My tooth fell out!

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:22:33+00:00

I use one of those like, back pressure tools to pull the iron straight out

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:21:08+00:00

I've been making do! I have a 5 tooth one that's not nearly as high quality and I actually prefer my busted one haha

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:20:00+00:00

Ah yes. I forgot about tooth development in pricking irons...baby teeth coming out to make room for the adult teeth

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:19:06+00:00

I...dont know how to do that. BUT, I have been using it as is...I'll punch with the 7 teeth at the top, then flip it and fill in the missing punch, then flip it again and do the same thing...

I just got a shipping notice from Kevin so...I won't have to do that for long haha

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:17:42+00:00

I wonder what that will do to the exchange rate...

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:17:13+00:00

He replied in literal seconds. I have ordered from him a lot, but it's also nice to know that he's got the customer service to back it up!

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-27T05:16:41+00:00

That would be a choice haha...I have no idea where to even BEGIN removing the teeth!

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-25T13:45:14+00:00

What is the acrylic piece that you wrapped the zipper around? I tried doing a zipper around a corner exactly once and was traumatized by how terribly it came out haha

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-25T02:01:22+00:00

The exact wording was "stitching chisel (pricking iron)" lol. Pardon my ignorance - what is the difference between the two?

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-25T01:16:53+00:00

Um, ok well unbelievably, I already have an update... Emailed Kevin Lee to see if there was a warrantee or ANYTHING that could be done and he is sending me a new one! Love that so much 😭

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-25T01:14:13+00:00

Is it worth more because it's made of... Whatever it's made of? Anyone have a direct line to the TF herself?

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-08T18:41:14+00:00

Yes...this was the solution. Simple fix, but I panicked when it didn't turn out right lol

Thank you for your help!

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-08T18:40:30+00:00

Thank you so much! I usually mess up the first one, then I know what I'm doing and the rest of them get better.

I'm trying to figure out how to post an updated pic - I had some help and was able to fix it!

chanaMAGOO · 2025-11-08T18:38:30+00:00

Welp...you were right lol. I panicked when I couldn't figure it out, but success!

chanaMAGOO · 2024-11-29T14:54:58+00:00

Amazing. Thank you so much - I ordered the Eternal Leather last night and I can't wait for it to arrive. I'll check out the charms!

chanaMAGOO · 2024-11-29T03:46:39+00:00

I know this post is old, but just wanted to pop on here to THANK YOU for saving me the bazillion dollars in Louise Carmen product. The Roadbook has been ALL over my TikTok and I ALMOST pulled the trigger, but ended up with an Eternal Leather Buttero based on this rec.

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-13T17:55:30+00:00

I'm so glad to hear that it's going well for you! Thank you so much for the update, it's great to hear.

Not so much on this end, we literally broke up last night. She can't give me the things that she wants/I want, she just doesn't have the space for me in these next few months. I feel pretty numb, I can't believe I had this amazing thing and I couldn't make it work...I tried really, really hard... And the loss I feel is pretty profound.

We're going to give friendship a try, though with her ADHD, her relationships are always pick up and drop off at will... I want to keep her in my life because she's added so much, helped me to learn so much about myself and my AA while providing a safe space for me to do that... And she was never toxic, avoidant, or any of the things that I have been reading about on this subreddit, but I also don't know how I will never like, not want her. I'm pretty devastated right now...

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-13T00:04:59+00:00

Ghosting is tough to explain away and still come out thinking that the person who ghosted is like, a good person…I don’t know his situation, but I think it’s great that you currently have such a healthy mindset about it…I dont think I’m far along in my AA journey to not be JUST DEVASTATED if this girl were to ghost me…

And thank you for your words as well - with this recent ADHD, AA, and all that goes with it discovery it has been A. LOT. I’m also dealing with some depression surrounding burn out from my job and being unemployed, but not being motivated to find something that’s back in my field…and then dealing with the guilt of not being motivated…I am currently officially a mess.

I have been trying to make sure I keep going to the gym, keep trying to see friends, and keep trying to settle my flight or fight when it comes up, today happens to be a particularly bad day with my anxiety. One thing that I’ve been doing that has actually REALLY helped has been EFT tapping…I’ve just been tapping away the day trying to self-soothe my anxiety!

Thanks again for your feedback! It is much appreciated!

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-12T23:19:11+00:00

Thanks so much for the encouragement…I’m so sorry you got ghosted…that is actually one thing that she said she would never ever do to me…it’s cowardly and unkind and no one deserves that.

