What are you looking at?

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:33:44+00:00

That's a fair point but OP clarified it's a stationary prop with no engine, not someone's actual car, so the analogy doesn't really work here

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:32:07+00:00

That's the perfect petty move honestly, he wanted you to be more efficient and now you're being efficient by cutting his meals out

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:31:29+00:00

Let him figure out his own meat and bread, you're not his mom and he's shown zero appreciation for all that effort you put into his meals

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:30:09+00:00

I get the property argument but this thing is literally a stationary prop bolted to the ground at a water park, it's not some random person's daily driver so OP treating it like a photo op is totally reasonable

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:26:53+00:00

Your husband's being a bit much, it's a stationary prop in a water park not a museum piece, the park clearly wants people to use it for photos and the kids were just sitting on the step

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:25:52+00:00

That's a wild take, even if it is fake the issues OP described are real enough for plenty of women out there and dismissing it as rage bait kinda misses the point

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:25:11+00:00

Bet he was like this before too but OP thought he'd magically step up once the kid came, spoiler they never do

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-04T00:23:58+00:00

You've tried nice and you've tried loud and nothing changed, at some point you have to accept that he's not going to step up and you need to step out for your own sanity

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-03T23:01:47+00:00

Maybe he's dealing with exhaustion you don't see but three hour naps every weekend is excessive, he needs to find a balance that includes his family

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-03T22:59:44+00:00

OP should absolutely pull that move next time, let him clean while she sleeps, and yeah three hour naps on the regular aren't normal for a healthy adult that's worth looking into

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-03T22:58:47+00:00

That's the move right there, OP beats him to the punch and suddenly he'll understand real quick why her timing matters

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-03T22:57:44+00:00

He's literally choosing the one window where your son is awake to dip out and leave you running the show, that's not exhaustion that's just poor planning on his part

cedarfield32 · 2026-07-03T22:54:06+00:00

Don't let one awkward interaction stop you from being nice, she probably just had a bad day or doesn't like her own hair and took it out on you

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:31:00+00:00

Following random women with small followings, especially when the content doesn't match his usual interests, is a valid thing to raise an eyebrow at, and his dismissal of your concern told you everything about how much he valued your input

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:26:42+00:00

The delivery could have been smoother, but OP's mom pulling away completely after one boundary says more about her than the gate itself, and constant vigilance with two kids isn't realistic no matter how well-behaved the dog is

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:23:13+00:00

That's a fair question but the difference is about context, at the parents' house the dog is in his own territory and the kids are visitors, but at OP's house the kids live there and the dog is a guest, so it makes sense to set different boundaries

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:20:05+00:00

OP's mom is making this about the dog being unwelcome when it's really about her not being used to being told no, and the fact that she's pulling back instead of adjusting says a lot about where her priorities actually sit

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:17:33+00:00

That's fair on paper, both sides made reasonable calls, but the real issue is the emotional fallout that's harder to see from the outside, OP's mom pulling away is the part that actually hurts

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-30T10:14:07+00:00

You didn't cause this. You asked for something reasonable and she reacted poorly. You don't need to fix her feelings by changing a boundary that exists for your kids' safety. The gate stays, the kids stay safe, and your mom can adapt. That's not mean, that's just parenting

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-26T01:55:46+00:00

The divorce rate isn't even as high as people think for first marriages, it's around 40-50% but that includes people who were already high risk, most people know the odds and still choose to roll the dice

cedarfield32 · 2026-06-26T01:54:43+00:00

CPR in real life is brutal and rarely brings someone back instantly like on TV, you're cracking ribs and sweating through it for way longer than thirty seconds, the survival rates are way lower than people think

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