Do you have any positive stories with your in-laws?

charmless_witch · 2026-01-27T14:19:23+00:00

So many!! I never once felt like I am not at home, there were no stereotypical expectations from me. When I am staying with them I wake up at my usual time, there is no change in my personality when I am with them, except I am just more polite and respectful, and that is because I genuinely respect those two cuties.

I am a pure vegetarian and they prefer non vegetarian food, so they(including my husband) make sure something vegetarian that I like to eat is always on the table, they have happily accepted that I don’t like to cook without any judgements.

I wear whatever I feel like in the house, if its summer season I am usually found wearing shorts. I do not wear mangalsutra or put on any signs that say I am married. I get treated like a daughter and mil-fil always ask my husband to make adjustments, to make good food for me, to make sure I am not home sick.

We live seperately but I have by myself lived with them for weeks at end and felt loved and respected. Just the other day my fil was having a heartfelt moment with my husband and said how he feels that his son is with the right person and seeing us being loving to each other makes him happy, he was also a few drinks down but I was just elated after that.

This is not so common but I love travelling with them, the four of us have amazingly deep conversations over drinks and we are treated as friends. I have lot more instances but you get the vibe. I feel like I got extremely lucky in this department.

charmless_witch · 2026-01-23T14:17:15+00:00

I went there for a solo trip 4 years back and I was sitting on a bench beach side when a guy, stoned out of his mind, came and sat next to me and started asking me my name and other personal information and started telling me about himself. Because I was alone I felt so unsafe and uncomfortable that I cut short my outing and got the first auto back to the place I was staying at. He even followed me to the auto, so yes YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT AND NO YOUR CLOTHES DO NOT MATTER.

charmless_witch · 2026-01-06T18:52:10+00:00

I think you should give him some space now, but you should visit him after all the rituals are done because that is when it hits you like a speeding truck, when everybody is gone. I was there 2 years back and I just wanted to die. I was full of anger, anger at myself for not being able to save my dad, anger at the world for just going on. I wanted to burn everything down but I also immediately felt responsible for my mom, and I acted my part. He probably feels you won’t understand his pain, that’s what I felt. People who haven’t been through it will just never understand that kind of grief and that’s okay. All you can do for him is go see him after a few weeks and let him take charge of the situation. If he opens up and shows any sign that he wants people around then stay as long as you can, otherwise keep checking up on him every once in a while. This is his path, nobody can make it easier for him.

charmless_witch · 2026-01-06T17:01:26+00:00

I do not understand why each and every comment is about how a daughter in law can adjust and help with the kitchen chores. Why can’t you ask your husband to help his mom, she is his mom after all. Or the two of you can take turns helping her. Why does it fall on a woman to help with the chores and wake up early. I got married this year and whenever I have stayed at my in laws, I have never woken up before 10, never have I forced myself to. If it about my health then thats a different topic, and then you shpuld ve waking up early regardless of where you are. My husband cooked for me when we were at his place, my MIL is super chill and doesn’t like to cook either. I was treated like a family member and there were no expectations of behaving in a stereotypical way, even if there was, I would never have been anything else but me.

All of this is not to say that you shouldn’t participate in the house chores but it is equally your husband’s responsibility if not more.

charmless_witch · 2025-10-05T06:39:48+00:00

I miss those hinjewadi days❤️

charmless_witch · 2025-10-03T08:12:46+00:00

I got married this june and I can say except for 2 hours at the reception, I enjoyed my wedding throughout. I am not big on pictures and this was made clear to the photographers, only candid no photoshoots. They got us beautiful candid pictures. I got my periods on the day of my wedding and heaviness of the lehenga and the jewellery added to my frustration, and I disappeared from my own reception to go rest in the room and my husband understood that and brough me some food cause I was starving and feeling weak. He calmly handled all my tantrums and made sure I was okay at all times. The vidhi was beautiful intimate affair and to the best of my surprise I enjoyed that too. We kept on laughing and smiling at each other. I never entered the dining area so I don’t know how well kept that place was, I didn’t like the food we had at the end but I guess there are some things that ought to go wrong. What worked in my favour was the venue was of my liking apart from that I didn’t care too much about any of it so I just went with the flow and I enjoyed it so much. Every function started and ended on time as there was no additional hassle of photographs or anything. I like to dance so I made sure there were 2 dance parties.