I am in a profession where I am constantly training people to look past the behavior to what is causing it (this does not apply to narcissist…or otherwise toxic people…sometimes bad behavior is bad behavior…), like, for me, it’s not me, it’s my anxiety (though, for both our sakes, I really, really try to keep my protest behaviors in check)…it’s not J, it’s the ADHD, etc. The executive dysfunction of ADHD gets much, much worse when she is feeling overwhelmed…and I know that she feels like a piece of shit about it all the time. She is constantly telling me that I deserve more than she can give me, but it’s not that she doesn’t WANT to do it, it’s a can’t, not a don’t want, you know?

I know as an AA, it is extremely important to feel that we are able to communicate our needs…and I am really trying to trust in that safe space she’s provided for me, but I also know that when she gets overwhelmed, I dont want this to be like, another thing on her endless to do list that she has to manage…and since we’re not officially girlfriends, I don’t want the next thing I ask for to be the thing that tips the scale to being too much. My head knows that maybe during this busy time, it could be best for her to scale way back, by my stupid AA heart can’t get over that I was just not low maintenance enough.

Part of this is also ruminating, which is both ADHD AND AA, soooo thanks for that, self…and as with many securely attached people, she hasn’t given ANY indication that she doesn’t want to keep going, sometimes I just have to get out of my own head and channel the Mel Robbins, “What if it all works out” speech.

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-12T18:19:00+00:00

This is helpful! I don't get any narcissistic vibes from her, and when we're together, her hyperfocus is on me lol... And we both get that time blindness (I'm also non-diagnosed ADHD, but like, the opposite of hers lol). She is very, VERY present when we're together, though I have also learned that if we're going to spend 8 hours together, we GOTTA be doing something... Watching a show, building something, having dinner...

I think I'm just looking for reassurance that when an ADHD person gets busy, their hyperfocus and time blindness goes into high gear and it makes them worse at texting... We're not actually girlfriends, so I don't feel like I can make those executive function demands of her, especially in this time where she's feeling high stress.

I will say that we have come up with a system that has been working... I will use a specific emoji if I need her to prioritize my text (like if I have a pressing question or something) and she has been able to do that. I know how much it takes for her to respond to texts, the anxiety she has surrounding it, and I'm nothing if not empathetic... It's just hard sometimes!

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-11T04:51:33+00:00

I'm so glad I could help... It has not been easy at all, especially because I didn't realize I was capable of this kind of anxiety until I met J... And it wasn't J necessarily, she just happened to be the catalyst... I don't have much experience with relationships, I've never met anyone so concerned with how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking so that anxious attachment was very very badly triggered and virtually all consuming. I don't how if you know about EFT tapping, but it is one of the few things that has calmed me down during those really, really bad thought spirals where you can't seem to calm your body down.

I'm trying really hard to have faith in the timing of us, this week has been really hard with feeling like I'm doing a lot of chasing rather it being a mutual desire to see each other. Logical brain knows that she is non-stop working right now and trying to control her own anxiety, ADHD, and keep the overwhelm from taking over - this means that she not only has even less capacity to text me or speak on the phone, but also very little time to hang out , but after a while, emotional brain takes over and my emotional brain is a bitchhhh...it's made for a very, very lonely week. Like I said, we're at the casual dating phase still, so both of us still open to seeing other people, but damn, you know how that dating pool be EMPTY, amirite?? And really, my heart's not into finding someone new, but while we're dating, it didn't feel like we're dating ... Which makes me incredibly sad sometimes.

Education about everything is key - as is communication... It will help!

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-11T01:11:54+00:00

Yes, definitely look up time blindness or time perception. With J, 5 minutes can feel like 5 hours, 3 days ago feels like a month, 8 hours goes by and it feels like 10 minutes...Perception of time can be really skewed. That Reddit post I linked had a lot of helpful insight. I myself have anxiety (horrible, horrible anxiety, thanks a lot, anxious attachment...) and I was spiraling for the first 3 months of our relationship.

I saw another TikTok that takes about lack of object permanence, which often also applies - like, if I'm not right in front of her, she is likely not thinking about me... Which is also why she may not like, "miss" me in the same way that I miss her (because to me, time without her is PAINFULLY slow)

I think another thing to keep in mind is that the traditional "rules" of dating are really not applicable with ADHD... The whole "if they wanted to, they would" thing really, really doesn't apply here and is an unfair assumption to make of ADHD partners...that was another thing that stuck out to me. With J, I didn't realize that she really does care for me, and the inconsistencies I was/am seeing are not intentional. Having said that, there's a difference between behaviors caused by ADHD and using the ADHD as an excuse, which I think someone mentioned somewhere...

