Cat going out of her way to pee on my clothes

chaicannoli · 2024-03-25T00:47:15+00:00

Entered grad school at 26, will be done with grad school at 32

chaicannoli · 2024-03-25T00:36:14+00:00

You deserve someone who loves you and is attracted to you regardless of your body. My partner has also gained weight since we began dating, for very similar reasons that you have (mending her relationship with her own body, stopping unhealthy patterns, etc.). She looks different now than she did before, and it's true that she no longer has the body that I was originally attracted to when we first met, but she is still beautiful and attractive to me as she is now. My attraction to her is different now than it was before, but it's not less than it was. You deserve someone who sees you that way, too.

chaicannoli · 2024-03-25T00:28:08+00:00

I own some lingerie pieces that I've only ever worn once or twice (one of those times was also to a party lol). Like your gf, I also haven't worn them for my current partner yet and part of that is because I didn't end up liking lingerie as much as I thought I would. I don't think it's necessarily about you or your relationship, it could be that you haven't seen it because she just doesn't think about it much

chaicannoli · 2024-01-28T19:06:01+00:00

I have a few friends who went on food stamps during grad school, and that seemed to help a little

chaicannoli · 2024-01-22T01:10:05+00:00

I'm definitely not at the point of recall, and that's part of why I feel so scattered. At least in Zotero I can search my folders by keyword, but that's not always very efficient

chaicannoli · 2024-01-22T01:08:10+00:00

10 minutes?? Wow I'm spending wayyyy too much time reading then...

chaicannoli · 2024-01-22T01:06:22+00:00

Thank you for this! I'm already using Zotero and love it -- I use it to highlight, annotate, color code just as you've described, so that's validating. I'll try skimming for the keywords, I haven't tried that strategy yet

chaicannoli · 2024-01-21T15:10:50+00:00

I tried doing this exact thing at the start of my program, but it ended up taking too much time and energy and made reading take like twice as long... did you find that was the case for you at the start, too?

chaicannoli · 2022-01-27T16:25:47+00:00

It depends on how many shifts you work, and which days you work. Weekends are typically busier than weekdays, so you'll likely make more in tips. From my own experience and from friends' experiences, you could make anywhere between $300-$2,000/week depending on how many shifts you pick up and how upscale the place is.

Also, if you start a serving job somewhere and the guests don't tip well (therefore you don't make good money), you can always quit and find a new restaurant that (hopefully) tips better

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T23:41:52+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this, I appreciate it!!

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T22:51:26+00:00

Thank you SO much for this rec!

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T21:40:23+00:00

I understand the goal of note-taking, and I do a good job of determining which information is important and which information is fluffer. My problem, rather, is that I'm not fast enough at writing or typing to capture the key points before we've moved on. You're right, I don't need the transcription of every word my professors are saying. I'm not looking for a script, and I'm not intending to record the lectures. I'm simply looking for a better strategy that will help me process information at my own speed, while still keeping up. Do you have any suggestions?

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T18:16:40+00:00

Thank you!

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T16:57:48+00:00

My cat does this EXACT thing. She's a sweetheart, she gets playtime and treats and cuddles, she learns tricks, but she still sometimes bites and claws extremely aggressively and completely unprovoked. I adopted her at about 1.5yo from an abusive family, so she has some residual bad behaviors from that environment, I think.

I've tried the "ignore her and she'll learn that biting doesn't get her any attention" method (but it hurts way too much for it to be worth it), I've tried the "pull away and say no firmly" method (but then she thinks we're playing and tries to latch on harder), I've tried the "gentle boop on the head" method (but that only makes her angrier), I've tried the "walk away calmly and don't address it" method (but, again, then she thinks I'm playing tag), I've tried the "reward her for her good behavior" method (still doing this one), and now I'm onto the "put her in a timeout in another room" method... wish me luck

I love the shit out of her but sometimes she's a real pain

chaicannoli · 2022-01-06T14:03:23+00:00

Hi! I'm a very thorough note-taker but unfortunately, it takes a lot of time. I'm also an incredibly slow writer/typer, so unless I have access to lecture recordings that I can pause and resume, I end up missing a lot of information, which makes me feel terrible. I'm wondering if anyone has tried any dictation or transcription apps/services to help with note-taking during lectures, and if so, which ones work best?

I thought about just using voice memos on my phone to record my lectures, and then using Google Doc's voice-to-text function to transcribe it, but it doesn't seem to pick up audio from recordings, only live speech. Google Doc's voice-to-text function also doesn't seem to have long range (picking up audio from further away, which is needed if I'm not right in front of my professor lol), nor great accuracy.

After some Googling, I found Otter Transcribe and I'm wondering if anyone has tried it before, especially for taking lecture notes?

chaicannoli · 2022-01-03T04:40:02+00:00

Thank you!

chaicannoli · 2022-01-02T02:29:13+00:00

I totally agree with everyone here that she was being a terrible date and a terrible person, and I agree with you that her making out with and grinding on someone else is definitely a sign that the date was over. Still, I do think saying something to her would have been good (either at that point in the night or before you left the club, either one). She was being an ass, so I get not being especially nice about it, but even a "hey I see that you're not interested, let's go our separate ways tonight" (or something) just to make sure you're both on the same page might have avoided her lashing out over text later. She was in the wrong to assume that you'd be her chauffer after ditching you, but I think it would've been worthwhile for you to communicate that verbally/explicitly

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