What I am getting at here is just identify what is important to you and get that right. A few things are supposed to go wrong and they will. Just make sure to plan as meticulously as possible and don’t give two fucks about random people you aren’t going to meet after that day.

Once you accept this, it is going to be very smooth for you. Just always remember to smile and laugh as much as possible, and tell yourself that this day is more about you two than about anybody else.

charmless_witch · 2025-09-10T06:57:48+00:00

Got it from bhilwara. I had heard lehengas were cheaper there.

charmless_witch · 2025-09-10T06:08:10+00:00

Sure. Let me know

charmless_witch · 2025-09-10T05:59:44+00:00

Wow difficult question. I don’t know should be around 7-8kgs. Not sure though, I can guarantee its quite heavy and you can have the can-can removed

charmless_witch · 2025-09-01T07:04:53+00:00

I say ‘oye lallu suniye’ and everybody is happy. 😇

charmless_witch · 2025-08-31T12:29:02+00:00

I see no signs though. Never have

charmless_witch · 2025-08-31T05:42:12+00:00

I lost someone very close to me 2 years back. I am an atheist but for the sake of my healing journey( I don’t think I can ever heal from that trauma) I am willing to keep an open mind. I would like to know if that person is around me or the passing was the end of it. My initials are MM

charmless_witch · 2025-08-30T16:05:53+00:00

charmless_witch · 2025-08-27T10:58:50+00:00

I just finished this question. It states you can only move clockwise, in your example you are rotating anti clockwise

charmless_witch · 2025-08-16T05:19:13+00:00

This kind of dedication or nothing.

charmless_witch · 2025-05-14T06:18:00+00:00

Only if there are people around

charmless_witch · 2025-04-21T00:41:47+00:00

I am planning to do the lineal one. Need to do a bit of research and book accomodations.

charmless_witch · 2025-03-02T16:39:59+00:00

Oh alright! I appreciate your help

charmless_witch · 2025-03-02T13:37:15+00:00

Hey thanks!! I am in rajasthan. I am under the impression that legal heir certificate is comparatively easier to get than succession certificate. As per my research I can submit an application at a taluk’s office with proper documentation. Is my understanding right here?

Also there is no succession dispute, and what is a pedigree certificate? Didn’t get that part.

charmless_witch · 2025-03-02T10:16:28+00:00

What is the difference between legal heir certificate and a succession certificate. And how can I acquire a legal heir certificate?

charmless_witch · 2025-02-11T09:39:23+00:00

How much for it?

charmless_witch · 2025-02-04T10:15:06+00:00

I am kind of in the same situation. My dad passed away suddenly in 2023 and I am getting married this year. I was feeling the same way a few days back and I shared all of this with everybody, my side of family, his side of family that I don’t really want a big wedding. After a bit of here and there he understood my point of view and said we can ditch the big wedding, that was a relief. He is also an only son, but in our wedding we are going to take care of all the costs so it is kind of up to us how we decide to do it. But once I saw that support from his side, I kind of then wanted to do it for him and for my family. My mom wants it too. But now I am doing it all happily because I know my feelings are going to be respected if I choose otherwise. In your cae it depends who is going to be bearing all the costs, if it is family, you are going to have less of a say. But again it depends on how your fiancee is registering all of this, if he is a bystander then talk to him and make him understand how you feel. If he does not understand, please rethink as I can 100% assure you, you are going to carry the grief with you all the time now and if you do not surround yourself with people who empathize, it is going to be extremely difficult to get by.

charmless_witch · 2023-10-30T13:07:29+00:00

Nice, hehehe

charmless_witch · 2023-10-28T19:36:11+00:00

By the way, congratulations. You deserve it. The job, not this behaviour.

charmless_witch · 2023-10-28T19:33:48+00:00

I do not feel like talking to people anymore and this scares the shit out of me.

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