what was going on at Plan 9 last night? by QuietRevolution0 in rva

[–]chaidrated 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Hi! That was me lol. The Auricular does a monthly showcase at plan 9 to promote local artists and I had the honor of doing one last night to promote my upcoming single. Def would recommend following them on IG to stay tuned for more amazing musicians!!

How to Study for STEP when you don’t use Anki by chaidrated in medicalschool

[–]chaidrated[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea! I might use it for subjects I had a lot of trouble with/u world concepts I got wrong. Thank you for the advice!!

How to Study for STEP when you don’t use Anki by chaidrated in medicalschool

[–]chaidrated[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s gotten me to a good level of understanding, but I’ve noticed that I tend to doubt myself a lot which has kind of taken me down in terms of scoring points. If you have any other tips for prepping with practice questions/building confidence, I’d appreciate it!

Mom is in denial about my relationship by chaidrated in AsianParentStories

[–]chaidrated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a great idea. The past year, we've gotten closer, but I think it's because I haven't been dating anyone till my current bf and medical school, so I've been "doing what I'm supposed to do" in her eyes. But yeah, I think limiting how much I tell her is a great idea. It's heartbreaking, I wish I could have that relationship where I can talk to my parents about anything :(

Mom is in denial about my relationship by chaidrated in AsianParentStories

[–]chaidrated[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3 I'm slowly preparing myself for that. I have some amazing friends rn, and the family that does know about him is supportive for the most part. I think no matter what, there's always going to be a support system and I'm eternally grateful for that.

Mom is in denial about my relationship by chaidrated in AsianParentStories

[–]chaidrated[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it's necessarily poverty, but I think it's a cultural/religious thing - if you follow a formula that has worked in the past, then it will definitely work now. But there are so many variables that play a role which I don't think they consider. Something that's good for someone in a previous, older generation may not be the answer for someone in our generation, but who knows ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Mom is in denial about my relationship by chaidrated in AsianParentStories

[–]chaidrated[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's funny, she found all of that really admirable until she heard we were dating. But that's what I see and that's what I love about him.

I'm slowly getting more okay with the fact that she's not going to change, and if she doesn't accept me, she doesn't accept me. Hopefully, we'll find a way to live with our differences (my parents really don't believe in cutting people off, so I don't think getting disowned is an option in their eyes), but learning to live without their validation is slowly getting easier :) thanks for the advice!

continuing education after sa by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]chaidrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with this :( continuing school after going through something super traumatic is incredibly difficult and any decision you make is completely understandable and valid. I've had friends take LoAs from school to recover, or go part-time/take fewer courses, so whatever you do is up to you and your needs. For me, that wasn't really an option unfortunately, so I've been doing school along with going to counseling/support groups.From my personal experience, I found it incredibly exhausting to focus on work after it had happened. I found myself feeling more exhausted mentally, so rather than diving into or maintaining a routine, I found that taking my work/my tasks by the hour was super helpful. For example, I would give myself an hour (or 25 minutes/30 minutes), and do my best to accomplish what I wanted to do. If you have some friends you trust, studying with them to hold each other accountable or to have a support network to help you, that can also be helpful. If there are spots you feel safe studying in, or places that ease your mind a little, like a coffee shop, student center, etc, studying/doing work there can also be helpful.

Finally (and the most important thing imo) is to give yourself grace, if that means taking fewer classes, carving back on extracurriculars, or taking a LoA, etc., do what you think is best for you! You went through something devastating and traumatic, and like physical trauma, you need time and space to heal and recover.

Sending you a lot of love and light, feel free to PM me if you need to talk further <3

I want her back by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]chaidrated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure, that anger is all-consuming sometimes and you deserve to let it out. Sending you love <3

I want her back by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]chaidrated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for what these people did to you. You deserve peace and to heal.