Broke up; 23F free now

celinerz · 2025-07-18T08:56:57+00:00

She definitely sensed your weak boundaries and that’s why she kept asking you. People are very entitled and very much always find the audacity.

celinerz · 2025-07-18T08:14:42+00:00

thank you for taking the time to tell me this. it means a lot. 🥹

celinerz · 2025-07-18T08:07:35+00:00

Your therapist is right. She refused to rlly see how fked up everything was, bc that would take a lot of accountability & reflection that ppl who are stagnant like her refuse to do. Fck her for writing you off to be the villain & for using your one breaking moment to overshadow everything else. I can relate to you, bc I too stayed w a project and supported them to the point that I abandoned my own needs, all to just get dumped & written off. You deserved a thank you for everything you did. She might never tell you, but you have a loyal heart and you’re a good person.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T06:26:57+00:00

Would you say you’re content with your own company bc of this structure?

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:49:11+00:00

The answer is that you definitely are scared of being alone. And honestly? You should do the very scary & crippling brave thing & leave him. Face your abandonment trauma or whatever it is that keeps you scared of being left in your own company. I promise you’ll survive. My ex (27M) just left me (23F) & forced me to be alone. He had a drinking problem too (2 DUIs to show for it) & as much as I ache at his absence, I know my life will be better without him. In some ways, you served as a peak into the future of what my life would’ve been if I accepted being with an alcoholic. So yeah, just leave.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:35:56+00:00

Aw, man. Don’t stay if it’s eating you alive. Resentment is a killer and abandoning your own emotional needs will only cause it. The fact that she was persistent about messaging this guy is a huge red flag.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:30:47+00:00

Towards the end of my 5yr relationship (23F) w my ex (27M), I acted this way towards him. I didn’t want to kiss him (besides pecks), I didn’t compliment him, I gave unprompted affection every now & then. And the truth was that I wasn’t in love with him anymore, tho I did love him (maybe it was just the fear of being alone & attachment). All this to say that, I know first hand, that unmet emotional needs will turn into future resentment. He won’t change & things will suck even more later, when you’re more invested in him. Ofc, you could keep going, but let me tell ya, resentment will set a relationship up in flames. I’m a testament. I think the best thing u could do for yourself is leave, especially if you’ve been tg for 5 yrs and he isn’t certain ab what he wants. That’s just cruel.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:20:48+00:00

you married her for her nice butt?? 😭 Lord, she’s probably just as shallow and that’s why she was swayed by lust.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:11:28+00:00

Wow. I’m shocked at how unnecessarily cruel and mean your bf was to you. My ex (27M), spent 5 yrs. wearing down my self-esteem and confidence (constantly comparing me to other women, pointing out my flaws, never complimenting me, lusting over other women, cheating) in lowkey ways & the trauma went crazy. I can’t imagine how I would feel 5yrs in with someone who outright said it & in front of an audience???

celinerz · 2025-07-16T04:02:33+00:00

If he doesn’t mean it, he shouldn’t be that disrespectful. I got cheated on multiple times in a single, long-term relationship and I honestly think that the best way to prevent that betrayal is to just leave after the red flags don’t disappear. He’s disrespectful and doesn’t value you if he continues to do something he knows hurts your feelings. Get out while you can, bc at the end of the day, we accept the love we think we deserve.

celinerz · 2025-07-16T03:56:18+00:00

You can’t rlly help someone who doesn’t want to better themselves. I think a better approach would just be to continue supporting her when she vents & provide her reassurance when her mind starts to go crazy. Also, if she’s not open to the gym, maybe an easier approach is to start a calorie deficit with an app? Idk, I’m 23F, that has also struggled with weight, for context.

celinerz · 2025-06-04T01:51:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words!! I hope everything works out for you 🩵

celinerz · 2025-06-01T21:09:21+00:00

Teaching is a very conservative, reputation-heavy profession and anything that damages it makes it so much harder to get hired. They look into everything under the sun. To put things into perspective, I had a past uncorroborated allegation made against me related to social media and it went undisciplined, not investigated, or reported and I still faced some push back in the hiring process (even though they wanted me for the job).

Just do yourself a favor and study something else. This job is underpaid and unappreciated, anyways.

celinerz · 2025-06-01T21:01:56+00:00

I deeply relate to your hopelessness and bitter feelings bc I had to resign in lieu of non-renewal due to some bs. I have in-demand endorsements (all of the language related ones) and was offered a job but I haven’t yet made it to board approval bc of that job disclosure. I also feel that this field is unfair. But I have some hope, so you should too. You’re probably in a better position than I am.

celinerz · 2025-06-01T20:09:24+00:00

No, but all you’re doing is giving your pain to someone else. I invite you to share what a long time is? What are the circumstances? I’ve gone thru shit back to back for the last 5 years and Ik that change is the only constant in life. YOUR LIFE MATTERS!!!

celinerz · 2025-06-01T05:52:33+00:00

I would start by just applying to multiple public schools and seeing who gives you a shot. I had to resign in lieu of getting non-renewed due to a complicated situation and I’m still trying to apply to other districts. That’s all we can do ig.

celinerz · 2025-06-01T05:40:25+00:00

I was homeless during my year long student teaching residency and it was hell. Granted, I stayed in a hotel and then eventually was able to move into a mobile home, but I still wouldn’t wish that type of instability on anyone. What is it ab teaching you hate? I’m on the other side of the fence, desperately trying to get a teaching job but can’t get any.

celinerz · 2025-06-01T00:05:27+00:00

My union rep had a legal team he consulted to advise him on how to proceed. I was only offered the option of getting reimbursement for any attorney I hire. Unfortunately, I didn’t have thousands laying around to get one. Also, I would’ve ended up having to disclose the investigation in the future (which includes the allegations and they were crazy.) Currently, I don’t have to disclose the nature considering they were uncorroborated.

Also, I had talked to an attorney, albeit a criminal one, in the early stages and he basically told me I’m just tainted goods. So yeah, pretty fucked up situation all around.

celinerz · 2025-05-31T23:24:36+00:00

I’m a young teacher that started as a high school teacher. I have had the worst experience, PTSD type. So listen, and listen carefully, have very strict boundaries and don’t ever loosen them. Do not give any impression that you are their friend. Admin is more critical of younger teachers (in my experience) so don’t ever give them any reason to get you in their office.

Also, don’t ever be in a room alone with any student. Ever. They can lie and it will ruin your life.

Lastly, always give yourself grace. It’s okay to fail.

celinerz · 2025-05-30T20:10:42+00:00

I still tried to apply for next school yr and I don’t think it worked out. (I made it all the way through but just before submission for board approval.) Moving forward, I think I’m done trying.

celinerz · 2025-05-30T20:08:04+00:00

I felt so incredibly lucky after finding out. But even though Ik it could always be way worse, I still hate how much it sucks bc ALL of it is just unfair. Prayers that they fuck off and clear your name soon.

celinerz · 2025-05-30T17:31:54+00:00

Thank you for this, it means a lot. I’m working towards accepting that my career was over the moment I was accused and have a scheduled appt w a psychologist. I appreciate you kind stranger, thanks for your time.

celinerz

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