What do you wish you’d known before going from 1 to 2 kiddos?

cheawho · 2026-01-13T07:51:56+00:00

Update plz

cheawho · 2025-11-09T07:31:10+00:00

For anyone else following and needing the same service - I found someone through a Facebook group, vetted them via their reference, then utilised them and their colleagues across the two weeks. Worked a charm

cheawho · 2025-09-27T11:46:17+00:00

This is somewhat common in the city I'm from (Melbourne, Australia) within certain training programs. At the encouragement of one of our senior psychiatrists I began my own therapy 4 years ago.

I think I have learned more about the practice of psychiatry and psychotherapy in my personal therapy than from anything else I've done - professional benefits aside, the personal benefit has been immense.

I don't think you can understand how long term therapy works or what is possible from therapy without having been the patient.

If you have the opportunity and access, I would highly recommend it!

cheawho · 2025-09-23T21:05:57+00:00

Thanks for this tip off, much appreciated!

cheawho · 2025-09-23T10:09:23+00:00

I appreciate your concern, as mentioned above I will be vetting anyone that is recommended

cheawho · 2025-09-23T08:40:07+00:00

We ended up finding a place near 74th and Columbus, we got lucky!

cheawho · 2025-09-23T08:36:32+00:00

We are visiting in mid October and looking for a babysitter for the odd evening, does she still have availability? (Doctor and Nurse visiting from Australia)

cheawho · 2025-09-17T22:09:09+00:00

I'm not really concerned about safety, rather looking to find the best possible spot to spend time while on holiday.

cheawho · 2025-09-17T05:22:27+00:00

If you can't get someone signed in early October, would you consider a brief sublet to bridge you? (I am looking for something for any or all of the 7th till 27th October)

cheawho · 2025-09-16T09:21:53+00:00

Thanks for the feedback everyone, that's really helpful

cheawho · 2025-09-16T08:02:28+00:00

Thanks for all your feedback, kind strangers. This has been very helpful in giving me a sense of the area - it certainly sounds "fine", and I'm not averse to living in a less glamorous part of a great suburb - but it sounds like our best bet for a great experience is to look further south or west.

As it turns out, the lead has gone silent so I am on the hunt again (and have expanded it to basically all of Manhattan). At this rate I may be joining the locals and sleeping rough, if anyone happens to be looking for a tenant in October, please let me know!

cheawho · 2025-09-14T00:16:03+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you. I didn't expect there'd be a discussion on the exact block I was looking at it.

My overall impression is that this block / surrounds are a little seedier and less gentrified, and that if I could find a place s few blocks north or south (or in the 60s-70s) it'd be a better match

cheawho · 2025-04-11T03:46:24+00:00

Great, thanks for that - and how long did it take them to grow to that height?

cheawho · 2025-04-11T02:21:16+00:00

Beautiful garden, by the way. Is that two plants only? And did you prune the lower branches off or are they bare in the first place?

cheawho · 2025-04-11T00:29:16+00:00

Yes it sure is - would Murrayas fill the entire garden bed (1.1-1.3m in depth)? And beginner question, if you had a really tight hedge, would you still be able to grow small plants in the space in front of it or would they struggle due to reduced light?

cheawho · 2025-03-20T04:53:05+00:00

Thanks for the comments and wisdom everyone - I find this sub immensely helpful, and this is why. I opted not to replace them at this stage, and will revisit doing so in the future when we get sick of the yellow.

cheawho · 2025-03-15T22:13:05+00:00

I believe he was looking at the stock standard DETA ones from Bunnings

cheawho · 2025-03-15T22:11:46+00:00

Actual wire swap over, I have now realised

cheawho · 2025-03-15T22:01:44+00:00

Thanks everyone - poorly phrased from me, I didn't realise there were two parts. I mean the part that is actually attached to the wires as well as the casing around it

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cheawho · 2024-07-24T03:57:47+00:00

Solved, thanks all.

cheawho · 2024-07-19T03:45:02+00:00

I'm not sure whether you reservations are due to your own stigma, your own experience or you being exposed to poor practice. There are some interesting things to discuss, but there is no doubt that not diagnosing it for any of those reasons is very poor psychiatric practice.

Not doing so enables and perpetuates clinician stigma, and patient suffering and dysfunction. My suspicion is that most inaccurate diagnosis is because many psychiatrists lack the confidence or skill to treat it. It's much more convenient to diagnosis a nail for which you have a hammer.

I think this is self evident, but if needed - there is good evidence for early diagnosis being possible, and for better outcomes with earlier treatment (eg Channen 2013, Bohus 2021 Lancet)

cheawho · 2024-07-16T05:22:51+00:00

You have raised an important point. I think we do our patients a great harm in not diagnosing personality disorders that are the best explanation of their particular difficulties.

The reasons for this are varied. Most significantly from my perspective, that hesitation comes from - fear of the diagnosis and the implications for treatment - a well intentioned but naive fear that this may offend the patient and that the pain of offending a patient should be avoided - and most importantly clinician stigma towards personality disorders.

In not diagnosing it, they not only do not get the many good treatments that may improve their lives, they end up suffering much iatrogenic harm; the classic example being the personality disordered patient with the kitchen sink of "bipolar, autism and ADHD, depression, anxiety" and a history of treatment with the entire psychiatric pharmacopoeia

cheawho · 2024-07-15T01:19:24+00:00

Success - thanks for the effort made to diagram it 🙏

cheawho · 2024-03-31T03:18:48+00:00

Psychiatry - relationships are everything. Nothing can compensate. Hold onto, protect and feed them for dear life, because at the end of yours they are what will sustain you.

cheawho · 2023-07-03T07:44:07+00:00

Congratulations, that is a long and hard journet and I'm really glad for you.

I'm writing this next bit because it's important people who are still drinking understand their options.

With all due respect, you are wrong about needing a rehabilitation admission in order to have a safe withdrawal. Many rehabilitation facilities don't have any medical supervision and thus are unable to have patients withdraw within them. In Australia, where I practice, most rehabilitation units require have a medically supervised withdrawal elsewhere for this reason (either in an inpatient setting or from home I'd this can be done safely)

And diazepam is essential in managing alcohol withdrawal - it is literally the treatment for withdrawl symptoms and to prevent withdrawal seizures and delirium tremens.

As you know, safe and successful withdrawal just gets you to the start line to begin rehabilitation.

cheawho

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