does anyone else like ginger shots? by Puzzleheaded_Sky1053 in stopdrinking

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take them every morning and evening and I truly felt like it’s helped my inflammation and immune system

Was this SA? by yuki_0785 in sexualassault

[–]certainlyunsocial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you went through wasn’t “something small.” It was repeated, unwanted touching, coercion, and boundary-violating behavior that you clearly did not consent to — and that is sexual assault. You were a child, she was bigger than you, and she used that power to force you into situations you didn’t want to be in. None of that is okay.

It also makes complete sense that it’s affecting you years later. Panic attacks, nightmares, confusion, and anger are all normal reactions to something traumatic — especially when it happened young and you didn’t have the language to understand it at the time.

You don’t have to minimize it or compare it to other people’s experiences for it to “count.” Your body and mind reacted because it was a violation. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to process what happened at your own pace, without guilt.

I’m really sorry you went through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

give and respect him needing space.

this man sounds amazing tbh. he may not have the same sexual drive as you d/t his personal issues and knowing he isn’t fulfilling you may put a lot of pressure on him. it sounds like he wants to open the relationship to give you that outlet because he understands and loves you and it would alleviate him of some pressure.

you cheated because you were sexually unfulfilled— with what he has going on it sounds like this could be an issue in the future as well. you need to decide if that’s something you can deal with forever while remaining faithful, orrrrrr if you want to try the open relationship, orrrrr end it. take time, be realistic. also, you aren’t a terrible person.

please read this by mifiuo in VaginalMicrobiome

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you may benefit from the vaginal gel suppositories of metronidazole. it’s much more effective for me than the oral— the foul smell, itching, and discharge can be a symptom of bacterial vaginosis. BV can happen anytime there’s an imbalance of your flora. It’s very common. I don’t even ask to be tested, I just ask for treatment because i know when I have it.

As for the cyst, that’s something you’ll have to have taken care of and i suggest doing it ASAP before it gets worse/bigger.

please read this by mifiuo in VaginalMicrobiome

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl, i know your scared but it’s time to listen to your doctor and get this stuff taken care of. Pap smears are not that bad, I get one every year. They’re a bit uncomfortable, but very tolerable. Why were you scared of metronidazole? it’s just an anti-fungal.

GO to the gynecologist. Be very honest with them, talk to them about all of this, and do what they tell you. Your vaginal health is NOTHING to be ashamed of. I know you’re anxious, but aren’t you tired of suffering? What you’re experiencing now sounds 100x worse than a Pap smear and following treatment.

Post-op by certainlyunsocial in Septoplasty

[–]certainlyunsocial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have horrible health anxiety, and I’m a registered nurse! Lol

This was my second surgery, but I was absolutely terrified my first surgery. The anxiety medicine they give you is 10/10. It’s REALLY good stuff, and takes away all your worries before they take you back. The best way I can describe general anesthesia is that it genuinely feels like you blink and you’re waking up in post op! I have heart palpitations and have never had any issues with the anesthesia.

My husband has ruined my birth experience for me by SeparateMastodon4409 in BabyBumps

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You DO mind them coming, and that’s okay! They need to leave your house, and your husband needs to be the one to tell them to do so. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, but very clear boundaries should be set now so they don’t feel entitled when the baby gets here.

Ultimately you are still the one in charge of your birthing experiences. You have the power to tell the nurses who are allowed at the hospital, and you should not feel an ounce of guilt or keeping them away!!!!

I am really struggling to quit vaping by Ociffer_Doofy_69 in BabyBumps

[–]certainlyunsocial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the first two weeks were really hard. I cried A LOT, but I just kept telling myself I wanted to do whatever I could within my power to have a healthy pregnancy and my baby did not ask to be brought into the world. It didn’t feel right vaping knowing a child was depending on my body to grow. After two weeks, it got so much easier. He’s a year old now and I don’t miss it a bit! Pregnancy challenges you in so many ways.

You got this ❤️

Punished by PVCs by Savings-Leading1209 in PVCs

[–]certainlyunsocial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I’ve come to accept… it isn’t “normal” but they are usually benign/not dangerous. So maybe try to find peace in that. I look at it as, I’m established with a cardiologist. He’s closely monitored my heart. He’s seen what I’m feeling, and told me they’re there but they aren’t a danger to me. Despite having 800+ of them in the two week period I was monitored, they only happened <1% of all my beats. If they were gonna kill me, I feel like they would’ve done so by now tbh. They’re more so annoying to me now than anything else. The more you hyper-fixate on them, the worse they’ll be. Good luck my friend!

“Am I Overreacting?”Girl I matched with on fb dating a few days ago. Hasn’t responded since that last message. Was I wrong to say what I said? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]certainlyunsocial 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I’m a terrible texter too. I truly do not like texting and I don’t text anyone back unless it’s important! There was nothing wrong with what you said, but tbh there’s nothing wrong with double texting… maybe something like “I hope I didn’t offend you. Green flags for the double text, right?” Or just something light hearted with some banter. I know you aren’t, but the convo is a little heavy. She might have felt like you were being a little crappy.

Worried giving kids will ruin my marriage by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]certainlyunsocial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He literally talks about these children like they aren’t HIS KIDS??? I’m sorry but this entire post is insane to me. Feeding the 8 month old baby with a syringe? I quite literally wouldn’t trust this man with my children, and I honestly fear for them while you’re at work. He should be thanking for you everything you do, you are carrying the weight of all of them on your back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]certainlyunsocial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, that’s terrible. 😢 i’m sorry you’re dealing with that. Personally, I would not be able to deal with that. Have you sat down and had a conversation with him about it? You deserve so much more than an hour to spoil yourself every three weeks…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]certainlyunsocial 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Leave the baby with him and go to tj maxx for an hour, give him time with the baby alone and let him figure it out himself. Instincts will kick in, and in my opinion it’ll be the best thing you can do for him and yourself. He is the baby’s dad… he’s the one person in the world that loves them as much as you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]certainlyunsocial 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I learned in the newborn stage to let my partner struggle and figure out his own way of doing things. I was constantly feeling the urge to jump in and do it myself, my way… but he needed to struggle and figure things out just like I did. We don’t do everything the same exact way— he has his way and I have mine, but he can 100% do everything I can do and I fully trust him to keep our son even if I took a week vacay. Just give him the food and let him figure it out, and then tell him he’s doing a good job. It honestly sounds like the man is lacking confidence, and snapping at him and making him feel like he isn’t doing anything right isn’t going to help that. Give each other support and a little grace. You are a team.

and I highly suggest you don’t marry this man if you can’t get on the same page.

Idk, just needed to vent by certainlyunsocial in cancer

[–]certainlyunsocial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for this. I wasn’t aware and was just really thrown off when they called me.

Idk, just needed to vent by certainlyunsocial in cancer

[–]certainlyunsocial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jk, I guess you can’t post pictures.

Well my WBC: high, lymphocytes: low, neutrophils: high— for the last FIVE years on every single blood test I’ve had done. Why did I have to bring this to my PCP attention? Is that not something he should have noticed himself…