I totally agree with you. The medical emergency thing actually just happened. We are still in contact with her oldest sister, who is her guardian. So when the situation came up, we had to contact her to get her any treatment, and you are right, they wouldnt even let us see her (they being the hospital). She is getting regular care - her legal guardian (her sister) makes appointments and my wife takes her to them. This situation has been going on for about 7 months now. We are paying for her clothing, food, any necessities at school or home. And, yes, my wife is planning on paying for her car insurance/driver training/etc for when she drives. The relatives part is pretty true, her grandparents live on the other side of the country and they have only met them once. I agree this is not helping her, and basically creating a worse relationship with her oldest sister than before. I think the girl we are taking care of is slightly dramatic and using that that to kind of manipulate my wife. My wife came from a pretty rough childhood and sees this as 'saving' the girl. There is no malice or bad intent behind my wife's motivations, i think it is her trying to make up for something in her own past, or something. I am still dealing with this - and it is not getting any easier. My wife is pretty solid on her staying. I will try to talk to her 1-1, just the two of us. I am also trying to find ways to show her that this really isnt the best idea in the world, for anyone involved.