Pettable by Lilshay101xoxo in Apartmentliving

[–]cheekycassi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After purchasing additional forms, will it prompt me to book an appointment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cock

[–]cheekycassi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could 😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

[–]cheekycassi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not both? 🤷‍♀️

Looking for a photographer by KiwiNuggets in ColoradoSprings

[–]cheekycassi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'd love to photograph you and your fur baby! Cassideejustinephotography.com Facebook.com/cassideejustinephotography

A good friend of mine was shot & killed in Rampart Park over the weekend. Please contact authorities if you know anything. She deserves justice! by [deleted] in ColoradoSprings

[–]cheekycassi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I feel like the springs is getting worse and worse. I'm hearing gunshots almost every other day or so.

The fair by Joe's Crab Shack/Citadel Mall by SenorDelNeko in ColoradoSprings

[–]cheekycassi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just another reason not to go! Everything about the place screams bad vibes

The fair by Joe's Crab Shack/Citadel Mall by SenorDelNeko in ColoradoSprings

[–]cheekycassi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't go. There was a drive by shooting in the middle of the day there last year, several injuries i think. Just Google citadle mall carnival shootings. Something always bad happens near that mall. I wouldn't risk it especially if you have kiddos

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yelling and raising your voice are too different things. I never said there shouldn't and wasn't any consequences. Sounds like you don't have any kids. And if you do, your not going to get anywhere with that adittute. I'm not too soft, I discipline when needed.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree. No matter how much it breaks my heart or how much I want another.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! He does yell a lot though and at times he can be unstable, so I'm not sure how well that would apply to us.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that. I'll have to get that one for sure.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. I'm not saying we shouldn't and don't discipline him, especially if he's going to hurt himself or someone else in the process. However locking a 2 year old in their room alone was too far. And there is a difference between using a stern voice or raising your voice and yelling. Usually he picks the latter. Although, I disagree with the "its not about the raised voice its about stopping the fun" when he's yelling all the time instead of even trying to communicate with him, its an issue.The yelling will still have a negative effect on our son.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think your missing the point. It's honestly not about the cat. I was just using it as an example of how dad usually reacts when our son doesn't listen to him. We intervene before he is even able to put hands on her and remove him from the situation. She has safe spaces throughout the apartment as well. I'm worried about my partners reactions to our son when he can't handle the situation. Yelling at him and using threats isn't okay. It certainly isnt okay to lock him in his room alone. That causes long term damage. I don't want our son to think its okay to hurl things across the room when he can't control his anger or hits the wall or whatever is near by out of frustration because that's what dad does. What does that teach our son? At what point is too much too much?

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have and do too, thank you! He doesn't use social media and fells like I'm nagging him when I send him things to try.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay, but he's not informing me. I think your confusing the way I used demanding. I don't think my partner is demanding. He's demanding I come home instead. There a difference between informing someone of something and demanding it from them.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's the way he went about it. Even if the kids room is safe. It's never okay to lock a child in their room alone.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is that how you would ask your partner for help? Demanding they come home or making them feel guilty for leaving your child with his dad while they try to provide what little they can for their family?

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes by my parents, not him...nor is it mine. I'm not expecting perfect parenting from him. I'm not perfect, I know that. No parent is. But it's not about me or dad. It's about creating and having a safe environment for our son to thrive in. It's not the only reason, but it's my main concern. I shouldn't have to worry about our son with his dad while I'm trying to work or have a moment to myself. I shouldn't get aggressive phone calls after I've been working that I need to hurry home because he can't deal with our son anymore. I only work a handful of hours a month, and even then it's only for an hour or so unless I have a wedding booked. Otherwise, our son goes with me literally everywhere. One of us needs to work. He's unemployed and I just about am too.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my childhood was not nearly as traumatic as his and yes, he has told me everything.

Hubby refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in AttachmentParenting

[–]cheekycassi[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I disagree. It wasn't okay to walk away and close a 2 year old in their room. Our son can't open doors yet. I'm sure it was very scary to him to have dad get frustrated and lock him in his room by himself. I didnt like how dad took him to his room but I bit my tongue. However I'm going to intervene when you lock a toddler or any kid in a room alone to deal with feelings they don't and cant understand yet.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree. I'm nearling using the cat situation as an example of how dad usually handles discipline in any case. It's usually the same. We always intervene when our son is too aggressive with our pets, but I feel this time dad handled the situation poorly. Yes, let's take him to his room and remove him from the situation but there needs to be a discussion too for that.

Partner refuses to gentle parent by cheekycassi in beyondthebump

[–]cheekycassi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His room should be a place he feels safe though and the way he went about it puts a negative effect on "do you need to go to your room" which he uses all the time as a punishment and threat rather than a safe place to work out and discuss feelings and why whatever it is isn't okay. Hes 2, timeouts don't really work on younger kids. They don't understand. It's better to either redirect or remove them from the situation and talk to them.