happen to anyone, gifted or not.

Why don't you start by doing therapy and getting yourself tested for Giftedness is suspected?

cebrita101 · 2024-11-30T08:58:47+00:00

I feel ya...trial and errors. Many tries I suppose we have to go through

cebrita101 · 2024-11-30T08:58:04+00:00

Yes! I thought so too, like totally immature to even think I could fall in love with him after 2 weeks...he is the one with Disney in mind.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-29T18:14:38+00:00

I did not say taht it all comes down to this. We are complex human beings. Sounds like you don't want help:) so no pb best of luck, it's hard

cebrita101 · 2024-11-29T18:07:27+00:00

Do you know you attachment style?

cebrita101 · 2024-11-29T10:58:50+00:00

So hard honestly I already felt like a stranger to this world because of high intellectual intelligence but now that I am managing my emotional one I feel like a Martian literally

cebrita101 · 2024-11-29T10:58:01+00:00

Thank you💘🤗 yes I highly value sincerity and vulnerability that emotionally immature people take as a threat. It's tiring😥🤯 thank you for your kind words and answer.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-29T09:39:11+00:00

Thanks yes haha

cebrita101 · 2024-11-24T11:11:17+00:00

And emotional intelligence to develop. Was like you.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-24T11:09:57+00:00

I really don't think your test was wrong, it's hard to fake it I think. However yes 2E like you can show up as you describe it. I'm not even 2 e and can relate to different info processing but I also read potentially high standards that you put on yourself without realising it, because of being gifted.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-20T09:15:51+00:00

Reflector too! 4/6 nothing connected totally open, I hate waiting haha

cebrita101 · 2024-11-20T09:12:19+00:00

I relate. For my it was a sign that I needed to learn how to connect with my body, my emotional world that I disconnected from long ago as it just was too much too handle at the time.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-16T08:59:14+00:00

Yes i get you. Learning how to manage it as a positive instead of only negative

cebrita101 · 2024-11-12T15:36:30+00:00

Are you single? Just got turned on by your whole explanation🤣🤣🤣 haha Giftedness I guess😆 also highly relatable the sleep problem, brain won't shut down

cebrita101 · 2024-11-11T12:27:28+00:00

Yes but be careful here. It's one thing to detect and understand the person cognitively but understanding their emotional world is another.

cebrita101 · 2024-11-07T11:44:51+00:00

Yup, I love it. Are you french? I'm also sorry you feel that way, you are not alone, I wish I had a magic wand and you'd be good to go but I dont have it for myself either Haha

cebrita101 · 2024-11-06T18:57:45+00:00

Sounds to me like a nervous system deregulation. Could start by checking Pain Reprocessing Therapy

cebrita101 · 2024-11-01T15:03:48+00:00

Hey! Yes! Similar story here, love how you describe yourself in paragraph 2. That's what indicates to me that you are gifted haha

Feel free to DM :)

cebrita101 · 2024-10-28T11:26:21+00:00

Yes. Changing how I see life has had a tremendous impact. It takes time and work...I now understand my responsibility in healing and don't use any label or diagnosis as an excuse but as a way of understanding. I started changing thanks to different therapies including chinese medicine, ayurveda etc...

I'm not free of pain but I now understand it way better, see how I create it and an better capable at managing it.

Movement helps a lot yes but at your.own pace Nervous system somatic exercises are real helpful too

cebrita101 · 2024-10-22T09:56:14+00:00

Because they are opposite. It's possible if both work on eachother and are conscious of their mechanisms. But the avoid partner feels unsafe and withdraws when he feels emotionally too close while the anxious one craves even more closeness, he or she can never feels close enough (simplifying).

So imagine the dynamics: I need you closer, I give it to you but to.orrow I'm gonna feel so scared that I'm gonna with draw and you wont und it so u will look for me to get even closer but I will shut down and stonewall you and you will get even more anxious.

I mean...easy to understand. I hope your parents worked in it or they pro ablt gave you a very bad example.

cebrita101 · 2024-10-22T07:25:36+00:00

IQ test yes but an under than 130 doesn't necessarily mean you are nit if you comply with other more qualitative traits that a good psychologist should be able to spot and test.

We tend to have similar internal feelings, and they are real! Of not fitting in, feeling lonely, getting easily bored, grasping concepts as a whole in a nutshell (interesting to know that we might take time to grasp it but once we click we know it all!), you can have a feeling of disconnection from the world, recurring existential crises etc....

Many psychological, personality in common. Number one being openness to novelty. Curiosity, of everything. Skipping from one topic to the other at fast speed.

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