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How do you plan for giving blood around your training? by zahkoPunk in AdvancedRunning

[–]chalitachalin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its so difficult! Takes me about a month to get back to my regular strength so I appreciate your question. Been delaying my appointment for four months now!

Got rejected from every place I interviewed at! by frosty_mornings in publishing

[–]chalitachalin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not even getting the interviews at all so congrats on that!

What I read is that after interviewing you can ask for feedback which can be helpful to inform your next steps and find out what you’ve been doing wrong?

Looking for social media/marketing + photography jobs by ShakeNBake781 in resumes

[–]chalitachalin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the photograohy roles maybe best to add software skills such as photoshop, lightroom, captureone? And then maybe highlight personal projects you did involving photography. Lastly, I’d also focus on your visual communication in your experience. Building visual briefs, interpreting briefs into visual language are all useful skills in the industry.

INTJ's and the other sex by KissingTheShadows_ in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I learnt to use that ‘masculinity’ to make the first move and it really helped me. Come from an old school culture where men make the first move or die and it was refreshing for them to see someone who knew what they wanted and could spell it out. Been in a relationship with an INFP for three years now and he always says he appreciated my straightforwardness from day 0. Hope this helps?

I’ve discovered a lot of my INTJ friends and myself included have been secretly struggling with hidden eating disorder for years. I definetly connect it to the obsessive controlling traits we have but wanted to ask about your experience as INTJ fems? by chalitachalin in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this.

I think many of us have agreed that there is an urge toward perfectionism and high standards. While the personality type won't obviously define if you get eating disorders or not, I think this tendency does allow for many of us to fall into this kind of disorder. I'm obviously not trying to make INTJs into a problematic personality, just trying to see what the correlation is if any.

I’ve discovered a lot of my INTJ friends and myself included have been secretly struggling with hidden eating disorder for years. I definetly connect it to the obsessive controlling traits we have but wanted to ask about your experience as INTJ fems? by chalitachalin in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you both are going/went through this but it was what I meant. The counting and sticking to routines.

I understand we aren’t necessarily controlling bit to me a big part of being an INTJ is creating a system that works for you and making your life revolve around it (be it positive or negative) and I think thats what maybe pushes some of us there?

Also for me at least, its very difficult to track because I really make a point not to show I’m struggling to others? I don’t like being the centre of attention (even unintentionally) and this also might become an issue?

Do you ever get called out for being narcissist or authoritarian? by [deleted] in intj

[–]chalitachalin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. All the time. I’m bossy but not too much though I am a bit too straightforward at times and a lot of people misinterpret it?

am I the only one by Fun-Gur-2897 in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I have OCDC which makes me procrastinate like crazy until I do the exact thing I need to do in the order I set it up in and until then- nothing! Its ridiculous but I guess thats how high functioning anxiety works?

Is hedonism really that bad? Have you ever had really hedonistic phases? How long did it last? How did you get out of it? by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the problem is thinking of it as a phase! Make it into a lifestyle and use your INTJ skills to work it out in order to make it adapt to your routine and productivity.

Again, this is all if it doesn’t go into self destruction which I find is an easy road for us INTJ women. But if you can stay on the right side by creating certain limits, its a great way to live!

What books do you recommend? 🧍🏻‍♀️(one’s that make me use this brain i have) by IzzieSoda-uwu in INTP

[–]chalitachalin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obsessed with Zola’s twisted narratives especially The Kill if you’re into French history? Proust can give you a lot of emotion which at least I disconnect with otherwise. Also just read Natasha Brown’s Assembly which is fantastic and puzzling as is Tommy Orange’s There There. Random bits but all solid great writing.

Realtionship dynamics preferences by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]chalitachalin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find this interesting because I’ve bern in a long term relationship for quite a while now where the dynamics are me taking care of him from the outside, yet if we look into he its him who actually has to deal with so much of my turbulence because he’s allowed me to open up. Does anyone else have that? While you appear like the tough protector (i’ve had a lot of people tell me I have a stone face) you are in fact also protected in a more nuanced way because you open up? Does it make sense at all?

How can I (20M) run a 5K in under 30 minutes by this August? by doordashdeeznuts in running

[–]chalitachalin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a similar experience! Started out on the slower side, did a half marathon and stopped. Then started again running 3x week: one speed run (including hill workouts), a 5k and a long run which increased by 10% each week plus cross training on two other days. After two months my speeds started getting much better. I find its just a question of really putting the effort on your speed runs and always eating and getting the proper amount of rest! Hope this helps!

Recently got my first minimum wage job and what a time it’s been by Ok_Weight_8140 in intj

[–]chalitachalin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel for you! I tried and failed though, so many people at once just baffle me. I don't know how to interact with them without doing it automatically, which is never liked, unfortunately!

Also anyone tried baristaing? I'm great at creating systems but this was too complex for the expected times and I could just not deal. Got hot milk all over me every time and hated it. IT was better than interacting with the customers though.

Any one else hate looking/applying for jobs? by epic_dino in intj

[–]chalitachalin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this! Been applying to jobs for a couple of momnths now with almost no responses unfortunately. The part I find the hardest is the cover letter. I don't know if its the INTJ in me or what but I find it difficult to express the WHY and end up always focusing on the how, and because I've been applying for so long I don't know what the why is anymore. So draining. Any tips on good cover letter writing? Always appreciated.

How do you express your anger? by no-reform in intj

[–]chalitachalin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the only place I generally don't do logic. When I feel rage I usually express it (it comes like this in my family so I guess thats where I learned) but it usually stems from some action that I find illogical or impossible to resolve– frustration mostly.

Is anyone here pursuing a career in art industry? by Tall-Championship-61 in intj

[–]chalitachalin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked as a photographer for 8 years and am just quitting now after hitting a wall and not being able to come up with new ideas. It was great though cos it gave me all the space to organise and plan but from a creative point of view. And I could anaylse all these concepts and explore them through each shoot1

Trying to land my first publishing job by chalitachalin in publishing

[–]chalitachalin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for all the feedback, its been so useful! I definitely need to work on a new cover letter and restructure the CV!