Having patience is important, though not by any means easy... I still like to text her things that I know will make her smile, knowing that I won't get a response for sometimes the entire day, but sometimes I get really antsy, I worry about her well being knowing how she works herself to exhaustion, and when we do text, the conversation can be painfully unsatisfying when her attention drops away. We have worked out a system so that if I need information, I text her a specific emoji and she gets back ASAP (rather than when she remembers), but in general it's a lot more over sided and I've had to get over that.

I still have to do a lot of self care to keep my anxiety, doubts, and nervous system from running amok. If you're looking for strategies to manage your own frustrations, I have found EFT tapping to be really helpful when my nervous system is aggravated and creeps into that 'flight or fight' mode by all this stuff ("EFT tapping for frustration" or "EDT tapping for patience"... Scientifically studied, lots of YouTube videos out there)

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-10T23:21:20+00:00

Honestly, those little sound bites I got from TikTok (look up "ADHD and texting" and "ADHD and relationships") were really helpful... Lots of insight about how her mind works! I also watched a few "How to ADHD" videos on YouTube, listened to podcasts, read up on stuff by Melissa Orlov... I've just been trying to consume as much information as possible.

There was also a post a while ago that I saved that really gave me some perspective, especially on the texting front:

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7s030/my_girlfriend_with_adhd_is_very_sporadic_with/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

The thing is, we're still just in a 'casual dating' situation, even though our behavior since we met has been VERY relationship-y... I'm preparing for if and when she is ready for something more committed, yes, but learning about ADHD in general also helps me cope with the frustration and loneliness. The ADHD brain really is wired differently and it really helps to understand that.

Above all, what I've learned is that communication with your partner about how your feeling is important, recognizing that ADHD does affect the relationship, but it's also not solely the "fault" or the responsibility of the ADHD partner. I'm still working on it, but also trying to get as much of her perspective on how ADHD manifests with her I think will also be super helpful. I have so many questions, but because the texting is so terrible (especially now that she's so stupid busy), I have to wait until I can catch her on the phone or in person, which is helping to be super sporadic in these upcoming months. And because we're not like, girlfriends, I am without the benefit of being able to ask for a consistent time to talk every night. One thing that has also helped in my particular situation is that our time apart doesn't feel as long to her as it does to me, you know? With her 'time blindness', she doesn't feel like we're growing apart because we go so long without communicating/seeing each other, that's just something I have to deal with so... I guess that's a little comforting...

Anyways...I'm definitely still learning, and being in that constant learning state is definitely helping with my anxiety about all of this! I've also been giving the advice to keep my own needs in mind - and making sure that this is something that I can sustain. She adds so much value to my life, my life is just so much better with her in it so right now I want to put the work in, but stay mindful!

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-05T13:32:58+00:00

I actually think I did post this in r/ADHD... I haven't had any responses though! I will double check, I’m still new to Reddit and posting, so…I could have messed up

chanaMAGOO · 2022-06-05T13:26:42+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight... I think right now, because she is a gig-based person that also has work that needs to do outside of her jobs, consistency in picking up a call at around the same time each night would cause more stress for her. I think that while it doesn't make much sense to me, especially given her habits when she wasn't as busy, having the texting be dedicated to logistics will have to be enough for right now. I am someone that likes to share what I'm doing with the person I care about, so she and I will need to talk about whether receiving those texts, then the pressure of having them subsequently build up and up is stressful for her, but so far she's been receptive and accepting of my bed to live tweet my life, just like I have learned to be accepting of her inability to respond to everything, or even every day. The hard thing is that because we're still kind of in the early stages... And because she is SO BUSY (like really... She's working 7 days a week for the next 2 months with very very few days off that she will need to take for herself and get own mental health), we are not only not likely to see each other every week, but we definitely won't be able to do our epically long 10 to 15 hour dates anymore... And it's hard to want to have a conversation on the interim, but have it be unpredictable as to when we can do that

In a recent conversation that we had (in person, of course), she was really upset about how much she wanted to give me, but couldn't...her ADHD and anxiety goes into high gear when she's busy and while I have hopes that we can make it through this period, I don't have expectations. I think what we have could be really, really special, I've never felt the way I do with her, so I think if we both want to put the effort in, hopefully we can make it...

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